Constructive Wallowing

Relationships

A Simple Technique for a Closer Relationship

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 18, 2018

Do you ever wish you could feel closer to your partner, but aren't sure how? Here's one thing you can do to close the distance.

Do you ever wish you could feel closer to your partner, but aren't sure how? Here's one thing you can do to close the distance.

Depression

Unhappy? Maybe You Should Be

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 14, 2018

Unlike depression, simple unhappiness requires a different response. Here’s what to do if you’re unhappy in your relationship.

Unlike depression, simple unhappiness requires a different response. Here’s what to do if you’re unhappy in your relationship.

Relationships

8 Things No One Should Say in a Text

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 9, 2018

If texting is your primary means of communication, you could be damaging your relationship without knowing it. How many of these common errors are putting you at risk?

If texting is your primary means of communication, you could be damaging your relationship without knowing it. How many of these common errors are putting you at risk?

Personality

Why Your Estranged Child Doesn’t Want to Reconcile

Tina Gilbertson LPC on May 15, 2018

Many adult children cut off their parents when they don’t see possibilities for change in relationships that feel inherently flawed. Here’s how parents can counteract that bias.

Many adult children cut off their parents when they don’t see possibilities for change in relationships that feel inherently flawed. Here’s how parents can counteract that bias.

Embarrassment

Embarrassed? Here's How to Get Over It Quickly

Tina Gilbertson LPC on April 3, 2018

You don't have to remain self-conscious all your life. Researchers have come up with a strategy for reducing embarrassment through simple thought-refocusing.

You don't have to remain self-conscious all your life. Researchers have come up with a strategy for reducing embarrassment through simple thought-refocusing.

Anxiety

The Secret Key to Personal Growth

Tina Gilbertson LPC on March 7, 2018

It's possible to make just about any change in your life with sufficient effort. But permanent changes all have one thing in common, and it's way more subtle.

It's possible to make just about any change in your life with sufficient effort. But permanent changes all have one thing in common, and it's way more subtle.

Resilience

Why You Need to Cry Over Spilt Milk

Tina Gilbertson LPC on February 4, 2018

Allowing yourself to feel bad about a failure may not come naturally, but it turns out to be predictive of future success.

Allowing yourself to feel bad about a failure may not come naturally, but it turns out to be predictive of future success.

Bette Davis famously said, “Getting old is not for sissies.” It doesn't have to be that bad. Don’t let aging rob you of mental health and happiness.

Psychopharmacology

A Letter from Santa’s Therapist

Tina Gilbertson LPC on December 5, 2017

If you think it’s all sugar plums and gum drops for Santa Claus, think again. According to his therapist, he’s got everything from anxiety to trauma.

If you think it’s all sugar plums and gum drops for Santa Claus, think again. According to his therapist, he’s got everything from anxiety to trauma.

Passive-Aggression

How to Respond to Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Tina Gilbertson LPC on November 30, 2017

Is someone’s passive-aggressive behavior driving you up the wall? Maybe you’re working too hard. Here’s what to do instead.

Is someone’s passive-aggressive behavior driving you up the wall? Maybe you’re working too hard. Here’s what to do instead.

Passive-Aggression

A Passive-Aggressive Thanksgiving

Tina Gilbertson LPC on October 31, 2017

A tongue-in-cheek look at what’s going on under the surface at the passive-aggressive family’s holiday table.

A tongue-in-cheek look at what’s going on under the surface at the passive-aggressive family’s holiday table.

Codependency

Are You Supportive or Codependent?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on September 6, 2017

Do you disappear in relationships, getting lost in the problems and concerns of others? Use this technique to trick yourself into holding better boundaries.

Do you disappear in relationships, getting lost in the problems and concerns of others? Use this technique to trick yourself into holding better boundaries.

Punishment

Is It the Silent Treatment or Estrangement?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 1, 2017

Five ways to know if you’re estranged from someone, or they’re giving you the silent treatment.

Five ways to know if you’re estranged from someone, or they’re giving you the silent treatment.

Happiness

Why Trying to Be Happy Is So Depressing

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 5, 2017

A study sheds light on why there's so much depression in countries that emphasize the pursuit of happiness.

A study sheds light on why there's so much depression in countries that emphasize the pursuit of happiness.

Burnout

Why Complainers Need Your Compassion

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 20, 2017

The freedom to complain is part of a healthy society. Here's how best to respond to your own, or someone else's, occasional complaining.

The freedom to complain is part of a healthy society. Here's how best to respond to your own, or someone else's, occasional complaining.

Relationships

8 Ways to Help Your Partner Understand You

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 14, 2017

Sometimes the way you feel can be hard for your partner to hear. These tips will increase your chances of getting through, being heard, and having your needs met.

Sometimes the way you feel can be hard for your partner to hear. These tips will increase your chances of getting through, being heard, and having your needs met.

Anxiety

How to Stop Worrying When Your Thoughts Won’t Cooperate

Tina Gilbertson LPC on April 4, 2017

Underlying feelings that haven’t been processed can create thoughts that fuel worry. When thought-stopping doesn’t work, here’s what to try instead.

Underlying feelings that haven’t been processed can create thoughts that fuel worry. When thought-stopping doesn’t work, here’s what to try instead.

Forgiveness

When You Can't Forgive

Tina Gilbertson LPC on March 1, 2017

Forgiveness is natural when certain conditions are met. But in the absence of one or more of these, it’s not your fault if you can’t get past it.

Forgiveness is natural when certain conditions are met. But in the absence of one or more of these, it’s not your fault if you can’t get past it.

Career

Office Gossip: How to Make Sure It's NOT About You

Tina Gilbertson LPC on February 1, 2017

If people didn’t behave badly at work, there’d be no such thing as office gossip. Here’s how to reduce your chances of being the subject.

If people didn’t behave badly at work, there’d be no such thing as office gossip. Here’s how to reduce your chances of being the subject.

Career

9 Ways to Tell if Your Breakup Will Last

Tina Gilbertson LPC on January 2, 2017

Are you going through a breakup, but having a hard time? Some of these factors might be working against you.

Are you going through a breakup, but having a hard time? Some of these factors might be working against you.