Deborah Anapol Ph.D.

A Message in a Bottle

More love, more sex, more pleasure may in fact be what’s needed for marriage to survive and the evolution of patriarchal culture to continue. And pleasure alone cannot substitute for consciousness, more sex does not automatically result in more awareness, and propping up the status quo is not what I had in mind at all.

More love, more sex, more pleasure may in fact be what’s needed for marriage to survive and the evolution of patriarchal culture to continue. And pleasure alone cannot substitute for consciousness, more sex does not automatically result in more awareness, and propping up the status quo is not what I had in mind at all.

Five Ways Polyamory Can Fail

Happy polyamorous relationships exist, but polyamory is definitely not a recipe for guaranteed happiness any more than monogamy is. Here are a few useful pointers to speed up your learning curve.

Happy polyamorous relationships exist, but polyamory is definitely not a recipe for guaranteed happiness any more than monogamy is. Here are a few useful pointers to speed up your learning curve.

Celebrating Our Erotic Capital

Men are getting a higher return on their erotic capital than women because men have no compunctions about fully utilizing what they’ve got while women allow shame and embarrassment to interfere with fully reaping the benefits of this valuable resource. This is even more so for older women.

Men are getting a higher return on their erotic capital than women because men have no compunctions about fully utilizing what they’ve got while women allow shame and embarrassment to interfere with fully reaping the benefits of this valuable resource. This is even more so for older women.

What Ever Happened to the Sexual Revolution?

My take is that the Sexual Revolution has gone awry but its downfall stems from a lack of moral, ethical, and ecological grounding, and also from not going far enough to alter our way of life.

My take is that the Sexual Revolution has gone awry but its downfall stems from a lack of moral, ethical, and ecological grounding, and also from not going far enough to alter our way of life.

Showtime's new reality series, Polyamory: Married and Dating is a far better portrayal of polyamory than I feared and not as good as I had hoped, judging from the first episode, which aired July 12.

Inner Marriage

Are you paying lip service to the disconcerting truth that in order to find lasting happiness with a partner, you must first create a harmonious relationship with the Beloved within? For generations, spiritual inclinations have been misguidedly channeled into a quest for romantic love and sexual thrills. Trouble is, this kind of happiness has a short shelf life.

Are you paying lip service to the disconcerting truth that in order to find lasting happiness with a partner, you must first create a harmonious relationship with the Beloved within? For generations, spiritual inclinations have been misguidedly channeled into a quest for romantic love and sexual thrills. Trouble is, this kind of happiness has a short shelf life.

Group Marriage and the Future of the Family

With the traditional nuclear family well on its way to extinction, we are faced with a question of critical importance: who will mind the children?

With the traditional nuclear family well on its way to extinction, we are faced with a question of critical importance: who will mind the children?

Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded.

Polyamory without Tears

Early on, I realized that in order to really understand what jealousy is, how it operates, and to what end, I would have to examine my own inner process. If you too want to understand jealousy, I invite you to do the same. The next time the opportunity arises, instead of pushing it away, welcome the chance to investigate the nature of jealousy.

Early on, I realized that in order to really understand what jealousy is, how it operates, and to what end, I would have to examine my own inner process. If you too want to understand jealousy, I invite you to do the same. The next time the opportunity arises, instead of pushing it away, welcome the chance to investigate the nature of jealousy.