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Ilene A. Serlin Ph.D.
Ilene A. Serlin Ph.D.
Relationships

Co-Creating the Beloved: Happy Valentine’s Day

“Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being."

What an unpoetic title—straight from Silicon Valley, or “co-creating wealth”.

How is this?

“Gamble everything for love,
if you’re a true human being.

If not, leave this gathering.
Half-heartedness doesn’t reach
into majesty. You set out
to find God, but then you keep
stopping for long periods
at mean-spirited roadhouses

“On Gambling”, Rumi

Love and the Psyche
Source: Love and the Psyche

1) IS THIS “THE ONE”?

So often I hear in my office: “I want the butterflies again….this is different, how can I know if it is ‘The One.’”

There is a time for butterflies
And a time for heart-stopping moments
And a time for incredible beauty

And there is also a time to discover the unique perfection of each partner
No passion, no loyalty, no trust is the same.

Find the particular, unique blessings of each kind of love…

Then cherish it.
Amplify it.
Find your King and Queen in the other.
Co-create the magic of a perfect lover.

2) WHAT IF I HAVE NOBODY?

It is sometimes said that we crave, more than being loved, the experience of loving. Of that full-heart abundance of generosity and good-will we call love.

So, love! Love who IS close to you, who is loving you…..love and cherish all the loved ones around you. You may feel the circle of love expanding out into the world and your community. Find your inner abundance, open your heart to even more love.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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About the Author
Ilene A. Serlin Ph.D.

Ilene Serlin, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the founder and director of Union Street Health Associates and the Arts Medicine Program at California Pacific Medical Center.

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