Anxiety
Was That Text You Sent Really Heart-felt or a Manipulation?
Are you as honest and genuine as you think you are ?
Posted February 15, 2017
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Yesterday was Valentine's Day and millions texted..." I love you." But by day's end, many were embroiled in conflict . Some realized while being compelled to send a card that the written romantic sentiments didn't fit their relationship. Many, however, were reacting to texts. When a message is heart-felt, shouldn't the recipient's response time or reaction to your message be irrelevant ? When you send a personal text, do you await the return message, and admit it, become anxious, impatient, or even angry when the response isn't as fast as you desired. Many take disappointment as rejection and can make this process a deal breaker.
Testing in a relationship can occur when you play by your own rules. "If I care, I would do..." The other person flunks a exam that they didn't even know they were taking because they don't do things the way you do. Some don't respond to your text for a variety of reasons.
If you are sending a text because what you are saying is really heart-felt, the recipients response should not matter.You are giving them a present of sorts. If your sending it, only so you can get something in return, admit it, you are being manipulative.
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