Borderline Personality (BPD) Counselling in Wakefield
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I work with a range of conditions including stress, depression, anxiety disorders; trauma and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), Panic Disorder, BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), Social Anxiety, Health Anxiety, relationship problems, work related issues etc.
I am an accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist, EMDR and DBT Practitioner. My background is in mental health nursing (since 1997!). I have extensive experience in working with clients struggling with emotional regulation, anxiety, complex trauma and a range of common mental health problems. I am the founder and director of Yorkshire Psychotherapy Ltd, a private therapy practice and have a team of associates that work with children, adolescents and adults.
I work with a range of conditions including stress, depression, anxiety disorders; trauma and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), Panic Disorder, BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), Social Anxiety, Health Anxiety, relationship problems, work related issues etc.
I am an accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist, EMDR and DBT Practitioner. My background is in mental health nursing (since 1997!). I have extensive experience in working with clients struggling with emotional regulation, anxiety, complex trauma and a range of common mental health problems. I am the founder and director of Yorkshire Psychotherapy Ltd, a private therapy practice and have a team of associates that work with children, adolescents and adults.
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I am a highly qualified Cognitive Analytic Therapist (CAT) working 1:1 in a relational, collaborative manner. CAT looks at the way a person thinks, feels and acts, and the events and relationships that underlie these experiences (often from childhood or earlier in life). I have worked in both the private sector and NHS for 10+ years working with individuals with a range of presentations including anxiety and depression, mental disorders and individuals diagnosed with a personality disorder. I am also experienced using CBT and trained in REWIND therapy, used for treatment of phobias and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
I am a highly qualified Cognitive Analytic Therapist (CAT) working 1:1 in a relational, collaborative manner. CAT looks at the way a person thinks, feels and acts, and the events and relationships that underlie these experiences (often from childhood or earlier in life). I have worked in both the private sector and NHS for 10+ years working with individuals with a range of presentations including anxiety and depression, mental disorders and individuals diagnosed with a personality disorder. I am also experienced using CBT and trained in REWIND therapy, used for treatment of phobias and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
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Hi, I'm Joshua, a professional psychotherapist and registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I know how daunting it can be to look for a counsellor, or finding who will match your needs and expectations. So I will talk you through how I work and what I can offer you, to hopefully take away any confusion and make your search a little easier. I am located at Nostell Priory in Wakefield.
Hi, I'm Joshua, a professional psychotherapist and registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I know how daunting it can be to look for a counsellor, or finding who will match your needs and expectations. So I will talk you through how I work and what I can offer you, to hopefully take away any confusion and make your search a little easier. I am located at Nostell Priory in Wakefield.
![Photo of Nadine Naughton, DCounsPsych, MBACP, Counsellor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/520f9df8-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/2/320x400.jpeg)
Hello I am Nadine, I have 14 years experience as a counsellor for children, young people and adults in Yorkshire. See my profile. I'm near Nostell Priory, junction 30/31 M62 and 38/39 M1. Wakefield & Huddersfield. I qualified in 2009 and I actively work with children, young people, adults, relationship counselling and family therapy. I have 14 years regular counselling experience and 12 years previous experience working with children's mental and emotional health service for Kirklees within Tier 2 and Tier 3 Ask CAMHS/ ChEWS - Northorpe Hall Services known now as Thriving Kirklees. I now only work in my own private practice.
Hello I am Nadine, I have 14 years experience as a counsellor for children, young people and adults in Yorkshire. See my profile. I'm near Nostell Priory, junction 30/31 M62 and 38/39 M1. Wakefield & Huddersfield. I qualified in 2009 and I actively work with children, young people, adults, relationship counselling and family therapy. I have 14 years regular counselling experience and 12 years previous experience working with children's mental and emotional health service for Kirklees within Tier 2 and Tier 3 Ask CAMHS/ ChEWS - Northorpe Hall Services known now as Thriving Kirklees. I now only work in my own private practice.
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I am an integrative counsellor; psychotherapist and clinical supervisor. My therapeutic practice is based largely on the relational approach, this means I place great emphasis on the relationship between you and I as it is our relationship which becomes the vehicle for your therapeutic journey. Each person is unique and I will draw on modalities that I feel will most suit you and the issues that you present to me. During our sessions I would like you to have as much autonomy as possible but I shall also give direction should you need it.
I am an integrative counsellor; psychotherapist and clinical supervisor. My therapeutic practice is based largely on the relational approach, this means I place great emphasis on the relationship between you and I as it is our relationship which becomes the vehicle for your therapeutic journey. Each person is unique and I will draw on modalities that I feel will most suit you and the issues that you present to me. During our sessions I would like you to have as much autonomy as possible but I shall also give direction should you need it.
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ONLINE SESSIONS OFFERED: I am a Chartered and Registered Psychologist with over 20 years’ experience in the psychological assessment and treatment of adults, with a wide range of psychological issues and needs. I am able to adapt my therapeutic approach and style to best meet your needs and therefore I can use a range of therapeutic approaches. I am also known for my ability to develop a strong therapeutic relationship with individuals that have difficulty trusting others, experience high levels of shame or have had negative experiences with other therapists/individuals in authority in the past. PLEASE MAKE CONTACT VIA EMAIL
ONLINE SESSIONS OFFERED: I am a Chartered and Registered Psychologist with over 20 years’ experience in the psychological assessment and treatment of adults, with a wide range of psychological issues and needs. I am able to adapt my therapeutic approach and style to best meet your needs and therefore I can use a range of therapeutic approaches. I am also known for my ability to develop a strong therapeutic relationship with individuals that have difficulty trusting others, experience high levels of shame or have had negative experiences with other therapists/individuals in authority in the past. PLEASE MAKE CONTACT VIA EMAIL
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Hi. At times we are challenged in life and we may need help to work through the issues that can affect us. Whatever we are experiencing, it can impact on our whole life greatly. At times admitting we need help can be a long and hard journey. Just getting to this point of looking for a therapist means you’ve addressed so much already and that you wish to take the next step. It's finding the right therapist for you, just like any other relationship is how you connect that enables you to feel safe and be open so you can work through your issues. So take your time to find the right one as that relationship can help you so much.
Hi. At times we are challenged in life and we may need help to work through the issues that can affect us. Whatever we are experiencing, it can impact on our whole life greatly. At times admitting we need help can be a long and hard journey. Just getting to this point of looking for a therapist means you’ve addressed so much already and that you wish to take the next step. It's finding the right therapist for you, just like any other relationship is how you connect that enables you to feel safe and be open so you can work through your issues. So take your time to find the right one as that relationship can help you so much.
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I work as a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner. I have experience assessing and assisting people with mental health conditions and hidden disabilities within their workplaces. I have specialist knowledge and experience in Personality Disorder, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy. I follow the BACP code of ethics. This means that I work with honesty, integrity, mission, and values. I offer Counselling and Psychotherapy on a short- and long-term basis using Person-centered therapeutic Approach. I work with Young People, Couple in Relationship, Families, Domestic Violence, SPIP.
I work as a Psychological Wellbeing Practitioner. I have experience assessing and assisting people with mental health conditions and hidden disabilities within their workplaces. I have specialist knowledge and experience in Personality Disorder, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy. I follow the BACP code of ethics. This means that I work with honesty, integrity, mission, and values. I offer Counselling and Psychotherapy on a short- and long-term basis using Person-centered therapeutic Approach. I work with Young People, Couple in Relationship, Families, Domestic Violence, SPIP.
![Photo of Iffat Akhtar, MBACP, Counsellor](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/d6a81948-a9c4-4366-b9ab-90bb7c1ccd56/1/320x400.jpeg)
I’m here to start your healing journey with you. This is your safe space, where you can explore the pain and trauma that you’ve held with you for however long. I can imagine the thought of sharing this with somebody new is daunting and maybe even scary for some .. but that’s okay. Trust the process and allow yourself to be in this journey together. For my Muslim clients, I may combine elements of an Islamic model for therapy which solidifies the therapeutic relationship.
I’m here to start your healing journey with you. This is your safe space, where you can explore the pain and trauma that you’ve held with you for however long. I can imagine the thought of sharing this with somebody new is daunting and maybe even scary for some .. but that’s okay. Trust the process and allow yourself to be in this journey together. For my Muslim clients, I may combine elements of an Islamic model for therapy which solidifies the therapeutic relationship.
![Photo of Jeana Hallas - Jeana Hallas at Barnsley Hypnosis & Counselling, MSc, MNCPS Acc., Psychotherapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/5282f74f-46cd-11ea-a6ad-06142c356176/1/320x400.jpeg)
Jeana Hallas at Barnsley Hypnosis & Counselling
Psychotherapist, MSc, MNCPS Acc.
Verified Verified
Wakefield WF1
Most clients contact us with surface negative symptoms or challenges. Every client is totally unique, therefore our truly one-off, made-to-measure approach is needed and always provided. Most clients help us to slowly identify the real current trigger(s), creating the negative presenting symptoms or challenges. Finally, our last step in helping you gain a positive, confident and happier future, is to discover your deepest root causes, which created the very first trigger(s). To put it simply, our driving force from day one is to help you quickly ensure you gain much improved: thinking, feeling and behaviour.
Most clients contact us with surface negative symptoms or challenges. Every client is totally unique, therefore our truly one-off, made-to-measure approach is needed and always provided. Most clients help us to slowly identify the real current trigger(s), creating the negative presenting symptoms or challenges. Finally, our last step in helping you gain a positive, confident and happier future, is to discover your deepest root causes, which created the very first trigger(s). To put it simply, our driving force from day one is to help you quickly ensure you gain much improved: thinking, feeling and behaviour.
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Anna Settle
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Wakefield WF2 (Online Only)
Our time together will help release burdens and heal the injuries that have resulted from past experiences. My intention is to enable and support you to be able to live your life in a way that is more true to who you really are. My aim is to offer the tools and compassion into the places of darkness and discomfort in your life. I am an Internal Family Systems therapist at the heart of sessions and greatly value the impact this way of being has for our inner world. Feel free to contact me for further information on IFS or to chat about sessions.
Our time together will help release burdens and heal the injuries that have resulted from past experiences. My intention is to enable and support you to be able to live your life in a way that is more true to who you really are. My aim is to offer the tools and compassion into the places of darkness and discomfort in your life. I am an Internal Family Systems therapist at the heart of sessions and greatly value the impact this way of being has for our inner world. Feel free to contact me for further information on IFS or to chat about sessions.
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Kimberley Webb- Private Psychotherapy Yorkshire
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Wakefield WF1 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist, EMDR and Accredited Schema Therapist. I provide evidence-based psychological assessment, formulation and intervention to adults experiencing difficulties such as trauma, relationship difficulties and emotional distress. I provide bespoke therapy to support you in making sense of, and addressing the difficulties that prompted you to seek therapy. I. utilise schema, EMDR and psychodynamic approaches as well as traditional CBT methods, I am the co-developer of: privatepsychotherapyyorkshire
I am a HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist, EMDR and Accredited Schema Therapist. I provide evidence-based psychological assessment, formulation and intervention to adults experiencing difficulties such as trauma, relationship difficulties and emotional distress. I provide bespoke therapy to support you in making sense of, and addressing the difficulties that prompted you to seek therapy. I. utilise schema, EMDR and psychodynamic approaches as well as traditional CBT methods, I am the co-developer of: privatepsychotherapyyorkshire
![Photo of Abeda Aswat, MBACP, Psychotherapist](https://photos.psychologytoday.com/a2b233a8-705e-445c-aa21-62df56042111/5/320x400.jpeg)
Do you struggle with managing your mental health? Is it making you feel stuck and overwhelmed? I offer a safe, confidential and respectful environment to help you explore your issues. Seeking therapy can be scary and it takes courage to make the first step. With my support, you can take those steps and build on the changes you want. I will provide a confidential, non-judgemental, empathic approach for you to explore these feelings, tailoring that approach in order for you to reach a better place in your life.
Do you struggle with managing your mental health? Is it making you feel stuck and overwhelmed? I offer a safe, confidential and respectful environment to help you explore your issues. Seeking therapy can be scary and it takes courage to make the first step. With my support, you can take those steps and build on the changes you want. I will provide a confidential, non-judgemental, empathic approach for you to explore these feelings, tailoring that approach in order for you to reach a better place in your life.
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I am a qualified Play therapist, with a passion for supporting children and young people to become the best version of themselves. I am based in Leeds, West Yorkshire and I travel to schools within and around the local area approximately 1hour from Leeds. Play is a child’s natural way of experimenting and is an integral part of childhood development across physical and cognitive domains. Within a session children can express what they are struggling to verbalise . www.lhplaytherapy.co.uk Play supports children and they can discover and practise different ways of understanding and coping with difficult feelings, leading to healthier
I am a qualified Play therapist, with a passion for supporting children and young people to become the best version of themselves. I am based in Leeds, West Yorkshire and I travel to schools within and around the local area approximately 1hour from Leeds. Play is a child’s natural way of experimenting and is an integral part of childhood development across physical and cognitive domains. Within a session children can express what they are struggling to verbalise . www.lhplaytherapy.co.uk Play supports children and they can discover and practise different ways of understanding and coping with difficult feelings, leading to healthier
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Ok! Is it time to do something about how you have been feeling? It could be that you have been struggling with your negative thoughts, work stress, health challenges, difficulties in your relationships, increased anxiety, low mood, or all of the above and then some. That is the first step, recognising that you can do something different right now to change the way you feel. You may or may not have sought support in the past but that was then, and this is now. It is never too late to put yourself first and prioritise what you need.
Ok! Is it time to do something about how you have been feeling? It could be that you have been struggling with your negative thoughts, work stress, health challenges, difficulties in your relationships, increased anxiety, low mood, or all of the above and then some. That is the first step, recognising that you can do something different right now to change the way you feel. You may or may not have sought support in the past but that was then, and this is now. It is never too late to put yourself first and prioritise what you need.
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Hi, I’m Tracey, I specialise in psychological assessment and therapy for women. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, relationships, pregnancy and motherhood, perimenopause/menopause, bereavements, traumas? As women, there can be many unique challenges and life transitions to face. Having a safe space to reflect on what's happening for you, to connect with the emotional impacts, and discover how you can learn to adapt is vital. It lets you build your sense of strength and resilience and ultimately, it encourages you to heal and continue to grow despite what life has thrown your way.
Hi, I’m Tracey, I specialise in psychological assessment and therapy for women. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, relationships, pregnancy and motherhood, perimenopause/menopause, bereavements, traumas? As women, there can be many unique challenges and life transitions to face. Having a safe space to reflect on what's happening for you, to connect with the emotional impacts, and discover how you can learn to adapt is vital. It lets you build your sense of strength and resilience and ultimately, it encourages you to heal and continue to grow despite what life has thrown your way.
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Hi, I'm Lauren a trauma therapist specalising in EMDR psychotherapy. EMDR is now the front line treatment for PTSD. It can be used to treat single traumas, For example a road traffic accident. Or multiple traumas. For example, veterans, abuse survivors. EMDR is hugley succesful at treating a range of mental health issues (anxiety, low mood, poor sleep, self harm, self esteem, self sabotage behaviours and many more). For some starting therapy can be extremely daunting. Together we will develop a plan and pace that suits you.
Hi, I'm Lauren a trauma therapist specalising in EMDR psychotherapy. EMDR is now the front line treatment for PTSD. It can be used to treat single traumas, For example a road traffic accident. Or multiple traumas. For example, veterans, abuse survivors. EMDR is hugley succesful at treating a range of mental health issues (anxiety, low mood, poor sleep, self harm, self esteem, self sabotage behaviours and many more). For some starting therapy can be extremely daunting. Together we will develop a plan and pace that suits you.
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Thank you for visiting New Dawn Psychological Therapies profile. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Struggling to manage stress, anxiety, depression or cope with past trauma? You're not alone. If you feel like you're barely keeping your head above water, I'm here to help. As a psychologist and counsellor therapist, I recognise that life is not linear. We are all on a journey towards realising our full potential however, this journey can often be hindered by negative life experiences outside of our control. But please know, you are a unique individual of worth, and it is possible to heal, energise, and become aware of your inner strengths.
Thank you for visiting New Dawn Psychological Therapies profile. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Struggling to manage stress, anxiety, depression or cope with past trauma? You're not alone. If you feel like you're barely keeping your head above water, I'm here to help. As a psychologist and counsellor therapist, I recognise that life is not linear. We are all on a journey towards realising our full potential however, this journey can often be hindered by negative life experiences outside of our control. But please know, you are a unique individual of worth, and it is possible to heal, energise, and become aware of your inner strengths.
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Borderline Personality (BPD) Counsellors
What is the most successful approach to treating borderline personality disorder?
Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is considered the gold standard of treatment for borderline personality disorder. An evidence-based treatment, it addresses the extreme emotional reactivity, the relationship difficulties, and the acts of self-harm that create so much distress for BPD patients. DBT is a comprehensive program that includes both regular individual psychotherapy sessions and weekly group sessions of skills training.
What happens in treatment of borderline personality disorder?
Treatment typically consists of weekly individual therapy sessions that last an hour and group skill-focused instructional sessions that may last up to two hours. Patients are typically given homework “assignments” in which they are asked to practice in their daily life the skills they acquire in therapy. Patients also keep a diary tracking their emotions and impulses as a way to know which situations are most problematic and to help them gain control over their own behavior. Difficult situations and feelings are typically reviewed in therapy sessions and more constructive solutions found.
What kinds of problems does BPD treatment help with?
DBT was initially developed to dampen the self-destructive impulses of chronically suicidal patients. It is now the treatment of choice for borderline personality disorder, a serious condition marked by extreme emotional reactivity, relationship instability, and self-injurious behaviors. Treatment of BPD helps patients tolerate the flux of emotions without acting on them, often with a specific focus on tolerating negative emotions. DBT addresses the core problems of BPD—fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and impulsivity.
What is the goal of treatment in borderline personality disorder?
The goal of treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to relieve the extreme emotional distress that patients experience—to curb their emotional reactivity, to minimize their inclination to self-harm, and to reduce their impulsivity. Toward these ends, patients are not only taught an array of new coping skills and techniques for emotional regulation, they are given opportunities to practice them. Another major goal of treatment is interpersonal effectiveness; patients learn and problem-solve ways to effectively communicate in relationships, especially how to ask for what they need as a way to minimize hurt feelings.