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4 Steps to Becoming a Self-Actualized Person

A guide to becoming your best self.

Key points

  • Self-actualization refers to the process of realizing and fulfilling one's potential and capabilities.
  • Self-awareness, growth, authenticity, and meaningful connections move you toward self-actualization.
  • Famous people who could be considered self-actualized can inspire you on the path to becoming your best self.

As a counseling psychologist, I hear a lot of my clients talk about wanting to become their "best selves." Who doesn't want to become their best self?

It's a laudable goal for sure. Yet when listening to motivational speakers, most will emphasize that talking is one thing and taking action is another.

Self-actualization, a concept introduced by psychologist Abraham Maslow, refers to the process of realizing and fulfilling one's potential and capabilities. It's important to note that the journey to self-actualization is highly individualistic, subjective, and can vary from person to person,

This post will give you the four actionable steps to put you on the path to self-actualization. For some extra inspiration, we will look at eight historical prime examples of self-actualization and the highlights of how they each did it.

Four Impactful Steps To Guide You To Become Your Best Self

Self-awareness:

  • Understand yourself: Take the time to reflect on your values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, and passions. Consider keeping a journal to track your thoughts and feelings.
  • Identify your goals: Clearly define your short-term and long-term goals. This can help you stay focused and motivated on the path to self-actualization.

Personal growth and development:

  • Continuous learning: Embrace opportunities to learn and grow. Whether through formal education, self-directed study, or practical experiences, expanding your knowledge and skills is crucial.
  • Embrace challenges: Face challenges as opportunities for growth. By stepping out of your comfort zone, you can discover new aspects of yourself and develop resilience.

Authenticity and mindfulness:

  • Be true to yourself: Embrace your authentic self and live in alignment with your values. Avoid conforming to societal expectations that may hinder your personal growth.
  • Practice mindfulness: Cultivate awareness of the present moment. Mindfulness techniques, such as meditation or deep breathing, can help you stay connected to your inner self and reduce stress.

Meaningful connections and contribution:

  • Foster positive relationships: Surround yourself with supportive and like-minded individuals. Healthy connections can provide emotional support and contribute to your overall well-being.
  • Contribute to others: Engage in activities that allow you to make a positive impact on the world around you. This could involve volunteering, mentoring, or simply being kind and helpful to others.

Eight Famous People Who Nailed Self-Actualization

While it is important to remember that self-actualization is a subjective concept, here are some historical figures often considered examples of self-actualized people:

Mahatma Gandhi: Gandhi was a leader of the Indian independence movement and a proponent of nonviolent civil disobedience. He dedicated his life to promoting peace, justice, and equality.

Albert Einstein: This renowned physicist not only made groundbreaking contributions to science but also advocated for social justice, pacifism, and humanitarian causes.

Leonardo da Vinci: An exceptional polymath of the Renaissance, da Vinci excelled in various fields such as art, science, anatomy, and engineering. His insatiable curiosity and creativity reflect self-actualization.

Eleanor Roosevelt: The former First Lady of the United States was a tireless advocate for civil rights, women's rights, and international cooperation. She played a pivotal role in the drafting of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

Nelson Mandela: Mandela fought against apartheid in South Africa and became the country's first Black president. His dedication to reconciliation and forgiveness after his release from prison demonstrates characteristics of self-actualization.

Steve Jobs: The co-founder of Apple Inc. was not only a successful entrepreneur but also a visionary who transformed industries. His passion for design and innovation exemplifies self-actualization

Jane Goodall: A primatologist and anthropologist, Goodall dedicated her life to the study and conservation of chimpanzees. Her work reflects a deep connection with nature and a commitment to environmental and animal welfare.

Mother Teresa: Known for her humanitarian work, Mother Teresa dedicated her life to helping the poor and sick in Calcutta, India. Her selfless service and compassion are often cited as examples of self-actualization.

It's important to remember that self-actualization is a personal and ongoing journey, and individuals may exhibit different qualities and characteristics on their path to realizing their fullest potential.

Final Thoughts

Remember that self-actualization is an ongoing process, and it's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Regular self-reflection and adjustments to your goals and actions can help you stay on the path toward realizing your full potential.

© Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D. (All rights reserved)

References

Geene, L, and Burke, G. (2007). “BEYOND SELF-ACTUALIZATION.” Journal of Health and Human Services Administration, vol. 30, no. 2, 2007, pp. 116–28. JSTOR, http://www.jstor.org/stable/41288077. Accessed 17 Feb. 2024

Kaufman, S. B. (2023). Self-Actualizing People in the 21st Century: Integration With Contemporary Theory and Research on Personality and Well-Being. Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 63(1), 51-83. https://doi.org/10.1177/0022167818809187

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