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Leading with Emotional Intelligence

Tools and strategies to put you and your team in the top 10 percent.

Happiness
Four Holiday Actions from Hijacks to Happiness

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on December 24, 2014

Here are four actions or strategies you can use to have a happier holiday and get REAL with 1) Realistic expectations, 2) Experience and celebrate the moments, 3) Accept and let and 4) Love and learn

The holidays can be depleting for your cognitive fuel and here are ways to be more mindful to get off automatic and get on exceptional so you have a joyous holiday.

Here are four actions or strategies you can use to have a happier holiday and get REAL with 1) Realistic expectations, 2) Experience and celebrate the moments, 3) Accept and let and 4) Love and learn

The holidays can be depleting for your cognitive fuel and here are ways to be more mindful to get off automatic and get on exceptional so you have a joyous holiday.

Overwhelm, stress and distractions, what to do.
Intelligence
Six Ways We are Tapped Out and not Tuned In

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on September 1, 2014

Distractions, diversions and interruptions steal our focus, energy and performance. What are the top six ways you take a performance wrong turn. What can you do to regain your focus, performance and emotional intelligence to your best leader?

Distractions, diversions and interruptions steal our focus, energy and performance. What are the top six ways you take a performance wrong turn. What can you do to regain your focus, performance and emotional intelligence to your best leader?

Fear
Mass Murders: A Mountain of Mixed Emotions

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on May 29, 2014

Our emotions are overflowing, we can be on overwhelm and feel out of control, not only did Elliot Rodgers but for all us hearing about this tragedy. Each of us deal with our emotions and reactions differently, whether we are a student, parent, community member or global witness to the massacre and videos on TV over and over.

What do we do with all the mixed feelings?

Our emotions are overflowing, we can be on overwhelm and feel out of control, not only did Elliot Rodgers but for all us hearing about this tragedy. Each of us deal with our emotions and reactions differently, whether we are a student, parent, community member or global witness to the massacre and videos on TV over and over.

What do we do with all the mixed feelings?

Relationships
Diversions and Distractions: Are you TAPPED Out?

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on April 19, 2014

If you stay on automatic you stay average! Just a few disciplined actions or micro- initiatives can create a macro-impact and exceptional performance. How do we get in our own way? Learn the 6 major distractions that undermine our success with the most important people in our life.

If you stay on automatic you stay average! Just a few disciplined actions or micro- initiatives can create a macro-impact and exceptional performance. How do we get in our own way? Learn the 6 major distractions that undermine our success with the most important people in our life.

The Shiny Light steals our attention and can ruin relationships
Leadership
Failed Focus: Crushing Consequences to Your Credibility

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on December 24, 2013

Failed Focus: Are your relationship being ignored and crushed because of the allure of the shiny light?
How is this affecting your leadership credibility and trust within your family?
Five crushing consequences of being on automatic and how they can ruin your relationships. Actions to counter being on autopilot.
Learn about the Emotional Audit mindfulness tool.

Failed Focus: Are your relationship being ignored and crushed because of the allure of the shiny light?
How is this affecting your leadership credibility and trust within your family?
Five crushing consequences of being on automatic and how they can ruin your relationships. Actions to counter being on autopilot.
Learn about the Emotional Audit mindfulness tool.

Leadership
Snapshot Management: Are You a Victim of It?

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on September 14, 2013

Snapshot Management may not be the real or current you. They are figments or creations of what people see in you which are highly influenced by past snapshots. Your review or evaluation by your manager is an “incomplete you” with real financial and career consequences.The story of you is created quickly based on sketchy and often outdated data and then retold and affirmed.

Snapshot Management may not be the real or current you. They are figments or creations of what people see in you which are highly influenced by past snapshots. Your review or evaluation by your manager is an “incomplete you” with real financial and career consequences.The story of you is created quickly based on sketchy and often outdated data and then retold and affirmed.

Cognition
Dumb Questions, Dumb Answers and Dumbed Down Decisions

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on June 29, 2013

Dumb questions, dumb answers and how they impact your decisions, judgments and success. .
Be more confident by being more aware, mindful and awake when you ask yourself internal questions. When you pay more attention, you may notice that the questions often catalyze a cascade of negative responses and a familiar pattern of “Being on Your Case.”
Tips & actions are given.

Dumb questions, dumb answers and how they impact your decisions, judgments and success. .
Be more confident by being more aware, mindful and awake when you ask yourself internal questions. When you pay more attention, you may notice that the questions often catalyze a cascade of negative responses and a familiar pattern of “Being on Your Case.”
Tips & actions are given.

Balancing on Your Side vs On Your Case
Confidence
Confidence: Are You on Your Case or on Your Side?

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on May 24, 2013

Turn your whippings into learnings.

The main question people have after they understand the value of Emotional Intelligence (EI) is: How do I raise EI for myself and others? Here will explore the confidence competency.

Confidence is knowing one’s own abilities and having enough faith in them to make sound decisions in the face of uncertainty and pressure.

Turn your whippings into learnings.

The main question people have after they understand the value of Emotional Intelligence (EI) is: How do I raise EI for myself and others? Here will explore the confidence competency.

Confidence is knowing one’s own abilities and having enough faith in them to make sound decisions in the face of uncertainty and pressure.

Anger
Rice’s Rage Derails Him: Detecting Your Own Derailers

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on April 15, 2013

Derailer detection: Rutgers' Rice's rants and rages, robbed his career.
Every week we have new examples of someone not being able to manage their emotions and derailing. This week it is Mike Rice, Head Basketball coach from Rutgers University, who pushed, swore, used homophobic slurs and physically abused his players. He was first suspended, fined $50,000 and then fired.

Derailer detection: Rutgers' Rice's rants and rages, robbed his career.
Every week we have new examples of someone not being able to manage their emotions and derailing. This week it is Mike Rice, Head Basketball coach from Rutgers University, who pushed, swore, used homophobic slurs and physically abused his players. He was first suspended, fined $50,000 and then fired.

Drive for success sinks him
Infidelity
Fallen Heroes: Armstrong Cheating, Pistorius Shooting

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on February 27, 2013

Fallen Heroes: Every day we hear of some one cheating, losing their impulse control and in moments their career derails. What are your main derailers to avoid, take the derailer detector.

Fallen Heroes: Every day we hear of some one cheating, losing their impulse control and in moments their career derails. What are your main derailers to avoid, take the derailer detector.

I'm busy solving problems, not paying attention to you.
Leadership
Why Leaders Underperform: Their Default is to Find Fault

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on January 7, 2013

Leaders underperform because the pressing problem takes precedence over people development. New research suggest we can only be on one neural channel at a time, analysis or empathy. Which do you think gets our first attention at work?
Five strategies can help you stay tuned into the empathy channel with your direct reports and teams.

Leaders underperform because the pressing problem takes precedence over people development. New research suggest we can only be on one neural channel at a time, analysis or empathy. Which do you think gets our first attention at work?
Five strategies can help you stay tuned into the empathy channel with your direct reports and teams.

Leadership
Leadership Derailers and the Presidential Campaign

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on October 31, 2012

The presidential campaign has been full of denials, overused strengths, and Emotional Intelligence derailers. It has left disappointment in its wake and few leadership competencies to emulate. Here is a look at how to deconstruct some of these leadership dynamics and behaviors.

The presidential campaign has been full of denials, overused strengths, and Emotional Intelligence derailers. It has left disappointment in its wake and few leadership competencies to emulate. Here is a look at how to deconstruct some of these leadership dynamics and behaviors.

Narcissism
Steve Jobs' Narcissism: Do the Ends Justify the Means?

Relly Nadler Psy.D., M.C.C. on February 29, 2012

Steve Jobs is a fascinating case study in leadership, because he was a phenomenal innovator and marketer while at the same time being visionary and vicious. He is a star in some EI competencies, but he devastated others on the way to success. Do his ends and accomplishments justify his means?

Steve Jobs is a fascinating case study in leadership, because he was a phenomenal innovator and marketer while at the same time being visionary and vicious. He is a star in some EI competencies, but he devastated others on the way to success. Do his ends and accomplishments justify his means?