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This week I needed a refresher in the law of detachment: putting your intentions out there and having goals, but not controlling or anticipating the results.
Basically, I needed to chill out. I’m out of the corporate world these days. I can work from bed on projects and business ventures of my choosing. There’s a lot of risk involved with this lifestyle, which makes my heart pitter-patter for all the wrong reasons.
Part of me wants to know all my decisions are the right ones; even though I know it’s unfair to seek a promise of success when I’m barely out of the starting gate.
Life is a gamble, and any perception of security is imagined. All we have is our time now to play and try everything that feels good. You know, whatever might be in line with your true nature or self. You just can’t expect an outcome of your choosing.
Think about money. The most successful people never became rich because they were passionate about money (end result), they were passionate about their product.
And what about love? Many women who married bankers to live secure, safe lives are up to their eyeballs in debt and on the fringe of divorce. Their problem is obvious: They attached themselves to a desired outcome and way of life instead of going about the business of actually being alive and in love.
Our favorite Upper West-Sider Deepak Choprah says, “Those who seek security chase it for a lifetime without ever finding it, because security can never come from material wealth alone.”
Security has to come from you.
He goes on: “This search for security is an attachment to certainty, to the known. But freedom lies in the wisdom of uncertainty.”
I queued up HayHouse radio the other night and randomly heard the host tell listeners not to make the mistake so many people make. “Unless they know something succeeds, they’re not going to try. You’ll ruin your whole life waiting. Just jump on what feels good. Give everything a try,” she said.
I’m starting small. First, I’ll try getting out of bed and making breakfast. That’s always a good start. Then I’ll sit still and hang with the unknown for a bit. I’ll think about living from a place in my heart and not my head. We’ll just have to wait and see what happens next.
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