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Marriage
8 Questions to Ask Before Giving Up on Your Marriage

Melissa Orlov on June 7, 2024

If you've been struggling in your relationship, you might wonder if you will ever be able to be happy again. But calling it quits is hard. Explore these questions first.

If you've been struggling in your relationship, you might wonder if you will ever be able to be happy again. But calling it quits is hard. Explore these questions first.

ADHD
3 Ways to Support Your Spouse and Their ADHD Coaching

Melissa Orlov on February 17, 2024

Non-ADHD partners can support their partner's efforts to manage ADHD, or they can unwittingly inhibit it. These practical tips will help you both get the maximum benefit.

Non-ADHD partners can support their partner's efforts to manage ADHD, or they can unwittingly inhibit it. These practical tips will help you both get the maximum benefit.

Cognition
To Heal, Open Up to the Messiness of Human Emotions

Melissa Orlov on March 16, 2023

A strong self-image can be a guiding star that aligns you with your values. But it has pros and cons. Here’s how to open up, without losing a sense of who you are.

A strong self-image can be a guiding star that aligns you with your values. But it has pros and cons. Here’s how to open up, without losing a sense of who you are.

Anxiety
How to Respond to Big Emotions

Melissa Orlov on December 14, 2022

Two simple approaches to distract yourself from big emotions can help you reset to a place of comfort and help your relationship.

Two simple approaches to distract yourself from big emotions can help you reset to a place of comfort and help your relationship.

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Anxiety
The Tyranny of Getting Stuff Done

Melissa Orlov on November 5, 2022

Personal perspective: Are you feeling overwhelmed and anxious about that long to-do list? It may be time to think more globally about your choices.

Personal perspective: Are you feeling overwhelmed and anxious about that long to-do list? It may be time to think more globally about your choices.

ADHD
15 Tips for Better Follow-Through Treating Your ADHD

Melissa Orlov on March 8, 2022

Many treatments can improve the management of adult ADHD, but distraction, memory, and lack of structure may get in the way. These ideas can help.

Many treatments can improve the management of adult ADHD, but distraction, memory, and lack of structure may get in the way. These ideas can help.

Perfectionism
Perfectionism and ADHD: Distorted Thinking Can Cause Problems

Melissa Orlov on April 23, 2021

Adult ADHD and perfectionist tendencies can go hand in hand as a coping mechanism when one is unsure that one's skills will be good enough for a task or for approval from others.

Adult ADHD and perfectionist tendencies can go hand in hand as a coping mechanism when one is unsure that one's skills will be good enough for a task or for approval from others.

Stress
“Is This All There Is?”

Melissa Orlov on January 4, 2021

The pressures of 2020 have stripped couples' lives down to the basics and have impacted how they perceived their bonds, not always for the better. How do couples survive these feelings?

The pressures of 2020 have stripped couples' lives down to the basics and have impacted how they perceived their bonds, not always for the better. How do couples survive these feelings?

ADHD
Do ADHD Meds Help With Memory Problems?

Melissa Orlov on September 4, 2020

ADHD pills don't teach skills. When it comes to improving memory, adults with ADHD need to use the full set of treatments available to them.

ADHD pills don't teach skills. When it comes to improving memory, adults with ADHD need to use the full set of treatments available to them.

Anxiety
"What You Need to Know Most About Me Today Is…"

Melissa Orlov on March 31, 2020

A simple conversation can keep you in touch with your partner's positive and negative feelings. Do it daily and improve your relationship forever.

A simple conversation can keep you in touch with your partner's positive and negative feelings. Do it daily and improve your relationship forever.

ADHD
ADHD, Personal Hygiene, and the COVID-19 Pandemic

Melissa Orlov on March 27, 2020

Some are scared that they will be the victim of their ADHD partner’s poor hygiene habits or risky behavior. They are correct to be anxious, but there are ways to improve things.

Some are scared that they will be the victim of their ADHD partner’s poor hygiene habits or risky behavior. They are correct to be anxious, but there are ways to improve things.

ADHD
The Best Valentine's Day Gift You Can Give If You Have ADHD

Melissa Orlov on February 11, 2020

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for some with ADHD. But their partners are likely to want some version of the same thing. Here are some ideas that can work, even at the last minute.

Valentine's Day is a tricky holiday for some with ADHD. But their partners are likely to want some version of the same thing. Here are some ideas that can work, even at the last minute.

ADHD
When Both a Child and Partner Have ADHD but You Don't

Melissa Orlov on January 14, 2020

A concerned mom from a family with two ADHD and two non-ADHD family members tries to figure out how to keep her family happy and healthy.

A concerned mom from a family with two ADHD and two non-ADHD family members tries to figure out how to keep her family happy and healthy.

ADHD
Grieving the Relationship You Thought You Had, but Didn't

Melissa Orlov on September 12, 2019

For many couples impacted by ADHD it's important to grieve the loss of romantic dreams in order to build something stronger and healthier. Here's one way to do it.

For many couples impacted by ADHD it's important to grieve the loss of romantic dreams in order to build something stronger and healthier. Here's one way to do it.

ADHD
6 Tips for Better Managing Time for Adults with ADHD

Melissa Orlov on July 8, 2019

Time management is a common area of conflict for ADHD adults and those who love them. ADHD partners may think their partner should just "lighten up" but it's not that simple.

Time management is a common area of conflict for ADHD adults and those who love them. ADHD partners may think their partner should just "lighten up" but it's not that simple.

ADHD
In Relationships, Imposed Solutions Don’t Last

Melissa Orlov on June 3, 2019

Frustrated adults are quick to tell their partners what they should be doing in order to get things done more quickly, but it's the wrong choice. Here's why.

Frustrated adults are quick to tell their partners what they should be doing in order to get things done more quickly, but it's the wrong choice. Here's why.

ADHD
Become an Influencer

Melissa Orlov on March 31, 2019

Parent-child dynamics in ADHD relationships leave more organized partners in charge, but frustrated that they still aren't getting what they want. Here are 8 tips for getting more.

Parent-child dynamics in ADHD relationships leave more organized partners in charge, but frustrated that they still aren't getting what they want. Here are 8 tips for getting more.

ADHD
Why Won't My Husband Stop Flirting?

Melissa Orlov on November 30, 2018

It's not an affair, it's "just flirting." Yet it can hurt nonetheless. What's more, ADHD symptoms can complicate things further. Here are five strategies that can help.

It's not an affair, it's "just flirting." Yet it can hurt nonetheless. What's more, ADHD symptoms can complicate things further. Here are five strategies that can help.