Inviting a Monkey to Tea

Attention

Do You Have the Courage to Be Disappointing?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 24, 2023

People-pleasing is the biggest hole in our emotional bucket.

People-pleasing is the biggest hole in our emotional bucket.

Self-Talk

What Tone of Voice Do You Use When You Talk to Yourself?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 16, 2023

The key to whether or not we suffer lies in the tone of voice we use in our self-talk.

The key to whether or not we suffer lies in the tone of voice we use in our self-talk.

Friends

The Likability Cage: Are Women Still Trapped?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 11, 2023

A Personal Perspective: The door to the likability cage opens from the inside.

A Personal Perspective: The door to the likability cage opens from the inside.

Anger

Do You Feel Like a Hostage to Your Partner's Anger?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on January 20, 2023

No one has the right to hold you hostage to their anger.

No one has the right to hold you hostage to their anger.

Anger

Your Partner's Anger Issues Don't Have to Be Yours

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on January 9, 2023

You can separate from your partner's anger without changing your partner.

You can separate from your partner's anger without changing your partner.

Anger

How to Live (Peacefully) With an Anger Bully

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on January 3, 2023

Your partner's anger issues don't have to be your problem.

Your partner's anger issues don't have to be your problem.

Loneliness

It's Time to Get Off Our Screens and Back to Real Community

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on December 15, 2022

Our screens may have saved us during COVID, but we still need real-life, physical community. Now more than ever.

Our screens may have saved us during COVID, but we still need real-life, physical community. Now more than ever.

Attention

How the Self-Care Industry Might Be Exhausting Women

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on December 1, 2022

Self-care, the way we often do it, is the wrong medicine for what ails women.

Self-care, the way we often do it, is the wrong medicine for what ails women.

Guilt

Recovering From 'Mom Guilt'

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 19, 2022

Be the mom you are, not the mom you "should" be. Just because you're a mom doesn't mean you have to feel guilt.

Be the mom you are, not the mom you "should" be. Just because you're a mom doesn't mean you have to feel guilt.

Guilt

The Guilt That Women Suffer

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 12, 2022

What if you stopped blaming yourself for everything wrong in your life?

What if you stopped blaming yourself for everything wrong in your life?

Resilience

What's Happened to Emotional Resilience?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 25, 2022

Are we raising children who can't handle the regular challenges of life?

Are we raising children who can't handle the regular challenges of life?

Anger

What to Do When a Partner Denies Saying What They Said

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 8, 2022

When your partner says they didn't say that, but they did, here's how to not pull your hair out.

When your partner says they didn't say that, but they did, here's how to not pull your hair out.

Attention

How to Have a Healthy Relationship With Your Emotions

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on August 20, 2022

You are not your thoughts, but you are also not your emotions.

You are not your thoughts, but you are also not your emotions.

Authenticity

Should vs. Want: Freeing Yourself From the "Shoulding" Habit

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on August 7, 2022

What if you were to live your life from "want"? Imagine that.

What if you were to live your life from "want"? Imagine that.

Empathy

Self-Care Is Not Selfish

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on July 13, 2022

You deserve to get (and give yourself) what you want. It doesn't make you entitled, and it's not something you have to earn.

You deserve to get (and give yourself) what you want. It doesn't make you entitled, and it's not something you have to earn.

Anxiety

A Better Way to Make Hard Choices

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on June 27, 2022

Do you get stuck when making hard choices? The right question can free you up.

Do you get stuck when making hard choices? The right question can free you up.

Attention

Self-Care: When You Need More Than a Trip to the Spa

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on June 2, 2022

A Personal Perspective: Real self-care requires more than just a feel-good quick fix.

A Personal Perspective: Real self-care requires more than just a feel-good quick fix.

Resilience

An Ode to Feeling Uncomfortable

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on May 25, 2022

Discomfort isn't the enemy; the more you can live with being uncomfortable, the more prepared you are to live as a human being.

Discomfort isn't the enemy; the more you can live with being uncomfortable, the more prepared you are to live as a human being.

Addiction

When You Use Food to Check Out on Feelings

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on May 2, 2022

Do you want to stop overeating? Then it's time to check-in not check out on yourself.

Do you want to stop overeating? Then it's time to check-in not check out on yourself.

Trust

Why It's OK to Like Yourself a Little More

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on April 16, 2022

Removing people who judge and criticize you is ok. It's the essence of self-love.

Removing people who judge and criticize you is ok. It's the essence of self-love.