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Boundaries Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

How comfortable are you at setting limits with others?

Everyone needs to be able to say “no.” No is not always negative; boundaries are necessary for meeting your goals, preserving mental well-being, and avoiding exploitation by others. How comfortable you are respecting your own needs strongly influences your self-respect, your happiness, and the quality of all your relationships.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how often the statement applies to you.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I want to say no to others more often than I usually do.
Disagree
Agree
2. I often put others' needs ahead of my own.
Disagree
Agree
3. I feel comfortable stating ground rules for relationships
Disagree
Agree
4. I do not like saying no because it can lead to conflict.
Disagree
Agree
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5. I let others know when they have violated my boundaries.
Disagree
Agree
6. I prioritize my own needs whenever necessary.
Disagree
Agree
7. When necessary, I can turn down others' requests of me.
Disagree
Agree
8. It is sometimes necessary to say no when I want to say yes.
Disagree
Agree
9. I please other people even if it makes me feel resentful.
Disagree
Agree
10. I generally know what I want from the people in my life
Disagree
Agree
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11. I do not give in when someone pushes against a boundary I set.
Disagree
Agree
12. I can say no to others without offering an explanation.
Disagree
Agree
13. When someone violates a boundary I have set, I follow through with any pre-established consequences.
Disagree
Agree
14. It’s OK if people don’t like me because I’ve held firm to a decision.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I can handle strong emotional reactions from others.
Disagree
Agree
16. Others often take advantage of my good nature.
Disagree
Agree
17. I feel good when I stick to the lines I draw with others.
Disagree
Agree
18. I am comfortable telling other people when they've crossed a line with me.
Disagree
Agree
19. I say no to others when what is asked conflicts with my goals for myself
Disagree
Agree
20. I do not tell people when they ask for more than I can give.
Disagree
Agree

Who Is This Boundaries Test For?

This test is for anyone curious about setting boundaries with others or concerned that they may have some difficulties setting limits. This test is designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic.

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Get Help for Setting Boundaries

If you think difficulties in setting boundaries are limiting you personally or professionally, you can speak to a mental health professional about ways to actively address them. You can find someone in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Sills, Judith, Ph.D. The Power of No, Psychology Today, November 2013.

Pfafman, T.. Assertiveness. In: Zeigler-Hill, V., Shackelford, T.K. (eds) Encyclopedia of Personality and Individual Differences. Springer, Cham.

RJ Thomson and H Berenbaum. Adaptive and aggressive assertiveness scales, Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment.