Infidelity Therapists in Palmerston North

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Retr-ACT! Retroactive Jealousy Support
Verified Verified
Palmerston North 4471
We provide online consultations for anyone distressed and obsessed by their partner's sexual and/or romantic past (Retroactive Jealousy). We also specialize in work with sex addiction, HSB and MAP issues.
We provide online consultations for anyone distressed and obsessed by their partner's sexual and/or romantic past (Retroactive Jealousy). We also specialize in work with sex addiction, HSB and MAP issues.
0800 627 003 x63 View 0800 627 003 x63
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Claire Thompson
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Palmerston North 4410
Face to face (Auckland), online and phone appointments are available NZ and world wide.
Face to face (Auckland), online and phone appointments are available NZ and world wide.
0800 627 003 x95 View 0800 627 003 x95
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Anne Kemp
Counsellor, MA, MNZAC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Palmerston North 4414
My focus as a counsellor is providing a safe space where you can feel free to express yourself without fear of judgment no matter what issue brought you to counselling. I understand how personal the decision to seek counselling can be, and my goal is to help you feel heard, respected, and understood throughout our journey together. In our sessions, I will listen attentively and empathize deeply with any challenges or difficulties you may be facing. Together, we will work towards a deeper understanding of your experiences and develop a plan to help you make sense of the world around you.
My focus as a counsellor is providing a safe space where you can feel free to express yourself without fear of judgment no matter what issue brought you to counselling. I understand how personal the decision to seek counselling can be, and my goal is to help you feel heard, respected, and understood throughout our journey together. In our sessions, I will listen attentively and empathize deeply with any challenges or difficulties you may be facing. Together, we will work towards a deeper understanding of your experiences and develop a plan to help you make sense of the world around you.
0800 447 359 x30 View 0800 447 359 x30

Online Therapists

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Serafin Upton
Counsellor
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
Serafin Upton - Love and relationship science, no sweeteners, plenty of moxie. Providing specialist relationship therapy for individuals, couples, and families. Qualified sex and relationship therapist - Infidelity and Betrayal - Queer Relationships / Relationship Anarchy/ Polyamory/ Open Relationships/ Kink - Neurodiversity - Autism - ADHD / Sex Addiction / Pornography / Intergenerational trauma.
Serafin Upton - Love and relationship science, no sweeteners, plenty of moxie. Providing specialist relationship therapy for individuals, couples, and families. Qualified sex and relationship therapist - Infidelity and Betrayal - Queer Relationships / Relationship Anarchy/ Polyamory/ Open Relationships/ Kink - Neurodiversity - Autism - ADHD / Sex Addiction / Pornography / Intergenerational trauma.
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Julie Routier
Counsellor
Verified Verified
Lower Hutt 5012
I am a Holistic Counsellor, an Intuitive & a spiritual mentor. My spiritual awareness and my background in the field of health have benefitted my appreciation for both tangible and mystical perceptions when it comes to physical and mental wellbeing. The transformation & sacred journey I will take you on will enable you to reach wellbeing by liberating yourself from traumas, conditioning, and self-limiting beliefs rooted in past experiences that are no longer serving you. I have a nurturing, proactive & empowering approach to help you find freedom within yourself in a supportive and safe environment.
I am a Holistic Counsellor, an Intuitive & a spiritual mentor. My spiritual awareness and my background in the field of health have benefitted my appreciation for both tangible and mystical perceptions when it comes to physical and mental wellbeing. The transformation & sacred journey I will take you on will enable you to reach wellbeing by liberating yourself from traumas, conditioning, and self-limiting beliefs rooted in past experiences that are no longer serving you. I have a nurturing, proactive & empowering approach to help you find freedom within yourself in a supportive and safe environment.
021 209 7739 View 021 209 7739
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Victoria Smith Psychotherapy
Psychotherapist, PBANZ
Verified Verified
Paraparaumu 5032
I have helped thousands of people with Depression, anxiety and relationship issues. I treat each person as the unique person they are and we work together to figure out what is required. Sometimes people need help navigating through grief through loss or through fertility issues or illness and I can help with that. Sometimes couples want help to ensure their communication is improved, or help with navigating post separation arrangements with for their children. I am a firm believer in the benefits of Yoga and Meditation but do not push this on to clients if they do not wish to use these tools.
I have helped thousands of people with Depression, anxiety and relationship issues. I treat each person as the unique person they are and we work together to figure out what is required. Sometimes people need help navigating through grief through loss or through fertility issues or illness and I can help with that. Sometimes couples want help to ensure their communication is improved, or help with navigating post separation arrangements with for their children. I am a firm believer in the benefits of Yoga and Meditation but do not push this on to clients if they do not wish to use these tools.
0800 627 050 x30 View 0800 627 050 x30
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Whakiao Taurima Counselling Limited
Counsellor
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Hastings 4122
Waitlist for new clients
I have been working in mental health, and addictions since 2013. I have experience supporting people with anxiety, attachment issues, depression, grief, loss and pregnancy loss (ectopic, miscarriage, and termination), relationship issues, sexual abuse, stress, substance use, and workplace issues. I have been operating a successful private practice in the Hawkes Bay area since 2022. An approved Ministry of Health Assessment Centre, I assess Substance Dependence and Risk of Re-offending of People Sentenced under Section 65 of the Land Transport Act 1998.
I have been working in mental health, and addictions since 2013. I have experience supporting people with anxiety, attachment issues, depression, grief, loss and pregnancy loss (ectopic, miscarriage, and termination), relationship issues, sexual abuse, stress, substance use, and workplace issues. I have been operating a successful private practice in the Hawkes Bay area since 2022. An approved Ministry of Health Assessment Centre, I assess Substance Dependence and Risk of Re-offending of People Sentenced under Section 65 of the Land Transport Act 1998.
0800 627 003 x44 View 0800 627 003 x44
Photo of John Newton - John Newton, psychodynamic therapist, PhD
John Newton, psychodynamic therapist
PhD
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
However we grow up, childhood experience creates habits and expectations that shape our adult selves. Often these habits seem to get in our way. What once kept us safe may now cause us pain, inhibition, depression, addiction and more. Therapy begins with the experience of being heard, without judgement. The client is the expert on their own way of living. So I ask them to teach me about themselves, while I try to get a feeling for the things that frustrate them and how they might find the freedom to live richer, more satisfying lives.
However we grow up, childhood experience creates habits and expectations that shape our adult selves. Often these habits seem to get in our way. What once kept us safe may now cause us pain, inhibition, depression, addiction and more. Therapy begins with the experience of being heard, without judgement. The client is the expert on their own way of living. So I ask them to teach me about themselves, while I try to get a feeling for the things that frustrate them and how they might find the freedom to live richer, more satisfying lives.
0800 468 212 x80 View 0800 468 212 x80
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Insight n Beyond
Counsellor, MCouns, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
Waitlist for new clients
My modality of work is IFS style / Ego State informed EMDR, Narrative and Somatic therapy. I work with people on all sorts of things that life may throw up. My work challenges a lot of your thought processes while teaching you skills. While in my work talking can be involved you still have the choice of what you wish to share and what you wish to work on. All my work, is respectful of you as a person and your needs, even though it can be challenging at times. Success is the work you take away and use to help yourself. I provide psychoeducation and tools to help you. All my work is collaborative.
My modality of work is IFS style / Ego State informed EMDR, Narrative and Somatic therapy. I work with people on all sorts of things that life may throw up. My work challenges a lot of your thought processes while teaching you skills. While in my work talking can be involved you still have the choice of what you wish to share and what you wish to work on. All my work, is respectful of you as a person and your needs, even though it can be challenging at times. Success is the work you take away and use to help yourself. I provide psychoeducation and tools to help you. All my work is collaborative.
0800 627 004 x88 View 0800 627 004 x88
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Nicole Wijngaarden Coaching
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
I frequently work with the following clients - teenagers, university students, and adults. Are you feeling stuck within yourself, or your relationship with a loved one is strained and when you try and resolve it, the relationship actually gets worse rather than better? Are you feeling angry, sad or unfulfilled with your life and are ready for a positive change? I understand that challenges come up in work, in relationships, or inside of ourselves and I listen and share with you some new tools and perspectives to deal with your emotions and situations in a much more positive and helpful way.
I frequently work with the following clients - teenagers, university students, and adults. Are you feeling stuck within yourself, or your relationship with a loved one is strained and when you try and resolve it, the relationship actually gets worse rather than better? Are you feeling angry, sad or unfulfilled with your life and are ready for a positive change? I understand that challenges come up in work, in relationships, or inside of ourselves and I listen and share with you some new tools and perspectives to deal with your emotions and situations in a much more positive and helpful way.
0800 627 050 x11 View 0800 627 050 x11
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Steve McVey
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
Steve has extensive experience working with adults and young people on a variety of issues, including grief and loss, anxiety, depression, issues around adjustment/life changes, interpersonal issues to gender and sexuality. As a registered counsellor and supervisor with the New Zealand Association of Counsellors he uses evidenced based approaches to support clients wanting explore aspects of their life while raising awareness and building resilience. Steve is warm with a sense of humor and particularly passionate about supporting marginalised and LBGTQI+ people. He's held various roles in NGOs & PHOs in Australia the UK and NZ.
Steve has extensive experience working with adults and young people on a variety of issues, including grief and loss, anxiety, depression, issues around adjustment/life changes, interpersonal issues to gender and sexuality. As a registered counsellor and supervisor with the New Zealand Association of Counsellors he uses evidenced based approaches to support clients wanting explore aspects of their life while raising awareness and building resilience. Steve is warm with a sense of humor and particularly passionate about supporting marginalised and LBGTQI+ people. He's held various roles in NGOs & PHOs in Australia the UK and NZ.
0800 447 359 x24 View 0800 447 359 x24
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Renata Barros
Counsellor, MA, NZAC - Provisional
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
I am specialised in clinical care and have extensive practice with complex cases, including anxiety, depression, grief, and trauma issues. I have worked in public health and private practice in Brazil and NZ and was responsible for carrying out mental health services and managing clinical teams. Currently, I work at my private practice in Wellington. I am a Provisional Member of the NZAC and Member of the Centre for Lacanian Analysis in NZ. I have a Master’s in Social and Institutional Psychology (recognised level 9 NZQA), Specialisation in Clinical Care, and Bachelor’s degree in Psychology (recognised level 7 NZQA).
I am specialised in clinical care and have extensive practice with complex cases, including anxiety, depression, grief, and trauma issues. I have worked in public health and private practice in Brazil and NZ and was responsible for carrying out mental health services and managing clinical teams. Currently, I work at my private practice in Wellington. I am a Provisional Member of the NZAC and Member of the Centre for Lacanian Analysis in NZ. I have a Master’s in Social and Institutional Psychology (recognised level 9 NZQA), Specialisation in Clinical Care, and Bachelor’s degree in Psychology (recognised level 7 NZQA).
0800 468 212 x56 View 0800 468 212 x56
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Dr. Premitha Silva Pothupitiyage
MBBS
Verified Verified
Napier 4110
My ideal clients would be children and families. I focus on childhood issues and children and families needs. The goals for your child and for your family would be the starting point. Supporting you to assess the needs and reflect on your situation and get the life you want for your child and family is what I support you with on your journey.
My ideal clients would be children and families. I focus on childhood issues and children and families needs. The goals for your child and for your family would be the starting point. Supporting you to assess the needs and reflect on your situation and get the life you want for your child and family is what I support you with on your journey.
0800 468 212 x98 View 0800 468 212 x98
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Jonathan Lee
Counsellor, MSc, MNZAC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wellington 6011
Better Self - Better Relationships - Better World. If you're wanting more confidence in yourself, more trust in your relationships, and more acceptance in the world, then I may be able to help. You'll find me an active listener. Through evidence-based interventions, I'll build a supportive therapeutic alliance with you, enabling you to achieve positive change. However, this requires your commitment to effort, time, and investment. The average course is some half dozen sessions, while deeper issues generally need more. Currently, I'm able to offer $945 as prepayment for 6 standard 50-minute sessions - more than a 10% discount.
Better Self - Better Relationships - Better World. If you're wanting more confidence in yourself, more trust in your relationships, and more acceptance in the world, then I may be able to help. You'll find me an active listener. Through evidence-based interventions, I'll build a supportive therapeutic alliance with you, enabling you to achieve positive change. However, this requires your commitment to effort, time, and investment. The average course is some half dozen sessions, while deeper issues generally need more. Currently, I'm able to offer $945 as prepayment for 6 standard 50-minute sessions - more than a 10% discount.
0800 627 024 x21 View 0800 627 024 x21
Photo of Briony Barton-Chapple, NZAC - Provisional, Counsellor
Briony Barton-Chapple
Counsellor, NZAC - Provisional
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
Overwhelmed by anxiety or depression? Struggling to cope with your relationship, life or work? Paralysed by decision making? Frustrated with those around you? Dissatisfied with where your life and relationships are at? I work with individuals, couples, children and young people, and can offer you a safe and confidential space to help you explore solutions that are right for you and your particular situation. Clients come to see me with various difficulties in their lives, including depression, loss, anxiety, bereavement, sexual abuse, trauma, low self-esteem and couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships.
Overwhelmed by anxiety or depression? Struggling to cope with your relationship, life or work? Paralysed by decision making? Frustrated with those around you? Dissatisfied with where your life and relationships are at? I work with individuals, couples, children and young people, and can offer you a safe and confidential space to help you explore solutions that are right for you and your particular situation. Clients come to see me with various difficulties in their lives, including depression, loss, anxiety, bereavement, sexual abuse, trauma, low self-esteem and couples who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships.
0800 451 540 x19 View 0800 451 540 x19
Photo of Eric Houghton, MA, PBANZ, Psychotherapist
Eric Houghton
Psychotherapist, MA, PBANZ
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
Waitlist for new clients
It is my goal to help you gain awareness of what may be holding you back and causing you distress in your life.
It is my goal to help you gain awareness of what may be holding you back and causing you distress in your life.
0800 627 004 x95 View 0800 627 004 x95
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Tam Korodi
MA
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011  (Online Only)
Hi, I'm Tam, a relationship and dating expert specialising in attachment and connection. Whether you're single and seeking your happily-ever-after, working to save your marriage, or healing after a painful divorce or breakup, I’m here to help. I offer marriage counselling for couples, as well as individual sessions for singles or those whose partners aren’t ready to begin therapy. For single women, I offer a transformative 10-session program designed to help you find the right partner and create a healthy, lasting relationship.
Hi, I'm Tam, a relationship and dating expert specialising in attachment and connection. Whether you're single and seeking your happily-ever-after, working to save your marriage, or healing after a painful divorce or breakup, I’m here to help. I offer marriage counselling for couples, as well as individual sessions for singles or those whose partners aren’t ready to begin therapy. For single women, I offer a transformative 10-session program designed to help you find the right partner and create a healthy, lasting relationship.
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Maya Crawley
Psychologist, NZPsS Member
Verified Verified
Wellington 6011
I am an experienced and compassionate Psychologist with over 15 years supporting people to work with a range of challenges including wellbeing, stress, perfectionism, imposter syndrome and burnout. I can also help with relationship challenges, confidence issues, life transitions, difficult emotions, and self-defeating habits. While I am especially passionate about working with high-performing or health professionals, creatives, or small business owners, I walk alongside people from all walks of life to find peace of mind and success according to your own personally defined standards.
I am an experienced and compassionate Psychologist with over 15 years supporting people to work with a range of challenges including wellbeing, stress, perfectionism, imposter syndrome and burnout. I can also help with relationship challenges, confidence issues, life transitions, difficult emotions, and self-defeating habits. While I am especially passionate about working with high-performing or health professionals, creatives, or small business owners, I walk alongside people from all walks of life to find peace of mind and success according to your own personally defined standards.
0800 468 212 x27 View 0800 468 212 x27

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Infidelity Counsellors

How does therapy for infidelity work?

A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.

How long does therapy for infidelity take?

Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.

How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?

When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.

How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?

Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.