Emotionally Focused Counselling in Wellington

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Victoria Edwards
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Wellington TA21
During our lives many of us can experience loneliness, despair, abandonment and many things that can affect our happiness. I provide a safe space where you can heal and grow without fear of judgment. Whether you need to revisit painful past experiences, traumas. or work in the present with anxiety or grief, I can help. I am an accredited therapist with many years experience and have worked with many clients covering a range of topics and issues.
During our lives many of us can experience loneliness, despair, abandonment and many things that can affect our happiness. I provide a safe space where you can heal and grow without fear of judgment. Whether you need to revisit painful past experiences, traumas. or work in the present with anxiety or grief, I can help. I am an accredited therapist with many years experience and have worked with many clients covering a range of topics and issues.
01823 212274 View 01823 212274
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Victoria Clare Lumby
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Wellington TA21
There are so many reasons why you might be looking for a counsellor/therapist; these could be depression, anxiety, sadness, relationships, past abuse, low self-esteem, bereavement and loss etc and now the effects of Covid 19. Sometimes you just need a neutral place to think; someone to listen and help you make sense of what's going on and enable you to make the changes you want and need. I'm a counsellor it's what I do. I offer a compassionate non-judgemental place where you will be safe to speak. In our first appointment I will listen to what you bring and we can then decide together how to move forward together.
There are so many reasons why you might be looking for a counsellor/therapist; these could be depression, anxiety, sadness, relationships, past abuse, low self-esteem, bereavement and loss etc and now the effects of Covid 19. Sometimes you just need a neutral place to think; someone to listen and help you make sense of what's going on and enable you to make the changes you want and need. I'm a counsellor it's what I do. I offer a compassionate non-judgemental place where you will be safe to speak. In our first appointment I will listen to what you bring and we can then decide together how to move forward together.
01952 984159 View 01952 984159
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Karen Janas - Spark Consulting Services Ltd
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Wellington TA21
I offer professional, experienced counselling for individuals, couples, young people, employers and employees. If you are finding life difficult, counselling can help, whether you are struggling with depression, anxiety, anger, obsessive thoughts, panic, stress, low self-esteem, confidence, your relationships, grief or something else. Counselling is not just about helping you solve problems its about helping you make positive changes that enhance your life. I provide a non-judgemental, confidential space, where you can feel safe to explore things about yourself and any problems you may be facing. Clinic in Wellington, Somerset
I offer professional, experienced counselling for individuals, couples, young people, employers and employees. If you are finding life difficult, counselling can help, whether you are struggling with depression, anxiety, anger, obsessive thoughts, panic, stress, low self-esteem, confidence, your relationships, grief or something else. Counselling is not just about helping you solve problems its about helping you make positive changes that enhance your life. I provide a non-judgemental, confidential space, where you can feel safe to explore things about yourself and any problems you may be facing. Clinic in Wellington, Somerset
07480 536717 View 07480 536717
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Luiza Pearson
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Wellington TA21
I am an experienced Humanistic Integrative Psychotherapist practising from Nether Stowey in Somerset. I have worked in private practice for twenty years and have experience with all aspects of human concerns. I aim to create an inviting space in which my clients are able to explore their deeper motivations and obstacles, thereby gaining insight and understanding and the potential to change things.
I am an experienced Humanistic Integrative Psychotherapist practising from Nether Stowey in Somerset. I have worked in private practice for twenty years and have experience with all aspects of human concerns. I aim to create an inviting space in which my clients are able to explore their deeper motivations and obstacles, thereby gaining insight and understanding and the potential to change things.
01278 554218 View 01278 554218
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Dr Maria Gascon-Ramos
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Wellington TA21
As a Clinical & Educational Psychologist, I work with children and adults with a range of difficulties who want to improve their lives. Clients I see struggle with attachment trauma, anxiety, depression, physical symptoms and self-criticism. They often feel, anxious, drained, live with pain, gastro problems, phobias and/or PTSD/ADHD or FND symptoms. Relationships are challenging, and trusting others to access help is a struggle. Through our work, we develop greater awareness of how they relate to others in intimate relationships, and the impact this has on their body and mind, which helps them relate to themselves differently too.
As a Clinical & Educational Psychologist, I work with children and adults with a range of difficulties who want to improve their lives. Clients I see struggle with attachment trauma, anxiety, depression, physical symptoms and self-criticism. They often feel, anxious, drained, live with pain, gastro problems, phobias and/or PTSD/ADHD or FND symptoms. Relationships are challenging, and trusting others to access help is a struggle. Through our work, we develop greater awareness of how they relate to others in intimate relationships, and the impact this has on their body and mind, which helps them relate to themselves differently too.
01823 589443 View 01823 589443
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Rachel Anna Jones
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Wellington TA21
As an experienced family therapist in CAMHS and private practice, I have worked with individuals, couples and families for over 14 years. I specialise in working with relationships, self-harm, mood difficulties, emotional dysregulation and eating and body image difficulties. Alongside working with families and couples, I have a particular interest in supporting clients who are neurodiverse, diagnosed or self-diagnosed, to live in an authentic and unmasked way that aligns with their values. I provide a compassionate and open space and embrace working in a neuro-affirming way to support you to feel empowered and heard.
As an experienced family therapist in CAMHS and private practice, I have worked with individuals, couples and families for over 14 years. I specialise in working with relationships, self-harm, mood difficulties, emotional dysregulation and eating and body image difficulties. Alongside working with families and couples, I have a particular interest in supporting clients who are neurodiverse, diagnosed or self-diagnosed, to live in an authentic and unmasked way that aligns with their values. I provide a compassionate and open space and embrace working in a neuro-affirming way to support you to feel empowered and heard.
01392 537185 View 01392 537185

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Dr Lynda Foulder- Hughes
PhD
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Taunton TA1
Hello there! My name is Dr Lynda Foulder-Hughes. I am an experienced Psychotherapist, and accredited member of UKAHPP. My initial training was as an Occupational, Therapist (state HCPC registered between 1991-2019). I have over 33 years of successful practice experience in hospitals, clinics, social care, voluntary organisations, education settings and television. I am trained in a range of approaches including: CBT, EMDR, Flash EMDR Technique, Rewind, Humanistic Counselling, DBT, ACT, SFT, CFT, MI, Mindfulness and Meditation. My approach to treatment is holistic, evidence-based and integrative, depending upon your needs.
Hello there! My name is Dr Lynda Foulder-Hughes. I am an experienced Psychotherapist, and accredited member of UKAHPP. My initial training was as an Occupational, Therapist (state HCPC registered between 1991-2019). I have over 33 years of successful practice experience in hospitals, clinics, social care, voluntary organisations, education settings and television. I am trained in a range of approaches including: CBT, EMDR, Flash EMDR Technique, Rewind, Humanistic Counselling, DBT, ACT, SFT, CFT, MI, Mindfulness and Meditation. My approach to treatment is holistic, evidence-based and integrative, depending upon your needs.
07380 327510 View 07380 327510
Photo of Jane Hall, MSc, HCPC-Art Therap., Psychotherapist
Jane Hall
Psychotherapist, MSc, HCPC-Art Therap.
Verified Verified
Taunton TA1
Building a trusting, safe, collaborative therapeutic relationship is my priority. I offer art psychotherapy and talking psychotherapy, where I walk alongside you in your therapeutic journey. I have worked in urgent care mental health (NHS) and in the community, working with children and adults to address: grief, anxiety, psychosis. hearing voices, depression, embodied trauma, complex mental health problems, bipolar, attachment disruption, developmental trauma, sexual abuse and violence, and domestic abuse. You have choice and control at what happens during therapy, and we work together to meet your needs.
Building a trusting, safe, collaborative therapeutic relationship is my priority. I offer art psychotherapy and talking psychotherapy, where I walk alongside you in your therapeutic journey. I have worked in urgent care mental health (NHS) and in the community, working with children and adults to address: grief, anxiety, psychosis. hearing voices, depression, embodied trauma, complex mental health problems, bipolar, attachment disruption, developmental trauma, sexual abuse and violence, and domestic abuse. You have choice and control at what happens during therapy, and we work together to meet your needs.
01823 213415 View 01823 213415
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Claire Perrott
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Cullompton EX15
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you living your life how you want to? Do you need some help navigating life? Get in contact for a free 15 minute initial consultation to find out how I can help you. Offering individual counselling online, in person and outside to adults and teenagers.
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you living your life how you want to? Do you need some help navigating life? Get in contact for a free 15 minute initial consultation to find out how I can help you. Offering individual counselling online, in person and outside to adults and teenagers.
01392 321123 View 01392 321123
Photo of Gram Davies, PNCPS Acc., Psychotherapist
Gram Davies
Psychotherapist, PNCPS Acc.
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Taunton TA1
I’m a higher accredited professional practicing from Tiverton and remotely. I have worked with individual adults from many backgrounds since 2020. I offer a sincere, therapeutic opportunity to discuss whatever is troubling you. Therapy is a private conversation, away from daily expectations and assumptions. This will feel quite different to styles of therapy that use assessments or set protocols. The steady, regular setting helps you be sincerely inquisitive about what is going on. People often come to therapy when their usual ways of coping aren’t working. It’s about emotional healing, self-understanding and personal change.
I’m a higher accredited professional practicing from Tiverton and remotely. I have worked with individual adults from many backgrounds since 2020. I offer a sincere, therapeutic opportunity to discuss whatever is troubling you. Therapy is a private conversation, away from daily expectations and assumptions. This will feel quite different to styles of therapy that use assessments or set protocols. The steady, regular setting helps you be sincerely inquisitive about what is going on. People often come to therapy when their usual ways of coping aren’t working. It’s about emotional healing, self-understanding and personal change.
01794 337336 View 01794 337336
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First Intervention Therapy [FIT]
Verified Verified
Taunton TA1
We specialise in meeting client need especially clients experiencing mental health problems. We offer Mental Health Assessments at £1150 per assessment and this includes formulation and report writing; ADHD and/or ASC/ASD Assessments for a working diagnosis at £1300 each. Perhaps you or your child has been on the waiting list for long, then we here to help you. We provide community package to help young people with mental health problems within community settings and call us to discuss further if you need our help or advise. We also provide DBT & CBT and Problem Solving Therapy but we have to make an assessment first.
We specialise in meeting client need especially clients experiencing mental health problems. We offer Mental Health Assessments at £1150 per assessment and this includes formulation and report writing; ADHD and/or ASC/ASD Assessments for a working diagnosis at £1300 each. Perhaps you or your child has been on the waiting list for long, then we here to help you. We provide community package to help young people with mental health problems within community settings and call us to discuss further if you need our help or advise. We also provide DBT & CBT and Problem Solving Therapy but we have to make an assessment first.
020 8159 9730 View 020 8159 9730
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Dr Bishnu Upadhaya
Psychologist, PhD, CPsychol
Not Verified Not Verified
Newport TA3  (Online Only)
An enthusiastic, skilled and well-motivated Psychological, Neuropsychological, Integrated Medicine and healthcare consultant with more than 19 years’ experiences, promoting the welfare of patients, families, and vulnerable people. Experienced in providing specialist Neuropsychological, Psychological, Herbal Medicine, Naturopathic and Homeopathic Medicine Assessments, Consultation and Treatments of direct and referred clients based upon the appropriate use, interpretation and integration of complex data from a psychological and holistic approach and treatment and tasting.
An enthusiastic, skilled and well-motivated Psychological, Neuropsychological, Integrated Medicine and healthcare consultant with more than 19 years’ experiences, promoting the welfare of patients, families, and vulnerable people. Experienced in providing specialist Neuropsychological, Psychological, Herbal Medicine, Naturopathic and Homeopathic Medicine Assessments, Consultation and Treatments of direct and referred clients based upon the appropriate use, interpretation and integration of complex data from a psychological and holistic approach and treatment and tasting.
020 3835 4892 View 020 3835 4892

Online Therapists

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Vikki Joy Fear
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Bristol BS6
Waitlist for new clients
I use talking therapy, EFT, neuroscience and creative techniques suh as art, sand tray, journalling and play to help you process trauma and support you through difficulties.
I am a down to earth and approachable counsellor for children, young people and adults. I have 27 years experience working with young people who have been abused as well as people with neurodivergence. At times, feelings and behaviours can become difficult due to past trauma, increasing anxiety or for unknown reasons. We can also feel this physically and it blocks lifes natural progression. Past trauma does not need to be extreme and we often underestimate the impact an event has on us. I can help you make sense of your emotions and behaviours and manage your responses to triggers, allowing progression towrards your desired goals.
I use talking therapy, EFT, neuroscience and creative techniques suh as art, sand tray, journalling and play to help you process trauma and support you through difficulties.
I am a down to earth and approachable counsellor for children, young people and adults. I have 27 years experience working with young people who have been abused as well as people with neurodivergence. At times, feelings and behaviours can become difficult due to past trauma, increasing anxiety or for unknown reasons. We can also feel this physically and it blocks lifes natural progression. Past trauma does not need to be extreme and we often underestimate the impact an event has on us. I can help you make sense of your emotions and behaviours and manage your responses to triggers, allowing progression towrards your desired goals.
01275 402983 View 01275 402983
Photo of Sarah Ruth Janes, MA, MBACP, Counsellor
Sarah Ruth Janes
Counsellor, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Southsea PO4  (Online Only)
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples with a foundation in attachment theory.
I am an LGBTQ+ counsellor working online with individuals and couples who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and queer. Beginning with a free 'getting to know you' session lasting 50 minutes for individuals, I offer a warm humanistic approach. I have 8 years experience working with a wide range of issues including depression, disassociation and complicated grief disorder. As a member of the LGBT+ community I understand issues around minority stress, cumulative childhood trauma, coming out, isolation and belonging.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples with a foundation in attachment theory.
I am an LGBTQ+ counsellor working online with individuals and couples who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and queer. Beginning with a free 'getting to know you' session lasting 50 minutes for individuals, I offer a warm humanistic approach. I have 8 years experience working with a wide range of issues including depression, disassociation and complicated grief disorder. As a member of the LGBT+ community I understand issues around minority stress, cumulative childhood trauma, coming out, isolation and belonging.
020 3962 1806 View 020 3962 1806
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Helen Hoyte Wellbeing
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MNCPS Acc.
Verified Verified
Torquay TQ1
My aim as a counsellor & coach is to listen to you and understand you, offer you a safe space to talk & help you to understand what is going on for you. I can help you to find a pathway forward and find some understanding. Areas of interest & specialism are trauma, neurodiversity, (particularly ADHD) & relationships, although my work is not limited to these areas and I work with a diverse range of clients. I also offer alternative therapies to my clients, if required, which can be taken alongside counselling or coaching, including EFT, hypnotherapy, guided meditations, Indian Head Massage & Reiki.
My aim as a counsellor & coach is to listen to you and understand you, offer you a safe space to talk & help you to understand what is going on for you. I can help you to find a pathway forward and find some understanding. Areas of interest & specialism are trauma, neurodiversity, (particularly ADHD) & relationships, although my work is not limited to these areas and I work with a diverse range of clients. I also offer alternative therapies to my clients, if required, which can be taken alongside counselling or coaching, including EFT, hypnotherapy, guided meditations, Indian Head Massage & Reiki.
07923 469456 View 07923 469456
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Jo Williams
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Swansea SA1
I have a PG Dip in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
I'm Jo and I am a qualified psychotherapist working with adults and couples. I am a Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP). I practice person-centred and emotion-focused therapy and have experience working in many different areas including bereavement, anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress. I aim to form an open and genuine therapeutic relationship with you to offer guidance and support with whatever your needs are. I offer a non-judgemental and encouraging style to explore the concerns that bring you to seek counselling.
I have a PG Dip in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
I'm Jo and I am a qualified psychotherapist working with adults and couples. I am a Registered Member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP). I practice person-centred and emotion-focused therapy and have experience working in many different areas including bereavement, anxiety, depression and post-traumatic stress. I aim to form an open and genuine therapeutic relationship with you to offer guidance and support with whatever your needs are. I offer a non-judgemental and encouraging style to explore the concerns that bring you to seek counselling.
01792 342536 View 01792 342536
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Melanie Rivera
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Wareham BH20
I specialise in 'Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy', providing a flexible and holistic approach that combines various therapeutic models such as Humanistic, Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioural Approaches, trauma-informed EMDR, Emotionally Focused, and Mindfulness-based therapies.
Hi, I'm Melanie Rivera. I work with adults 18+ who may be experiencing challenges such as trauma, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, and more. Clients often come to me feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or struggling to navigate their circumstances. They often seek a deeper understanding of themselves and their situations. Many want to make meaningful changes in their lives but don't know where to begin and are looking for a therapist to support them while they process, heal and find ways to be more resilient, confident and experience more joy. If you can relate to this you might just be in the right place!
I specialise in 'Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy', providing a flexible and holistic approach that combines various therapeutic models such as Humanistic, Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioural Approaches, trauma-informed EMDR, Emotionally Focused, and Mindfulness-based therapies.
Hi, I'm Melanie Rivera. I work with adults 18+ who may be experiencing challenges such as trauma, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, and more. Clients often come to me feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or struggling to navigate their circumstances. They often seek a deeper understanding of themselves and their situations. Many want to make meaningful changes in their lives but don't know where to begin and are looking for a therapist to support them while they process, heal and find ways to be more resilient, confident and experience more joy. If you can relate to this you might just be in the right place!
01202 125478 View 01202 125478
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Phil Owen
Verified Verified
Swansea SA2
I am a Blue Health Coach also qualified in EMDR, EFT and Recovery and Wellbeing Coaching. I also practice the Birth Awareness 3 Step Process for dealing with Birth Trauma, and general trauma. As a Blue Health Coach I specialise in Blue Health, a term that spans a range of research into the benefits of being in, near, on and under water I use Blue Health Science and the natural beach or coastal environment to work with my clients. For clients that would like to try, I also provide a more active Surf Therapy, where we use the activity as a way to experience flow state and mindfulness, improving physical and mental wellbeing.
I am a Blue Health Coach also qualified in EMDR, EFT and Recovery and Wellbeing Coaching. I also practice the Birth Awareness 3 Step Process for dealing with Birth Trauma, and general trauma. As a Blue Health Coach I specialise in Blue Health, a term that spans a range of research into the benefits of being in, near, on and under water I use Blue Health Science and the natural beach or coastal environment to work with my clients. For clients that would like to try, I also provide a more active Surf Therapy, where we use the activity as a way to experience flow state and mindfulness, improving physical and mental wellbeing.
01792 949409 View 01792 949409
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EMDR, PSYCH-K, CBT, EFT, Bach flowers, Homeopathy
Psychotherapist, MSc, GMBPsS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Bristol BS5
I believe that we all have the potential to heal ourselves. Are you aware that you have a negative mental state at work or in relationships? Is it persistent, or do you feel stressed, anxious, depressed, worried, and have a low level of liveliness? I can support you to find pathways to overcome these limitations. I am a compassionate integrative psychotherapist. I offer EMDR- 2013, Psych-K!, Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy CBT, EFT, Mindfulness. Homeopathy (4 y), Bach flowers (BFP). I can help you to transform your life’s limitations arising from anxiety/ trauma, Personal, sleeping, relationships, work difficulties & others.
I believe that we all have the potential to heal ourselves. Are you aware that you have a negative mental state at work or in relationships? Is it persistent, or do you feel stressed, anxious, depressed, worried, and have a low level of liveliness? I can support you to find pathways to overcome these limitations. I am a compassionate integrative psychotherapist. I offer EMDR- 2013, Psych-K!, Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapy CBT, EFT, Mindfulness. Homeopathy (4 y), Bach flowers (BFP). I can help you to transform your life’s limitations arising from anxiety/ trauma, Personal, sleeping, relationships, work difficulties & others.
0117 374 7699 View 0117 374 7699
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Let's Talk Therapy Wales
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
Llanelli SA14
Emotion-Focussed Therapy (EFT) helps us refine the skill of emotion regulation; improving awareness of our emotions, helping us to better understand them and ultimately, better understand ourselves.
I'm Luisa and I'm a qualified psychotherapist, based in South West Wales, experienced in working with many forms of emotional distress. My approach comes from a person-centred and emotion focussed standpoint, with a keen interest in a holistic approach. Through gentle exploration in a warm and safe environment, I open the space for you to explore your situation at your own pace, without judgement, recognising each individual's subjective experience. With my experience in the creative industry, I love to hear about your creative interests and encourage you to use these in your therapy journey, if you so wish.
Emotion-Focussed Therapy (EFT) helps us refine the skill of emotion regulation; improving awareness of our emotions, helping us to better understand them and ultimately, better understand ourselves.
I'm Luisa and I'm a qualified psychotherapist, based in South West Wales, experienced in working with many forms of emotional distress. My approach comes from a person-centred and emotion focussed standpoint, with a keen interest in a holistic approach. Through gentle exploration in a warm and safe environment, I open the space for you to explore your situation at your own pace, without judgement, recognising each individual's subjective experience. With my experience in the creative industry, I love to hear about your creative interests and encourage you to use these in your therapy journey, if you so wish.
01792 949065 View 01792 949065

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Emotionally Focused Counsellors

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.