How to Cope With Sad Memories on Mother's Day

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For some, we are very excited about the thought of celebrating our moms, daughters, daughters-in-law, aunts, etc. on Mother’s Day. For others, we will look forward to being the one celebrated. But for many of us, we will face the day with feelings of loss and grief for those no longer with us. Mother’s Day may highlight that loss causing us to feel sad and perhaps, lonely.

Below are some tips on how to get through this time:

1. Recognize that TV commercials, greeting cards, and ads regarding Mother’s Day are designed to portray perfection. They never mention the struggles that are normal in the mother/daughter relationship.

2. Avoid social media. People are going to post pictures of “happiness,” whether they feel it or not. They won’t post a picture of an argument or distanced relationship. Don’t get fooled into thinking you’re the only one that struggles in relationships.

3. Talk to friends and family about what you’re feeling. Let them know you’re having a difficult time and what they might do to help. Some of them may be experiencing the same emotions as you and will be relieved to have the chance to vent.

4. Take time to care for yourself. Whether that is going for a walk, listening to music, reading, whatever taking care of yourself means for you.

5. Reminisce about the good times and good memories of those you have lost. Gather together with friends or family and relive memories of the person you’re missing.

6. Start a tradition or ritual on Mother’s Day as a way to remember your loved one. Perhaps you’ll make their favorite meal, go on their favorite walk, or watch their favorite movie.

7. Call a professional if you feel unable to cope.

For those of you celebrating, I wish you joy. For those grieving, I wish you peace and comfort.

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