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S. Rufus

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S. Rufus, M.A., is a graduate of the University of California, Berkeley, an award-winning journalist whose work has appeaed at Elle, Salon, The Daily Beast and other venues, and — under the byline Anneli Rufus — the author of twelve books including Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself; Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto; Weird Europe; and Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On. Translated into five languages and now in its fourteenth printing, Party of One has been cited as a landmark work on (and for) introverts.

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Recent Posts
Halloween Is Exposure Therapy
Personal Perspective: Halloween functions as a form of exposure therapy, forcing us to face the reality of death in familiar places. How can we make the most of this?
Do We Inhabit an Age of Hate?
Personal Perspective: The prevalence of publicly displayed hatred, mainly via social media, is historically new—and it's changing our sense of being in the world.
Why Some People Feel Like Everything Is a Test

A Personal Perspective: Feeling like everything is a "test" fuels anxiety and drains the true meaning from many moments.

A Personal Perspective: Feeling like everything is a "test" fuels anxiety and drains the true meaning from many moments.

The Conundrum of Childish Adults

Mainstream society expresses tolerance, sympathy and forgiveness toward other types of emotional suffering. Yet such compassion is seldom expressed toward emotional immaturity.

Mainstream society expresses tolerance, sympathy and forgiveness toward other types of emotional suffering. Yet such compassion is seldom expressed toward emotional immaturity.

The Griefs of Childish Adults

Emotional immaturity often stems from deep loss: thresholds never attained and life lessons never learned.

Emotional immaturity often stems from deep loss: thresholds never attained and life lessons never learned.

Why Are Childish Adults Childish?

Rather than simply write off childish adults as lost causes, consider that their inability to face challenges in an adult way might result from childhood pain.

Rather than simply write off childish adults as lost causes, consider that their inability to face challenges in an adult way might result from childhood pain.

Can Childish Adults Ever Grow Up?

Living in an adult's body while feeling incapable of "acting like an adult" can induce shame, anxiety and low self-esteem. But it's not our fault.

Living in an adult's body while feeling incapable of "acting like an adult" can induce shame, anxiety and low self-esteem. But it's not our fault.

Is True Crime Too Trendy?

Personal Perspective: Murders committed by true-crime fans, and social-media discussions about Jeffrey Dahmer's sexiness, spark curiosity about why this trend is booming now.

Personal Perspective: Murders committed by true-crime fans, and social-media discussions about Jeffrey Dahmer's sexiness, spark curiosity about why this trend is booming now.