S. Rufus

About

S. Rufus, M.A., is a graduate of the University of California, Berkeley, an award-winning journalist whose work has appeaed at Elle, Salon, The Daily Beast and other venues, and — under the byline Anneli Rufus — the author of twelve books including Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself; Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto; Weird Europe; and Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On. Translated into five languages and now in its fourteenth printing, Party of One has been cited as a landmark work on (and for) introverts.

Books by S. Rufus

Recent Posts

Childish Adults Feel Pleasure and Pain, but Childishly

When all the other adults in a stressful situation sit calmly, are you the only one who stomps away sobbing? How and when was that emotional learning process derailed?

Why Some People Feel Like Everything Is a Test

A Personal Perspective: Feeling like everything is a "test" fuels anxiety and drains the true meaning from many moments.

The Conundrum of Childish Adults

Mainstream society expresses tolerance, sympathy and forgiveness toward other types of emotional suffering. Yet such compassion is seldom expressed toward emotional immaturity.

The Griefs of Childish Adults

Emotional immaturity often stems from deep loss: thresholds never attained and life lessons never learned.

Why Are Childish Adults Childish?

Rather than simply write off childish adults as lost causes, consider that their inability to face challenges in an adult way might result from childhood pain.

Can Childish Adults Ever Grow Up?

Living in an adult's body while feeling incapable of "acting like an adult" can induce shame, anxiety and low self-esteem. But it's not our fault.

Is True Crime Too Trendy?

Personal Perspective: Murders committed by true-crime fans, and social-media discussions about Jeffrey Dahmer's sexiness, spark curiosity about why this trend is booming now.

Is Social Media a New Religion?

Personal Perspective: Suffused with secrets, symbols, rites, and deities, social media functions much as religions do.

Why Is Friendlessness Trending?

Why is #Ihavenofriends such a popular hashtag? Is a defriendification pandemic occurring right before our eyes?

10 Reasons Why Believing in Ghosts Can Be Good for You

Do we want or need to believe in ghosts—and, if so, why?