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Means and Consciousness

Constant means and reality.

The word “means” is defined as, “an action or system by which a result is about.” It’s also defined as, “a method, a manner, a way, or a process.” Lastly, the word “means” is also defined as, “resources, money, capital, or income.”

These broad definitions of the word “means” may not be useful unless we make the distinction between means that are constant and means that are variables. Means that are variables are just that; they vary, they change, and will have one value today and a different one tomorrow. The value of $10,000 today was not the same as $10,000 20 years ago. The car we buy today depreciates the minute we drive it off the dealership lot [1], while the house we buy today will likely cost more one year from now.

There are also constant means. Constant means are those means that are changeless, that are timeless, that are spaceless, and that remains the same no matter what. Constant means do not change because they are rooted in Reality; they are not made up, and they are not part of Illusion-Based Thinking. Constant means are “constant” because they are rooted in Truth, which makes them universal, with no boundaries, and they are not limited by events, situations, circumstances, age, gender, socio-economic status, or who we know.

What are constant means? What are changeless means? What are limitless means?

  1. Truth
  2. Power
  3. Safety
  4. Security
  5. Health
  6. Wellness
  7. Well-being
  8. Ease
  9. Comfort
  10. Energy
  11. Resilience
  12. Flexibility
  13. Endurance
  14. Strength
  15. Vitality
  16. Aliveness
  17. Love
  18. Forgiveness
  19. Happiness
  20. Peace
  21. Joy
  22. Freedom
  23. Growth
  24. Progress
  25. Self-expressing
  26. Modeling
  27. Variety
  28. Harmony
  29. Abundance
  30. Courage
  31. Neutrality
  32. Oneness
  33. Wholeness
  34. Perfection
  35. Completion
  36. Fulfillment

How many of these means can we say we experience on a consistent basis? Is it even possible for us to experience them consistently? Or, do they simply belong to a select group of people? These means indeed are expressed consistently in a very select group of people; but not because only a select group of people can experience them consistently; rather, because only a select group of people get to express them. The question is then why?

And here is why:

Variable means are variable because they are not part of Reality-Based Thinking. We invent variable means for us to use and because they serve us, yet we have become their servants instead. For example, social media [2], like Facebook, seems to no longer be a tool for us to use; rather, something that runs our lives, something that enslaves us, something to get depressed over or about. How many likes did we get? How are we comparing with our friends who are also posting? We have invented means to make our life more efficient; yet these means have been eating up most of our time. Television, smartphones, all the apps on our phone or on our computer: We invent them and we decide to make them essential in our life or not. We get to choose. Isn’t it great news that these types of means are simply variable, not constant, and are only there for a limited amount of time?

Indeed, we now barely hear about MySpace. Facebook was threatened by Instagram — so threatened, in fact, that they bought Instagram for $1 billion and then kept Kevin Systrom, the Instagram founder, on to run it [3]. Cars, planes, boats — they all have helped us travel faster. But, in June 2019, there were over 19,000 car accidents in NY alone [4]; and 1.25 million people die in car crashes each year [5].

None of this is either good or bad. All this is to remind ourselves of some of the key differences between what variable means and what constant means are. Having seen some additional differences, it may become more evident to us that we have not been raised in such a way where we were taught that there is such a thing between variable means and constant means. We grew up learning that what really matters are these variable means and nothing else.

All this is due to the type of thinking we all grew up with, Illusory-Based Thinking, which means we are not able to see Reality, which therefore means we are unable to see the means that are constant. What’s worse is that we may think we are seeing Reality, but what we are perceiving is a distorted view of Reality.

One of the biggest examples is love; what we think it really is, what it really means, and what does it really look like. When we start to learn what love really is, we realize that the definition or the description of love when operating from Illusion-Based Thinking is totally different from when operating from Reality. As long as we are not seeing Reality, we are unable to see the means that truly make a difference-the Constant means. And without our ability to see the constant means, regardless of how many variable means we have, suffering will be the norm.

Now what to do:

  1. Take a look at each of the above 36 means (which are the Real means, the Constant means).
  2. Spend some time on each of them and ask yourself: “How much of this means do I embody?”
  3. What may be blocking me from being this means?
  4. What does it take for me to stop interfering with the process of my true nature, which is a combination of all these constant means?
  5. What does it take for me to experience each and every one of these above 36 means in a consistent manner?

More importantly, once you have managed the above five inquiries, and have implemented the outcomes of the exploration of your life, will you agree that this is a level of consciousness worth sharing?

References

[1] “Why Does a New Car Lose Value After It's Driven off the Lot?” CarsDirect, www.carsdirect.com/used-car-prices/why-does-a-new-car-lose-value-after-….

[2] Kung, Michael. “Social Media as Social Control.” Medium, I. M. H. O., 22 Oct. 2013, medium.com/i-m-h-o/social-media-as-social-control-dcf223184bd.

[3] Evelyn. “Facebook Buys Instagram for $1 Billion.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 9 Apr. 2012, dealbook.nytimes.com/2012/04/09/facebook-buys-instagram-for-1-billion/.

[4] “New York Car Accident Statistics.” Rosenbaum & Rosenbaum, P.C., 3 Jan. 2021, www.rosenbaumnylaw.com/new-york-car-accident-lawyer/statistics/.

[5] “Car Crash Statistics [2020].” Best Online Traffic School, 8 Jan. 2021, www.bestonlinetrafficschool.co/car-crash-statistics/#:~:text=This%20mea….

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