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Important Lessons and Teachings from Winnie Pooh

Owls are not the only wise creatures in the Hundred Acre Woods.

A.A. Milne’s beloved books chronicling the adventures of Christopher Robin and his animal friends have become a staple in every children’s bedroom, but the lessons the residents of the Hundred Acre Wood learn are evergreen. We can learn from them no matter what age we are.

On motivation and success: “You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”

Although we cannot control other individual’s actions or words, we are in control of our choices, our goals, our actions, and our words. If we want something in life, no matter if it is big or small, we must make an effort to achieve it. If we want to befriend someone, we must reach out, if we want a certain job, we must apply for that job or if we want to find the love of our lives, we must get out into the dating world. We will not accomplish anything in life if we sit in the corner of our forest.

On gratitude: “Piglet noticed that even though he had a very small heart, it could hold a rather large amount of gratitude.”

Studies have shown that those who express gratitude on a regular basis have a higher level of overall happiness. Expressing gratitude for your health, your family or the ability to be alive another day can increase your overall happiness, regardless of your material mark in society.

On friendship: "A day without a friend is like a pot without a single drop of honey left inside."

Friends are some of life’s most precious gifts and the older we get, the more we tend to realize the importance of friendships. Friendships require time, patience, sacrifice, effort, and love. It is easier to drift apart than it is to stay together but without friends, your life can seem very empty.

On kindness: “A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.”

Kindness is one of the only free things we can give to others that also makes us feel good. Kindness can break the barrier against bullying, crush the stigma surrounding mental health disorders and can literally improve someone’s day. Whether it is giving someone a compliment, buying lunch for a friend, giving a hug to a coworker, letting go of grudges and forgiving others; kindness can go a long way.

On judging others: “Weeds are flowers too, once you get to know them.”

We are so quick to judge. We often hold false beliefs about our neighbors, our co-workers, and individuals in our communities or our mutual friends before we actually take the time to truly get to know someone. That grumpy neighbor can be the kindest person, once you get to know him or your impatient coworker can actually be a fun person outside of work but maybe he is under a lot of work-related stress at the office. Take time to get to know others, don’t judge people based on first impressions and imagine how many more friends you could have if you keep an open mind.

On patience: “I was just sitting here enjoying the company. Plants got a lot to say if you take the time to listen”

We live in a fast-paced society and we are always rushing: rushing to get to work, rushing to get home from work, rushing to buy our groceries, rushing through dinner so we can watch television and rushing through our chore list. Imagine what will happen if you stop rushing and take time to actually experience the mundane things in life? Slow down, talk to people, look around you and enjoy the moments because time is the only thing that you will never get back in life.

On love: “How do you spell love? You don’t spell it, you feel it.”

In a world riddled by divorce, abuse and unhappiness, if you are lucky enough to find true love then stay with it. Fight for it, embrace it, nurture it, be patient with it, and always feel it.

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