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Melissa Orlov

About

Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com. Called "one of the foremost experts on how ADHD impacts adult relationships in the world" by Dr. Edward Hallowell, Melissa Orlov is the author of two award-winning books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD (with Nancie Kohlenberger). Melissa is a marriage consultant who helps couples from around the world improve their relationships affected by ADHD with her books, popular phone seminars, and counseling. She has real-life experience with issues surrounding ADHD in relationships, which she uses to help bring the issues couples face to life in a way that motivates progress.

Orlov also teaches therapists to help couples impacted by ADHD and is a contributing author to The Distracted Couple, the first book on the topic specifically for therapists. Her work has been featured in the New York Times and US News and World Report, on CNN, Today, and more.

Orlov is a graduate of Harvard College cum laude. Her hobbies include road biking, singing, and learning the cello.

Books by Melissa Orlov
Recent Posts
Pandemic Emotions: Stage 2 (and 9 Ways to Deal with Them)

In the first weeks, there was anxiety, but also a sense of purpose. Now the emotions are different and, for many, darker.

In the first weeks, there was anxiety, but also a sense of purpose. Now the emotions are different and, for many, darker.

"What You Need to Know Most About Me Today Is…"

A simple conversation can keep you in touch with your partner's positive and negative feelings. Do it daily and improve your relationship forever.

A simple conversation can keep you in touch with your partner's positive and negative feelings. Do it daily and improve your relationship forever.

ADHD, Personal Hygiene, and the COVID-19 Pandemic

Some are scared that they will be the victim of their ADHD partner’s poor hygiene habits or risky behavior. They are correct to be anxious, but there are ways to improve things.

Some are scared that they will be the victim of their ADHD partner’s poor hygiene habits or risky behavior. They are correct to be anxious, but there are ways to improve things.

The Best Valentine's Day Gift You Can Give If You Have ADHD

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for some with ADHD. But their partners are likely to want some version of the same thing. Here are some ideas that can work, even at the last minute.

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for some with ADHD. But their partners are likely to want some version of the same thing. Here are some ideas that can work, even at the last minute.

When Both a Child and Partner Have ADHD but You Don't

A concerned mom from a family with two ADHD and two non-ADHD family members tries to figure out how to keep her family happy and healthy.

A concerned mom from a family with two ADHD and two non-ADHD family members tries to figure out how to keep her family happy and healthy.

Grieving the Relationship You Thought You Had, but Didn't

For many couples impacted by ADHD it's important to grieve the loss of romantic dreams in order to build something stronger and healthier. Here's one way to do it.

For many couples impacted by ADHD it's important to grieve the loss of romantic dreams in order to build something stronger and healthier. Here's one way to do it.

6 Tips for Better Managing Time for Adults with ADHD

Time management is a common area of conflict for ADHD adults and those who love them. ADHD partners may think their partner should just "lighten up" but it's not that simple.

Time management is a common area of conflict for ADHD adults and those who love them. ADHD partners may think their partner should just "lighten up" but it's not that simple.

In Relationships, Imposed Solutions Don’t Last

Frustrated adults are quick to tell their partners what they should be doing in order to get things done more quickly, but it's the wrong choice. Here's why.

Frustrated adults are quick to tell their partners what they should be doing in order to get things done more quickly, but it's the wrong choice. Here's why.

Become an Influencer

Parent-child dynamics in ADHD relationships leave more organized partners in charge, but frustrated that they still aren't getting what they want. Here are 8 tips for getting more.

Parent-child dynamics in ADHD relationships leave more organized partners in charge, but frustrated that they still aren't getting what they want. Here are 8 tips for getting more.

Why Won't My Husband Stop Flirting?

It's not an affair, it's "just flirting." Yet it can hurt nonetheless. What's more, ADHD symptoms can complicate things further. Here are five strategies that can help.

It's not an affair, it's "just flirting." Yet it can hurt nonetheless. What's more, ADHD symptoms can complicate things further. Here are five strategies that can help.