Divorce Busting

Sex

Sex: The Gift That Keeps on Giving

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on November 13, 2014

Some people believe that the decision to have sex is strictly a personal one. Being in the mood is a prerequisite. But are there other things to consider in committed relationships?

Some people believe that the decision to have sex is strictly a personal one. Being in the mood is a prerequisite. But are there other things to consider in committed relationships?

Marriage

Two Lists That Can Save Your Marriage

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on June 4, 2014

Psychological stamina- The difference between those who make it and those who don't

Psychological stamina- The difference between those who make it and those who don't

Sex

The Sex-Starved Marriage Secret

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on May 12, 2014

Sometimes, there is a simple solution to a sexual desire gap.

Sometimes, there is a simple solution to a sexual desire gap.

Marriage

No Stone Unturned

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on March 31, 2011

Would leaving no stone unturned keep a marriage therapist's marriage intact?

Would leaving no stone unturned keep a marriage therapist's marriage intact?

Relationships

New Year's Resolutions for 2011?- A picture is worth a thousand words

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on December 30, 2010

IF you want to make 2011 the best year ever, pay more attention to your relationship than you do your bank account, waistline, or drinking and smoking habits.  Maintaining marital fitness offers benefits that go far beyond other resolutions that fade soon after the ball drops.

IF you want to make 2011 the best year ever, pay more attention to your relationship than you do your bank account, waistline, or drinking and smoking habits.  Maintaining marital fitness offers benefits that go far beyond other resolutions that fade soon after the ball drops.

Relationships

10 Marriage New Years Resolutions for 2011: The Divorce Busters Edition

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on December 29, 2010

Most marriage New Year's Resolutions are written for couples in which both partners are willing work toward their goals together. Unfortunately, many spouses don't have that luxury.  If you're going about saving your marriage alone, please, read this!

Most marriage New Year's Resolutions are written for couples in which both partners are willing work toward their goals together. Unfortunately, many spouses don't have that luxury.  If you're going about saving your marriage alone, please, read this!

Fall always makes me pensive. But this year, the ping felt deep inside has taken on extra meaning. It marks the two-year anniversary of my mother's fatal car accident. 

Parenting

The Mommy Madness Mistake

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on November 3, 2010

"The best way to avoid the mommy madness mistake is to remember that the single best thing you can do for your children is to put your marriage first."

"The best way to avoid the mommy madness mistake is to remember that the single best thing you can do for your children is to put your marriage first."

Marriage

How to Get What You Want (Without Complaining)

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on October 26, 2010

There's a difference between asking for what you want, and complaining. Although complaining may occasionally work for you, it's not doing your marriage any favors in the long term. Eventually the other spouse will shut down. The following post walks you through how to ask for what you want in a more productive manner.

There's a difference between asking for what you want, and complaining. Although complaining may occasionally work for you, it's not doing your marriage any favors in the long term. Eventually the other spouse will shut down. The following post walks you through how to ask for what you want in a more productive manner.

Relationships

Friends Aren't Enough

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on October 12, 2010

Ok, I really know nothing about why Courtney Cox and David Arquette are calling it quits, but that doesn't stop me from having an opinion.

Ok, I really know nothing about why Courtney Cox and David Arquette are calling it quits, but that doesn't stop me from having an opinion.

Marriage

How Can You Tell When a Marriage Is Over?

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on August 19, 2010

Your marriage is in trouble. You don't know what to do . You want unbiased professional advice, "Can or should this marriage be saved?" But in reality, is there such a thing?

Your marriage is in trouble. You don't know what to do . You want unbiased professional advice, "Can or should this marriage be saved?" But in reality, is there such a thing?

Relationships

What's Up With Al and Tipper Gore? Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on June 3, 2010

Here we go again. We are endlessly fascinated when high profile marriages crash and burn. It offers us opportunities to speculate, criticize, engulf ourselves in smugness, or in humbler moments, recognize the humanity in all of us. But most of all, just like the outrageously popular show, American Idol, it gives us something to talk about and weigh in on.

Here we go again. We are endlessly fascinated when high profile marriages crash and burn. It offers us opportunities to speculate, criticize, engulf ourselves in smugness, or in humbler moments, recognize the humanity in all of us. But most of all, just like the outrageously popular show, American Idol, it gives us something to talk about and weigh in on.

Though it's natural to confide in close friends and relatives when your marriage goes astray, think twice. It may come back to haunt you.

Stress

The Calm Before the Calm

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on March 3, 2010

If you have been following my blog, you know that I usually write about marriage.  Today, I am going to veer from my path and write about something big that happened on my vacation with my husband in Hawaii.  Although the experience certainly brought us closer, I don't recommend it as a regular method for reconnecting.  In a moment, you'll see why.

If you have been following my blog, you know that I usually write about marriage.  Today, I am going to veer from my path and write about something big that happened on my vacation with my husband in Hawaii.  Although the experience certainly brought us closer, I don't recommend it as a regular method for reconnecting.  In a moment, you'll see why.

If your relationship is on the rocks, Valentine's Day might be just another painful reminder that your life isn't what you hoped it would be. What do you do?

Sex

9 Tips for the Partner With a Higher Sex Drive

Michele Weiner-Davis LCSW on January 27, 2010

Are you the spouse with the higher sex drive? Here are nine tips to approach your partner in ways that will increase the chances that she or he will want to be close to you.

Are you the spouse with the higher sex drive? Here are nine tips to approach your partner in ways that will increase the chances that she or he will want to be close to you.

Addressing the most common sexual problem for couples: A sexual desire gap.

I've got some eye-opening news that might make the usual New Year's resolutions of becoming healthier, happier, richer (or at least less strapped for cash) more of a reality this year. Follow my advice and you won't only lose weight, quit smoking and feel more energetic, you will actually live longer.

As soon as I heard on the news that Tiger Woods smashed his car after leaving his house at some ungodly hour in the morning, I knew we were in for a tabloid blitz with speculations about the possible reasons for such a hasty exit. Then, once allegations of infidelity started to hit the airwaves, the inevitable happened- all eyes turned to the intriguing Tiger Woods mystery. Inquiring minds want to know, "What did he do?" "Why did he do it," "How often did he do it?" "What does this mean for his marriage and more importantly, his endorsements?" So many questions, so little time.

Most therapists are well-meaning, but not always qualified to do marital therapy. Here are some guidelines to consider should you seek professional help to improve your marriage.