Finding Spiritual Support When You Have Cancer

Source: Dr. Wayne Jonas

It seems like the cancer team addressed everything. Cancer stage, treatment options, side effects, what to eat, and where to find a support group.

Or did they?

Cancer is not just a physical illness. It affects your mind and spirit, too. “What if … why did I get this? Did I cause it?” It also brings the unwelcome guest that Ray Wadlow, MD, of the Inova Schor Cancer Center calls “existential dread.”

The side effect no one talks about

This cancer side effect touches your spirit. You may find yourself asking, “If I don’t survive, did my life mean anything?” Some people have dreams about being on death row, facing execution. Friends, family, and health care team members may rally around, but you are the one who has a life-threatening disease.

If you want to talk about spiritual issues with your doctor or health care team, you’re not alone. But your team may not be sure it’s OK to address these deep questions and fears. They may not want to offend you or invade your privacy. But if you ask about spiritual support, it’s likely to be readily available.

Finding spiritual cancer care

You don’t have to follow a specific faith to find spiritual support. Asking your oncologist, a nurse or physician assistant, or the social worker on your cancer care team can help you find resources connected to your community, cancer center, or clinic.

If you are in the hospital, ask for a visit or call from a chaplain. Chaplains are spiritual counselors who have specific training in working with people who are sick, their family members, and health care providers. If you practice a religion, you can ask for a chaplain from your own faith or someone familiar with it. Many chaplains are “interfaith,” able and willing to work with people from all backgrounds with respect and care.

If you’re already connected spiritually

You may already belong to a religious or spiritual community when you learn you have cancer. Now may be the time to lean on your community members. Many organizations have meal trains, prayer chains or circles, and supportive rituals that can help. Your faith leader may visit you in the hospital virtually or in person.

Resist the idea that you should keep up perfect religious observance when you feel sick. Even the most loving spiritual communities can pressure their members. Also, understand that it’s OK to drop some commitments. You may need to step back from a volunteer position for a time to keep your mind, body, and spirit in balance during treatment.