Bereavement Therapists in Te Puke

Photo of Dawn Marie Ingall - Dawn’s Counselling Services - Anxiety, Depression,, MNZAC, Counsellor
Dawn’s Counselling Services - Anxiety, Depression,
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Te Puke 3119
Counselling can assist individuals and couples with problems they are encountering due to issues such as: Being overwhelmed, suffering from grief & loss, difficulties encountered, chronic and acute stress, work-related stress, mental, physical & sexual abuse, anxiety, depression and relationship difficulties, poor communication. I can also assist with coming to terms with issues caused by events in the past such as, childhood wounds, physical sexual and mental abuse, post traumatic stress, lack of self confidence, identity crisis, low self-esteem, withdrawal, attachment issues and fear of change. Let’s see if I can assist you. Dawn
Counselling can assist individuals and couples with problems they are encountering due to issues such as: Being overwhelmed, suffering from grief & loss, difficulties encountered, chronic and acute stress, work-related stress, mental, physical & sexual abuse, anxiety, depression and relationship difficulties, poor communication. I can also assist with coming to terms with issues caused by events in the past such as, childhood wounds, physical sexual and mental abuse, post traumatic stress, lack of self confidence, identity crisis, low self-esteem, withdrawal, attachment issues and fear of change. Let’s see if I can assist you. Dawn
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Photo of Jennie Halliday - Arts For Therapy - Jennie Halliday, AThR, Counsellor
Arts For Therapy - Jennie Halliday
Counsellor, AThR
Verified Verified
Te Puke 3119
As a clinical arts therapist (AThR) working with adolescents and adults I offer an alternative to talk therapy and counselling. When we can’t find the words to talk about our concerns, arts therapy provides an alternative pathway to discover what is troubling us. Being "good at art" is not important in arts therapy. For people with trauma histories our sessions will also focus on nervous system regulation and how to manage states of fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Engaging with creative processes invites presence and helps reduce nervous system dysregulation. I will work with you to build new neural pathways that dismantle triggers.
As a clinical arts therapist (AThR) working with adolescents and adults I offer an alternative to talk therapy and counselling. When we can’t find the words to talk about our concerns, arts therapy provides an alternative pathway to discover what is troubling us. Being "good at art" is not important in arts therapy. For people with trauma histories our sessions will also focus on nervous system regulation and how to manage states of fight, flight, freeze and fawn. Engaging with creative processes invites presence and helps reduce nervous system dysregulation. I will work with you to build new neural pathways that dismantle triggers.
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Photo of Michelle Frank - Freedom-Life Counselling, MCouns, MNZAC, Counsellor
Freedom-Life Counselling
Counsellor, MCouns, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Te Puke 3119
Kia ora and welcome, My name is Michelle and I have been blessed to be Counselling since 2010. I am passionate about people, healing and supporting people to overcome the challenges they face in life.
Kia ora and welcome, My name is Michelle and I have been blessed to be Counselling since 2010. I am passionate about people, healing and supporting people to overcome the challenges they face in life.
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Colum Minnock
Counsellor
Verified Verified
Te Puke 3119
I am a skilled and compassionate therapist, experienced in working with a whole range of concerns. If there is an issue getting in the way of you living the life you want to live, or from achieving what you want to achieve, then therapy can help. I work with people both short and long term. With over 20 years’ experience working in the mental health field, I have a wide variety of experience. Before starting in private practice, I worked for many years in various mental health roles, which has given me an excellent grounding in ensuring my practice is based on the best available evidence, and is both ethical and effective.
I am a skilled and compassionate therapist, experienced in working with a whole range of concerns. If there is an issue getting in the way of you living the life you want to live, or from achieving what you want to achieve, then therapy can help. I work with people both short and long term. With over 20 years’ experience working in the mental health field, I have a wide variety of experience. Before starting in private practice, I worked for many years in various mental health roles, which has given me an excellent grounding in ensuring my practice is based on the best available evidence, and is both ethical and effective.
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Vicki Maree Fowler
Psychologist, PhD, NZPsS Member
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3175
Sensitivity in working with people experiencing Anxiety/Depression, Emotional Disturbance, Work, Well-Being & Relationship Issues, Compulsive Shopping, Compulsive Gambling (especially Gaming Machine Gambling), Problematic Alcohol Use, and suffering from Grief and Bereavement and Trust Issues.
My name is Dr Vicki Fowler (PhD) and I am a Life Coach & Registered Psychologist. I would like to welcome my very special clients to my website www.drvickifowler.com. As a Life Coach I enjoy setting meaningful goals for clients and as a Registered Psychologist I am able to clinically work with a range of conditions and issues. My charge-out rate is ($172.50 incl GST per hour). My Special Clients are Clients seeking Help for Anxiety/Depression, Stress, Work & Relationship Difficulties, Alcohol, Gambling, Grief/ Bereavement & Other Issues. I look forward to working with you to achieve goals that you want in a clinically meaningful way.
Sensitivity in working with people experiencing Anxiety/Depression, Emotional Disturbance, Work, Well-Being & Relationship Issues, Compulsive Shopping, Compulsive Gambling (especially Gaming Machine Gambling), Problematic Alcohol Use, and suffering from Grief and Bereavement and Trust Issues.
My name is Dr Vicki Fowler (PhD) and I am a Life Coach & Registered Psychologist. I would like to welcome my very special clients to my website www.drvickifowler.com. As a Life Coach I enjoy setting meaningful goals for clients and as a Registered Psychologist I am able to clinically work with a range of conditions and issues. My charge-out rate is ($172.50 incl GST per hour). My Special Clients are Clients seeking Help for Anxiety/Depression, Stress, Work & Relationship Difficulties, Alcohol, Gambling, Grief/ Bereavement & Other Issues. I look forward to working with you to achieve goals that you want in a clinically meaningful way.
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Photo of Alana Hawke - Alana Hawke | Psychotherapy
Alana Hawke | Psychotherapy
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3175
I help people rediscover their strengths, passions and purpose and find meaning, joy and happiness in their lives. Most of us experience a moment in our lives where we stop and take stock. This may come as a result of a big shock, the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job or some other trauma that shakes us to our very core. Or it may just be a gnawing sense that there is something more to life than what you are currently experiencing. These big shocks or subtle gnawings can start to erode our sense of happiness and fulfilment. We may experience depression, sadness, a sense of isolation, confusion or feel deeply overwhelmed.
I help people rediscover their strengths, passions and purpose and find meaning, joy and happiness in their lives. Most of us experience a moment in our lives where we stop and take stock. This may come as a result of a big shock, the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job or some other trauma that shakes us to our very core. Or it may just be a gnawing sense that there is something more to life than what you are currently experiencing. These big shocks or subtle gnawings can start to erode our sense of happiness and fulfilment. We may experience depression, sadness, a sense of isolation, confusion or feel deeply overwhelmed.
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Photo of Ally Beattie - Ally Beattie  Stuff Happenz Bay of Plenty Tauranga, MNZCCA, Counsellor
Ally Beattie Stuff Happenz Bay of Plenty Tauranga
Counsellor, MNZCCA
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3112
Ally at Stuff Happenz is a qualified personal counselor who specializes in working with adults, youth, and children dealing with physical injuries, complex chronic illnesses, cancer, relationship breakdown, anxiety and depression, panic attacks, trauma, grief, and loss.
It sometimes can be hard to ask for support but there is no time like now to give it a go.
Ally at Stuff Happenz is a qualified personal counselor who specializes in working with adults, youth, and children dealing with physical injuries, complex chronic illnesses, cancer, relationship breakdown, anxiety and depression, panic attacks, trauma, grief, and loss.
It sometimes can be hard to ask for support but there is no time like now to give it a go.
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Photo of Monique Potgieter - Play Therapy Centre (Monique Potgieter), MA
Play Therapy Centre (Monique Potgieter)
MA
Verified Verified
Papamoa 3118
I am a Registered mental health Social Worker who specializes in Play Therapy. I am a member of the Social Work Registration Board (NZ) and the Association for Play Therapy (US). My focus is supporting children and youth who are experiencing behavioural or social difficulties including anxiety, emotional dysregulation, anger/aggression, neurodiversity, trauma, loss and grief, and selective mutism. I also focus on supporting neurodiverse children to build social and emotional skills, who do not necessarily have mental health difficulties
I am a Registered mental health Social Worker who specializes in Play Therapy. I am a member of the Social Work Registration Board (NZ) and the Association for Play Therapy (US). My focus is supporting children and youth who are experiencing behavioural or social difficulties including anxiety, emotional dysregulation, anger/aggression, neurodiversity, trauma, loss and grief, and selective mutism. I also focus on supporting neurodiverse children to build social and emotional skills, who do not necessarily have mental health difficulties
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Photo of Rosemary A White, MNZCCA, Counsellor
Rosemary A White
Counsellor, MNZCCA
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3112
I have been trained in Narrative, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Child Play Therapy, EMDR, Domestic Violence, Depression, Eating Disorders, Addiction Recovery, Dream Therapy, Suicide, Grief, Post Abortion Therapy, Sexual Abuse and Trauma Therapy, Couple and Family Therapy, Grief Therapy.
Hi there - my background includes working as a Registered Nurse for 6 years, and then as an Independant Midwife for 10 years. I paused to raise and home-educate my 4 children (all adults now, and I'm now enjoying being a Grandma. I then retrained to gain a Batchelor in Counselling 12 years ago and have really enjoyed for the past 12 years working with children through to the elderly. I can see you face to face, or via zoom. I work in a number of different modalities to suit your needs. I work with all ethnicities.
I have been trained in Narrative, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Child Play Therapy, EMDR, Domestic Violence, Depression, Eating Disorders, Addiction Recovery, Dream Therapy, Suicide, Grief, Post Abortion Therapy, Sexual Abuse and Trauma Therapy, Couple and Family Therapy, Grief Therapy.
Hi there - my background includes working as a Registered Nurse for 6 years, and then as an Independant Midwife for 10 years. I paused to raise and home-educate my 4 children (all adults now, and I'm now enjoying being a Grandma. I then retrained to gain a Batchelor in Counselling 12 years ago and have really enjoyed for the past 12 years working with children through to the elderly. I can see you face to face, or via zoom. I work in a number of different modalities to suit your needs. I work with all ethnicities.
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Photo of Heather Cohen - Aroha Counselling Services, MSc, NZCCA, Counsellor
Aroha Counselling Services
Counsellor, MSc, NZCCA
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3175
Waitlist for new clients
I have emotionally supported hundreds of children through difficult moments for many years. Having studied in the USA, UK and NZ and worked with the children of the Christchurch Earthquakes for several years, I have been privileged to learn from and work with some very inspiring and resilient people. This knowledge was used to volunteer as crisis responder and as an in-person Youthline counsellor amongst other roles. Recently, I was employed as a Child and Adolescent Counsellor serving 13 South Otago area primary and intermediate schools. I now operate my own Private Practice in a beautiful and healing setting in Whakamarama.
I have emotionally supported hundreds of children through difficult moments for many years. Having studied in the USA, UK and NZ and worked with the children of the Christchurch Earthquakes for several years, I have been privileged to learn from and work with some very inspiring and resilient people. This knowledge was used to volunteer as crisis responder and as an in-person Youthline counsellor amongst other roles. Recently, I was employed as a Child and Adolescent Counsellor serving 13 South Otago area primary and intermediate schools. I now operate my own Private Practice in a beautiful and healing setting in Whakamarama.
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Photo of Tracy Christine Cooper, MNZAC, Counsellor
Tracy Christine Cooper
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Papamoa 3118
Hi and welcome. My name is Tracy and I have been a counsellor for as long as I can remember. Officially though, I qualified as a registered counsellor 8 years ago. I have an enquiring mind for people and the life they live and want to assist you to make the change you desire. I am an empathetic and kind counsellor. I work collaboratively with you to make change that you want. Inside of us all are the answers to our questions, and I will work alongside you to discover your answers to these questions and new ways of being. Come as you are and find a safe place to stay a while.
Hi and welcome. My name is Tracy and I have been a counsellor for as long as I can remember. Officially though, I qualified as a registered counsellor 8 years ago. I have an enquiring mind for people and the life they live and want to assist you to make the change you desire. I am an empathetic and kind counsellor. I work collaboratively with you to make change that you want. Inside of us all are the answers to our questions, and I will work alongside you to discover your answers to these questions and new ways of being. Come as you are and find a safe place to stay a while.
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Photo of Ckc Counsellor Kristen Cook - CKC Counsellor Kristen Cook, MCouns, MNZAC, Counsellor
CKC Counsellor Kristen Cook
Counsellor, MCouns, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Mount Maunganui 3175
Kristen offers a warm friendly environment to explore challenges or issues and acknowledge your strengths. She supports children, youth and adults (all gender preferences welcome). In conversations, you will discuss practical tools you can use in everyday life and how you can move closer to your preferred ways of being. You will develop insight and anchor skills to work through life's ‘curve balls’.
Kristen offers a warm friendly environment to explore challenges or issues and acknowledge your strengths. She supports children, youth and adults (all gender preferences welcome). In conversations, you will discuss practical tools you can use in everyday life and how you can move closer to your preferred ways of being. You will develop insight and anchor skills to work through life's ‘curve balls’.
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Photo of Dr. Adrienna Ember - Clinical Psychologist, PhD, Psychologist
Dr. Adrienna Ember - Clinical Psychologist
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Papamoa 3118  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
Welcome! You've made the courageous decision to address the challenges in your life. If you prefer a solution focused, accelerated therapy, I might be the right therapist for you: As a clinical psychologist, personal development strategist (life coach) & EMDR therapist, I'm committed to supporting you towards leading a more fulfilling life, in harmony with your values and aspirations. I'm also a supervisor for a wide range of professionals. My interdisciplinary & multicultural background strengthened my passion to work with people of various cultures, spiritualities, and sexual orientations. I also speak Hungarian and German.
Welcome! You've made the courageous decision to address the challenges in your life. If you prefer a solution focused, accelerated therapy, I might be the right therapist for you: As a clinical psychologist, personal development strategist (life coach) & EMDR therapist, I'm committed to supporting you towards leading a more fulfilling life, in harmony with your values and aspirations. I'm also a supervisor for a wide range of professionals. My interdisciplinary & multicultural background strengthened my passion to work with people of various cultures, spiritualities, and sexual orientations. I also speak Hungarian and German.
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Karen (Kit) Claire Philo
Psychologist, NZPsS Member
Verified Verified
Papamoa 3175
I work with anxiety and depression and all sorts of trauma. We design together what you want to achieve from therapy. I don't discriminate and all are welcome.
I work with anxiety and depression and all sorts of trauma. We design together what you want to achieve from therapy. I don't discriminate and all are welcome.
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Online Therapists

Photo of Grace Irvine, MNZAC, Counsellor
Grace Irvine
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Tauranga 3110  (Online Only)
I work with all ages and specialise working with teens and young adults who are struggling. Challenges can come from anywhere; the loss of a loved one, a health condition, problems at school or work, anxiety, trauma, bullying, depression, attacks on dignity, abuse, or being spoken to in unhelpful ways. Problems can get you feeling overwhelmed, hopeless and stuck. I invite you to let me journey with you from that stuck place to hope and peace.
I work with all ages and specialise working with teens and young adults who are struggling. Challenges can come from anywhere; the loss of a loved one, a health condition, problems at school or work, anxiety, trauma, bullying, depression, attacks on dignity, abuse, or being spoken to in unhelpful ways. Problems can get you feeling overwhelmed, hopeless and stuck. I invite you to let me journey with you from that stuck place to hope and peace.
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Tzach Maya-Chipman
Psychotherapist, MPsych, PBANZ
Verified Verified
Auckland 2014
I hold over 20 years of experience in private practice and community settings in both New Zealand and NSW, Australia, practising from a compassionate and empathic position as a way of helping you change, heal and grow awareness about your way of relating to self and others. I work with a wide range of presenting issues such as anxiety, depression, complex trauma, developmental trauma, grief and loss, sexuality, LGBTIQ+, couples therapy, midlife crisis, chronic pain and syndromes (Fibromyalgia, CFS). My current research passion focuses on environmental toxins such as heavy metals and other poisons and their impact on human suffering.
I hold over 20 years of experience in private practice and community settings in both New Zealand and NSW, Australia, practising from a compassionate and empathic position as a way of helping you change, heal and grow awareness about your way of relating to self and others. I work with a wide range of presenting issues such as anxiety, depression, complex trauma, developmental trauma, grief and loss, sexuality, LGBTIQ+, couples therapy, midlife crisis, chronic pain and syndromes (Fibromyalgia, CFS). My current research passion focuses on environmental toxins such as heavy metals and other poisons and their impact on human suffering.
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Photo of Joy At Relate Counselling - Joy - Relationship Counsellor, MNZCCA, Counsellor
Joy - Relationship Counsellor
Counsellor, MNZCCA
Verified Verified
Rotorua 3015
Note: Couples sessions are 90 minutes. Joy has worked extensively in private practice, with couples and individuals, helping them with a range of issues, including: conflict de-escalation, understanding triggers and behaviour patterns, poor communication, grief and loss, depression, anxiety, toxic relationships, family and parenting issues. Joy brings empathy and life experience to her work with clients, to enable them to feel heard and equipped to change. She is trained in several specialist models of couples therapy, and has years of experience helping clients resolve relationship issues and move into a happier place together.
Note: Couples sessions are 90 minutes. Joy has worked extensively in private practice, with couples and individuals, helping them with a range of issues, including: conflict de-escalation, understanding triggers and behaviour patterns, poor communication, grief and loss, depression, anxiety, toxic relationships, family and parenting issues. Joy brings empathy and life experience to her work with clients, to enable them to feel heard and equipped to change. She is trained in several specialist models of couples therapy, and has years of experience helping clients resolve relationship issues and move into a happier place together.
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Photo of Cushla Griffin, MA, NZPsS Member, Psychologist
Cushla Griffin
Psychologist, MA, NZPsS Member
Verified Verified
Hamilton 3204
I specialise in working with adults with a wide variety of difficulties including anxiety, depression, chronic pain, PTSD, sleep, physical health, grief, and adjustment to life changes.
I am a Clinical Psychologist who works with clients to explore how their feelings, actions, beliefs, and experiences impact on their day-to-day life. I enjoy working collaboratively with clients and creating goals that we can work towards together. I provide skills and strategies that support you to meet those goals, and that allow you to live a more fulfilling life.
I specialise in working with adults with a wide variety of difficulties including anxiety, depression, chronic pain, PTSD, sleep, physical health, grief, and adjustment to life changes.
I am a Clinical Psychologist who works with clients to explore how their feelings, actions, beliefs, and experiences impact on their day-to-day life. I enjoy working collaboratively with clients and creating goals that we can work towards together. I provide skills and strategies that support you to meet those goals, and that allow you to live a more fulfilling life.
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Photo of Christine Burch, MNZAC, Counsellor
Christine Burch
Counsellor, MNZAC
Verified Verified
Pukekohe 2120
I’ve also helped numerous individuals overcome various challenges, including: anxiety, depression, anger management, relationship issues, parenting struggles, grief and loss, trauma, generational trauma, PTSD and the aftermath of sexual abuse.
Hello, I’m Christine Burch, a seasoned Counsellor and Family Therapist with 16 years of experience working in Auckland. I’ve had the privilege of supporting individuals and families from diverse backgrounds to develop a deeper understanding of themselves and work towards positive change. My goal is to help you build a strong foundation for personal growth and healing. I recognise that everyone’s journey is unique, and I tailor my therapeutic approach to meet the individual needs of each client. I’m committed to creating a safe and culturally sensitive environment where clients feel comfortable sharing their stories and experiences.
I’ve also helped numerous individuals overcome various challenges, including: anxiety, depression, anger management, relationship issues, parenting struggles, grief and loss, trauma, generational trauma, PTSD and the aftermath of sexual abuse.
Hello, I’m Christine Burch, a seasoned Counsellor and Family Therapist with 16 years of experience working in Auckland. I’ve had the privilege of supporting individuals and families from diverse backgrounds to develop a deeper understanding of themselves and work towards positive change. My goal is to help you build a strong foundation for personal growth and healing. I recognise that everyone’s journey is unique, and I tailor my therapeutic approach to meet the individual needs of each client. I’m committed to creating a safe and culturally sensitive environment where clients feel comfortable sharing their stories and experiences.
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Harvest Counselling
Counsellor, NZAC - Provisional
Verified Verified
Papakura 2113
Welcome to Harvest Counselling, my name is Debbie. I have a BHSc degree qualification in Counselling from Auckland University of Technology. I will work alongside you to find coping strategies and solutions to the issues you are facing. I work from a Person Centred approach, but also use Narrative therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) where necessary during our therapeutic relationship. I am empathetic, compassionate, supportive and professional. I promote self awareness, Mindfulness, deep breathing skills to minimise anxiety/triggers. I can help with Depression, Anxiety, Grief & loss, self esteem, Anger, Goal setting etc.
Welcome to Harvest Counselling, my name is Debbie. I have a BHSc degree qualification in Counselling from Auckland University of Technology. I will work alongside you to find coping strategies and solutions to the issues you are facing. I work from a Person Centred approach, but also use Narrative therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) where necessary during our therapeutic relationship. I am empathetic, compassionate, supportive and professional. I promote self awareness, Mindfulness, deep breathing skills to minimise anxiety/triggers. I can help with Depression, Anxiety, Grief & loss, self esteem, Anger, Goal setting etc.
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How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.