Loving Through Your Differences

It's not enough just to know about new concepts and skills to cope with conflict. You need enough practice so you can use them under fire.

Friends

Are You Afraid of Conflicts?

James L Creighton Ph.D. on February 29, 2020

Are you afraid of conflict? Does it threaten you when there are other emotional realities than yours? Being exposed to other realities is a way of learning about your own.

Are you afraid of conflict? Does it threaten you when there are other emotional realities than yours? Being exposed to other realities is a way of learning about your own.

Do you ever feel like you become a different person during an argument? Or is the person you are fighting with not the same person with whom you began the fight?

Self-Talk

Change Your Self-Talk

James L Creighton Ph.D. on November 5, 2019

Is your self-talk all negative? Reprogram your self-talk to open up new parts of your self.

Is your self-talk all negative? Reprogram your self-talk to open up new parts of your self.

Your life story is just that: a story. The stories you choose communicate the frame within which you view your life. Changing your life story may open up new possibilities.

Friends

Reframing Your Way out of Old Arguments

James L Creighton Ph.D. on July 26, 2019

Do you find yourself in the same old fights, year after year? It's time for you and your partner to change your frames.

Do you find yourself in the same old fights, year after year? It's time for you and your partner to change your frames.

Arguments about child-reading, spending money, or even sex are usually arguments about values. And those are some of the most difficult to resolve.

Relationships

How to Find a Solution After an Argument

James L Creighton Ph.D. on May 19, 2019

When a fight is over, there are still practical problems to solve. How can you find mutual agreement without starting the fight all over again?

When a fight is over, there are still practical problems to solve. How can you find mutual agreement without starting the fight all over again?

Education

Avoiding Escalation

James L Creighton Ph.D. on April 10, 2019

Learn to identify behaviors that make fights escalate. Set rules to protect the relationship even when in conflict.

Learn to identify behaviors that make fights escalate. Set rules to protect the relationship even when in conflict.

Resistance breeds resistance. Learn listening skills that communicate acceptance even when there is disagreement,

Relationships

Taking Responsibility for How You Share Your Feelings

James L Creighton Ph.D. on February 13, 2019

Here are basic skills and approaches to resolve differences with your loved one. How can you send feelings in a way that reduces defensiveness and helps you gain insight?

Here are basic skills and approaches to resolve differences with your loved one. How can you send feelings in a way that reduces defensiveness and helps you gain insight?

Relationships

Resolving Conflict in a Relationship

James L Creighton Ph.D. on January 9, 2019

Each of us has a "separate reality." This is a reason we fight so much, but fights based on separate realities are particularly hard to resolve.

Each of us has a "separate reality." This is a reason we fight so much, but fights based on separate realities are particularly hard to resolve.