Wendy Paris

About

Wendy Paris is the author of Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria, 2016). Splitopia looks at how changes in laws and customs over the past 40 years have improved divorce for many, as have advances in psychology, technology, child development, and an increased understanding of the importance of the father. Splitopia also profiles former couples in positive, post-mariage relationships and follows her own separation-to-divorce.

Wendy was a 2014 Fellow with New America Foundation and a 2013 Encore Fellow through Encore.org. Her previous books were about marriage, weddings and dating. She has written for Psychology Today, The New York Times, QZ.com, Salon.com, The Forward, Self, Travel & Leisure and other publications and websites. She blogs about divorce at Splitopia.com. She also does book proposal consultation and ghostwriting and editing, and volunteers as a mentor editor with the Op-Ed Project.

Books by Wendy Paris

Recent Posts

Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

Increasingly, people are seeking a way to honor their marriage, even as they end it.

Starting Places for Learning About Good Divorce

From apps to websites to books to classes: my top picks for getting through divorce and managing co-parenting.

Breakup Coping Strategy: Party Like It's 1999

As the now-classic experiment from Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer shows, age is relative to your environment.

What to Get Your Ex for Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is a chance to celebrate all the people in our lives—including our ex.

Facing a Tough Divorce Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage.

Good Divorce Advice: Resist the Urge to Compare

It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path.

Combat Anger With Empathy in a Good Divorce

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” -The Buddha

Build Yourself a Divorce Survival Kit

The immediate period of separation can feel like a natural disaster. Prepare a tool kit to stay afloat.

How to Tell Others You're Getting Divorced

Perfect your "divorce elevator speech" with these four tips.

Holidays During Divorce, When Your Ex Has A New Partner

Our holidays and rituals always evolve. They have to, in order to stay meaningful, whatever our family structure.