5 Strategies to Improve Your Resilience in the "New Normal"

How is the new normal of “post-pandemic” life working for you? Are you experiencing enough resilience, balance, and well-being?

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As individuals, organizations, and communities, many of us are in a different headspace than we were before March 2020. The pandemic upended our lives, disrupted our habitual routines, and interfered with our desires, priorities, plans, and actions. Things may still feel quite unsettled. With COVID variants, political economic, and social divisiveness, and tensions across the world, we may be yearning for a more satisfying balance in the new normal.

In my own life, some things that worked before aren’t working now as today’s changing realities crash into how I’ve been functioning. For example, how do I effectively manage my time in the new normal? I began some new activities remotely during the quarantine period. How do I manage my time to keep going with these activities as I also return to all that I used to do and the people I used to see, prior to the limitations of the pandemic lifestyle?

As I talk with people, it seems that many of us are finding the uncertain, prolonged transition quite challenging. According to William Bridges (2023), transitions tend to progress in three general phases:

1. An ending in which something is over or fading, requiring us to let go of the familiar.
2. An in-between or neutral zone, where our internal dialogues happen as we adjust to the change—the loss of the old reality. We begin to create space and processes for what’s next.
3. New beginnings emerge as we re-orient to the new realities and refresh our understandings, roles, and practices.

As you navigate your own life transitions through current realities, how can you strengthen your resilience and balance?

Resilience is the process of adapting well to life’s challenges so you can adjust or bounce back. Resilience doesn’t remove the cause of the transition, suffering, or distress, rather it’s the path you create to more effectively deal with the circumstances you face. We all react differently to life’s stresses and difficulties, so resilience can be a very personal process for each of us.

Here are a few ways to move toward greater resilience and balance:

1. Understand that transitions, change, and impermanence are part of life and work on learning to adapt as life shifts.

Life is filled with ambiguities and the call to adjust. Most situations are not black or white, but evolve on a continuum—most of life is probably lived in the “gray zone.” Sharpening your ability to embrace uncertainty recognizes the gray aspects of life's flow.

The optimal course is not always apparent at first glance. Opening to the range of possibilities during uncertain, murky situations and emotions can help you refrain from rushing into premature conclusions and actions—and there are usually multiple ways to approach challenges.

2. See the big picture.

Ask yourself "How much will this matter in a month, a year, or ten years?" A broadened, balanced perspective can offer a more holistic vantage point for developing creative, practical, and resilient solutions. When you feel overwhelmed, stressed, and vulnerable, you may lose perspective. Engaging the wisdom within and attuning to what's really important can clarify priorities. Consider what you have control over and what you cannot control.

3. Lean on relationships and build a good support system.

Maintaining and building positive connections is a powerful strategy to help you pilot through challenging situations. As you navigate conflicts and challenges, your connections, relationships, and support systems can offer a guiding light and helping hand when you are floundering. Christopher Peterson (2006), a founder of positive psychology, is known for emphasizing that "other people matter."

4. Try to increase your dose of positive emotions each day.

For example: Engage with sources of humor and joy; learn to be optimistic by seeing the glass half full rather than half empty; experience and share thankfulness and gratitude; notice the beauty of the natural world; or reach out to share caring, fun, meaningful moments with others.

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5. Engage in practices to help you calm and relax.

How can you offer yourself intermissions during the day? Whether you’re comfortable with walking in natural surroundings, listening to or making music, creating art, exercising, breath awareness, meditation, or contemplative prayer, these kinds of practices can help to strengthen resilience and balance.

The objective is not to empty the mind, but to open it toward calm and mindful attention. You might try taking a mindful breath to create a pause to get centered before responding to a difficult situation. Focusing briefly on your breathing with the intention to calm yourself can help you slow down. One or several breaths can create the difference between an automatic, visceral reaction and an intuitive response.

Here’s to your resilience and thriving in life’s new normal!

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only. No content is a substitute for consulting with a qualified mental health or healthcare professional.

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