Inviting a Monkey to Tea

Trauma

Trauma Is Not a Bad Date or Discontinued Starbucks Drink

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on April 20, 2024

A Personal Perspective: We use "trauma" for every inconvenience we encounter, as if it's cool. It's not.

A Personal Perspective: We use "trauma" for every inconvenience we encounter, as if it's cool. It's not.

Burnout

Ctrl Alt Delete: Our Collective Tech Fatigue Is Real

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on April 3, 2024

A Personal Perspective: The toll of more self-kiosks and fewer humans.

A Personal Perspective: The toll of more self-kiosks and fewer humans.

Personal Perspectives

Another Long Weekend With the Kids...Oh My

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 24, 2024

A Personal Perspective: We can be good moms and (sometimes) hide from our kids.

A Personal Perspective: We can be good moms and (sometimes) hide from our kids.

Relationships

Being in Relationship Without Abandoning Yourself

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 8, 2024

Deciding that your experience also matters is not "making it all about you."

Deciding that your experience also matters is not "making it all about you."

Confidence

What Do You Want? Do You Ever Ask Yourself?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on January 26, 2024

Personal Perspective: When the question, "What do I want?" becomes impossible to ignore, your own truth becomes your north star.

Personal Perspective: When the question, "What do I want?" becomes impossible to ignore, your own truth becomes your north star.

Artificial Intelligence

AI or Happiness: Which Will We Choose?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on January 10, 2024

A Personal Perspective: Is technological progress making us happier? If not, shouldn't that matter?

A Personal Perspective: Is technological progress making us happier? If not, shouldn't that matter?

Self-Harm

When Over-Giving Is Depleting You: How to Stop

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 21, 2023

Letting go of your identity as a super-human, someone who can do it all means letting go of control. Are you ready?

Letting go of your identity as a super-human, someone who can do it all means letting go of control. Are you ready?

Forgiveness

Why It's So Exhausting to Be the One Everyone Counts On

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 12, 2023

I can remember the first time I said “no” without an apology, story, or justification attached. In that moment, a new me was born.

I can remember the first time I said “no” without an apology, story, or justification attached. In that moment, a new me was born.

Caregiving

Overwhelmed and Exhausted? How to Stop Giving Too Much

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 3, 2023

Are you willing to care about yourself, not just everyone else?

Are you willing to care about yourself, not just everyone else?

Relationships

Are You an Overgiver? When Life's Demands Feel Overwhelming

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 26, 2023

Overgivers may be afraid to disappoint others or be seen as selfish.

Overgivers may be afraid to disappoint others or be seen as selfish.

Mindfulness

Why Mindfulness Teaches Us How to Love

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 20, 2023

When we can witness our own thoughts without believing them as "Truth," every relationship in our life improves.

When we can witness our own thoughts without believing them as "Truth," every relationship in our life improves.

Wisdom

Tech Will Never Replace Human Kindness

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 21, 2023

Personal Perspective: The increasing erasure of humans from daily life deprives us of the very thing we need most.

Personal Perspective: The increasing erasure of humans from daily life deprives us of the very thing we need most.

Authenticity

When What You Need Is Not What Other People Need From You

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 15, 2023

Personal Perspective: Are you really allowed to choose your own needs and not someone else's?

Personal Perspective: Are you really allowed to choose your own needs and not someone else's?

Relationships

"Being Authentic" Is Not Always Telling Your Whole Truth

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on August 29, 2023

Does "being authentic" mean telling your whole truth, even when we know the other person can't hear it? When does "speaking up for yourself" become a "should"?

Does "being authentic" mean telling your whole truth, even when we know the other person can't hear it? When does "speaking up for yourself" become a "should"?

Projection

Responding Mindfully When Your Partner Is Projecting On You

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on July 29, 2023

When your partner is projecting, choosing your words carefully changes everything.

When your partner is projecting, choosing your words carefully changes everything.

Projection

What to Do When Your Partner Projects Their 'Stuff' Onto You

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on July 17, 2023

Responding mindfully in the face of projection isn't easy, but it is doable.

Responding mindfully in the face of projection isn't easy, but it is doable.

Projection

What If Our Partner Is Not Responsible for Our Pain?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on July 5, 2023

When we keep having the same feeling, it's wise to look past our partner's behavior and into the roots of the feeling.

When we keep having the same feeling, it's wise to look past our partner's behavior and into the roots of the feeling.

Projection

The 2 Relationship Poisons: Projection and Defensiveness

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on July 1, 2023

When you keep blaming your partner for your pain, it's time to take a closer look at yourself.

When you keep blaming your partner for your pain, it's time to take a closer look at yourself.

Relationships

3 Ways to Keep Calm When Someone Triggers You

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on June 20, 2023

Even when you're triggered, you don't have to react the same way.

Even when you're triggered, you don't have to react the same way.

Relationships

Why Some People Will Always Trigger You

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on June 11, 2023

Some people just trigger us, no matter how much "work" we've done.

Some people just trigger us, no matter how much "work" we've done.