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How Couples Can Deal With Sexual Rejection Better

Boris Herzberg on October 24, 2024

Explore the nature of sexual rejection, how to communicate through the emotional pain it causes, and how to address the issue compassionately, not angrily.

Explore the nature of sexual rejection, how to communicate through the emotional pain it causes, and how to address the issue compassionately, not angrily.

Low Sexual Desire
Dealing With a Sexless Relationship

Boris Herzberg on September 9, 2024

Low sexual desire is a common cause of dissatisfaction in sex life. Discover the two types of factors that cause it—external and relationship-based—and how to approach each.

Low sexual desire is a common cause of dissatisfaction in sex life. Discover the two types of factors that cause it—external and relationship-based—and how to approach each.

Grief
Dealing With Emotional Aspects of Being a Replacement Child

Boris Herzberg on July 26, 2024

"Replacement children," born to fill the void of a lost sibling, often struggle. Discover their journey to separate from imposed identities and find their true selves.

"Replacement children," born to fill the void of a lost sibling, often struggle. Discover their journey to separate from imposed identities and find their true selves.

Shame
The Persistence of Traumatic Childhood Shame

Boris Herzberg on July 23, 2024

Shame can be one of the toughest emotions to face. Explore how childhood traumatic shame shapes adult relationships and how reminiscent situations help it retain its hold.

Shame can be one of the toughest emotions to face. Explore how childhood traumatic shame shapes adult relationships and how reminiscent situations help it retain its hold.

Anger
How Emotions Hide From Us and Fool Us

Boris Herzberg on July 9, 2024

Secondary emotions can emerge and act as a defense against our real emotions. Explore the true feelings behind anger, shame, anxiety, and more.

Secondary emotions can emerge and act as a defense against our real emotions. Explore the true feelings behind anger, shame, anxiety, and more.

Narcissism
Parental Envy: The Silent Thief of Joy and Fulfillment

Boris Herzberg on June 15, 2024

Narcissistic parental envy harms children and leads to attachment wounds, unfulfilled ambitions, and a lack of joy in life. What drives parents and how to deal with it?

Narcissistic parental envy harms children and leads to attachment wounds, unfulfilled ambitions, and a lack of joy in life. What drives parents and how to deal with it?

Therapy
6 Common Fears About Starting Therapy

Boris Herzberg on June 6, 2024

Starting therapy can be daunting. Strong feelings, discomfort, and doubt are normal. Here’s what you need to know for a smoother journey.

Starting therapy can be daunting. Strong feelings, discomfort, and doubt are normal. Here’s what you need to know for a smoother journey.

Gaslighting
11 Warning Signs of Gaslighting

Boris Herzberg on April 1, 2024

Discover the insidious signs of gaslighting, such as erosion of respect, violating agreement, and more. Learn how to protect yourself from manipulative behavior in relationships.

Discover the insidious signs of gaslighting, such as erosion of respect, violating agreement, and more. Learn how to protect yourself from manipulative behavior in relationships.

Depression
Not Just Sadness: Decomposing Depression

Boris Herzberg on March 27, 2024

There are non-obvious constituents of depression beyond mere sadness. Indeed, repressed anger can play a role in ongoing depression. Here's how.

There are non-obvious constituents of depression beyond mere sadness. Indeed, repressed anger can play a role in ongoing depression. Here's how.

Anger
What It Means When a Partner Screams

Boris Herzberg on February 9, 2024

Understanding screaming in relationships: what's the partner saying, and what secondary emotion is expressed.

Understanding screaming in relationships: what's the partner saying, and what secondary emotion is expressed.

Anger
4 Tips on Managing Anger in a Relationship

Boris Herzberg on December 29, 2023

Discover the transformative power of anger in relationships through turning it into a dialogue, saying No, turning it into constructive force and addressing its origins together.

Discover the transformative power of anger in relationships through turning it into a dialogue, saying No, turning it into constructive force and addressing its origins together.

Narcissism
The Complexities of Dating the Children of Narcissists

Boris Herzberg on November 17, 2023

Explore the intricate dynamics of relationships with adults raised by narcissistic parents. Learn how to overcome challenges and build stronger, healthier connections.

Explore the intricate dynamics of relationships with adults raised by narcissistic parents. Learn how to overcome challenges and build stronger, healthier connections.

Relationships
4 Types of Relationship Silence and the Trouble They Cause

Boris Herzberg on October 29, 2023

Silence, often underestimated, holds tremendous power within relationships. Explore how it conceals conflicts and tensions, and discover how to deal with its complexities.

Silence, often underestimated, holds tremendous power within relationships. Explore how it conceals conflicts and tensions, and discover how to deal with its complexities.

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The Perfectionism Trap

When we fall prey to perfectionism, we think we’re honorably aspiring to be our very best, but often we’re really just setting ourselves up for failure, as perfection is impossible and its pursuit inevitably backfires.

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