Borderline Personality (BPD) Counselling in Virginia Water

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Dr Daniel Rubinstein
Counsellor, PhD, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Virginia Water GU25
Imagine waking up feeling refreshed, with a clear mind and a sense of purpose. Picture yourself navigating relationships with calm and confidence, living a life where you're not just coping, but thriving. Does this seem out of reach? It does not have to be. You might currently be lying awake at night, your mind racing with anxious thoughts. Or feeling trapped in a relationship that brings more pain than joy. Or dreaming about writing that book or making an artwork but finding yourself procrastinating instead. Or struggling to find your place in the world, unsure of next steps. Longing for a life that feels truly fulfilling.
Imagine waking up feeling refreshed, with a clear mind and a sense of purpose. Picture yourself navigating relationships with calm and confidence, living a life where you're not just coping, but thriving. Does this seem out of reach? It does not have to be. You might currently be lying awake at night, your mind racing with anxious thoughts. Or feeling trapped in a relationship that brings more pain than joy. Or dreaming about writing that book or making an artwork but finding yourself procrastinating instead. Or struggling to find your place in the world, unsure of next steps. Longing for a life that feels truly fulfilling.
01424 619114 View 01424 619114
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Corvus Psychological and Coaching Services
Psychologist, MSc, HCPC - Forensic Psych.
Verified Verified
Virginia Water GU25  (Online Only)
We have particular interests in work around emotional management, attachment and reducing barriers to change. We have a specialism in working with people around creativity - whether you wish to use creative approaches to reach your goals or are a creative seeking a therapist who understands your work and can help you to use your creativity to achieve the outcomes you want, we would love to hear from you. We welcome clients from all walks of life. Please note that at present, all sessions are via telephone or videocall. Discount offered for public, arts and martime sector workers.
We have particular interests in work around emotional management, attachment and reducing barriers to change. We have a specialism in working with people around creativity - whether you wish to use creative approaches to reach your goals or are a creative seeking a therapist who understands your work and can help you to use your creativity to achieve the outcomes you want, we would love to hear from you. We welcome clients from all walks of life. Please note that at present, all sessions are via telephone or videocall. Discount offered for public, arts and martime sector workers.
0121 387 3589 View 0121 387 3589
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Maisie Nicholls - Emdr Therapy
MSc
Verified Verified
Virginia Water GU25  (Online Only)
Hi, I'm Maisie and I specialise in EMDR therapy for birth and postnatal trauma. I also offer therapy for people who are struggling to adjust to parenthood. I understand the transition to becoming a parent can be difficult, even without experiencing birth trauma. Our children are mirrors of us and difficult childhood experiences can often come to the surface when you become a parent yourself. EMDR can help you process any difficult feelings that may have come to the surface for you. I offer a gentle, collaborative, down to earth approach to therapy.
Hi, I'm Maisie and I specialise in EMDR therapy for birth and postnatal trauma. I also offer therapy for people who are struggling to adjust to parenthood. I understand the transition to becoming a parent can be difficult, even without experiencing birth trauma. Our children are mirrors of us and difficult childhood experiences can often come to the surface when you become a parent yourself. EMDR can help you process any difficult feelings that may have come to the surface for you. I offer a gentle, collaborative, down to earth approach to therapy.
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Psych - Tech....Clinical Coaching and Therapy
Verified Verified
Windsor SL4
I specialise in working with Anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD) otherwise known as EUPD. Life decisions, work issues regarding conflict and communication, Family disagreements and survivors and Victims of Narcissistic Relationships.
I specialise in working with Anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder ( BPD) otherwise known as EUPD. Life decisions, work issues regarding conflict and communication, Family disagreements and survivors and Victims of Narcissistic Relationships.
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Amreeta Chapman
Counsellor, PsychD, MBACP
Verified Verified
Bracknell RG12
My Clients over the last 18 years have ranged from having simple symptoms ( i.e. sleep disturbances, anxiety about interviews or social anxiety ) to severe symptoms (i.e. severe depression, insomnia, PTSD, OCD, Borderline Personality or sexual abuse). My clients are looking for tools that will help them reduce or eliminate those symptoms but they are also wanting to develop long term functional habits that will help them lead a healthier life. Most of my clients are highly functional but they are struggling with emotional issues in their relationships with childhood abuse, addictions, fears, self-esteem and others.
My Clients over the last 18 years have ranged from having simple symptoms ( i.e. sleep disturbances, anxiety about interviews or social anxiety ) to severe symptoms (i.e. severe depression, insomnia, PTSD, OCD, Borderline Personality or sexual abuse). My clients are looking for tools that will help them reduce or eliminate those symptoms but they are also wanting to develop long term functional habits that will help them lead a healthier life. Most of my clients are highly functional but they are struggling with emotional issues in their relationships with childhood abuse, addictions, fears, self-esteem and others.
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Sharmila Logathas
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Cobham KT11
You've reached this page for many reasons, from being diagnosed with a mental health problem to feeling stuck and unable to progress in particular areas of life. I work from the premise that you are an active participant in therapy and hold choice and responsibility in how you want to move forward, whether this includes making sense of, accepting and processing things that have happened to you, or developing existing skills and building new strategies to cope with life's challenges.
You've reached this page for many reasons, from being diagnosed with a mental health problem to feeling stuck and unable to progress in particular areas of life. I work from the premise that you are an active participant in therapy and hold choice and responsibility in how you want to move forward, whether this includes making sense of, accepting and processing things that have happened to you, or developing existing skills and building new strategies to cope with life's challenges.
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LifeTalks
Counsellor, MNCPS Acc.
Verified Verified
Frimley Green GU16
I have extensive experience working as a Counsellor supporting many people to overcome personal challenges. I work with a broad spectrum of conditions such as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, low self-esteem, panic attacks and stress. I hold a interest in working with anxiety. I like to encourage and support change during therapy and understand the value in people achieving their goals. I offer both short term and long-term counselling. Our work together will be collaborative and focused giving you the opportunity to explore current challenges and have the opportunity to feel supported in making the changes you need.
I have extensive experience working as a Counsellor supporting many people to overcome personal challenges. I work with a broad spectrum of conditions such as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, low self-esteem, panic attacks and stress. I hold a interest in working with anxiety. I like to encourage and support change during therapy and understand the value in people achieving their goals. I offer both short term and long-term counselling. Our work together will be collaborative and focused giving you the opportunity to explore current challenges and have the opportunity to feel supported in making the changes you need.
01252 912334 View 01252 912334
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Emma Pott
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Guildford GU2
I see that all behaviours such as self-harm, suicide attempts, drinking, drug abuse and other impulsive behaviours have developed as coping strategies to cope with and numb difficult emotions and experiences. These behaviours often act as a plaster to a deeper wound, but just like a plaster they don’t really ever fully heal unless they have time to heal properly. This is the work of therapy to take off the plaster and look more towards the root causes of the behaviour to work out what is going on for you.
I see that all behaviours such as self-harm, suicide attempts, drinking, drug abuse and other impulsive behaviours have developed as coping strategies to cope with and numb difficult emotions and experiences. These behaviours often act as a plaster to a deeper wound, but just like a plaster they don’t really ever fully heal unless they have time to heal properly. This is the work of therapy to take off the plaster and look more towards the root causes of the behaviour to work out what is going on for you.
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Pia Granjon
Verified Verified
Walton-on-Thames KT12
You may be living in the aftermath of psychological trauma/complex trauma, or maybe you are unsure about it. You have difficulties with sleeping, eating, connection to yourself and others, addiction, dissociations, maybe Dissociative Identity Disorder. . . you can be heard and understood by a professional who knows how to deal with those symptoms, who can listen to you with no judgement, can offer explanation and help you begin to process what is happening in a safe environment, so you can regain control over your life.
You may be living in the aftermath of psychological trauma/complex trauma, or maybe you are unsure about it. You have difficulties with sleeping, eating, connection to yourself and others, addiction, dissociations, maybe Dissociative Identity Disorder. . . you can be heard and understood by a professional who knows how to deal with those symptoms, who can listen to you with no judgement, can offer explanation and help you begin to process what is happening in a safe environment, so you can regain control over your life.
01483 924566 View 01483 924566
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Dr Jo Gee
Psychotherapist, PhD, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Guildford GU2
I am a clinical psychotherapist offering psychotherapy and DBT to men, women and adolescents. My specialist areas include emotional dysregulation, OCD and personality disorders online and in Surrey and London. I am BACP and UKCP accredited, having completed a PhD and MSc at the University of Roehampton, alongside British Isles DBT Intensive Training and MBCT Training. I have a wealth of experience in NHS, forensic and private settings, including the Priory Group, and work alongside psychiatrists and mental health teams in Surrey and London.
I am a clinical psychotherapist offering psychotherapy and DBT to men, women and adolescents. My specialist areas include emotional dysregulation, OCD and personality disorders online and in Surrey and London. I am BACP and UKCP accredited, having completed a PhD and MSc at the University of Roehampton, alongside British Isles DBT Intensive Training and MBCT Training. I have a wealth of experience in NHS, forensic and private settings, including the Priory Group, and work alongside psychiatrists and mental health teams in Surrey and London.
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Ed Sammons
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Hampton TW12
Hi, my name’s Ed, I’m a Therapist working online nationally. I work with people experiencing a wide range of difficulties from many different backgrounds, everyone’s story and reason for coming to therapy are different but all are equal. I offer both long and short term individual therapy, generally the length of therapy is something that we would discuss in our first session. In the case of longer term therapy we would frequently review as the therapy progresses to consider what work remains and when might it be appropriate to conclude therapy.
Hi, my name’s Ed, I’m a Therapist working online nationally. I work with people experiencing a wide range of difficulties from many different backgrounds, everyone’s story and reason for coming to therapy are different but all are equal. I offer both long and short term individual therapy, generally the length of therapy is something that we would discuss in our first session. In the case of longer term therapy we would frequently review as the therapy progresses to consider what work remains and when might it be appropriate to conclude therapy.
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Sheila Leshan
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Slough SL1  (Online Only)
With a loud voice, life sometimes cranks up the volume of what already feels overwhelming. Magnifying an already tense and intense situation, leaving you pondering on how you used to manage before all this. Yet, despite your best efforts to stem their flow, fraught thoughts and debilitating feelings have began to spill over into and onto other areas of your life. It feels like challenging situations scream for your attention. You wonder to yourself how much more of this you can take before you flip the table of your life over. You've taken stock of your support system. Nobody available to talk. Who will listen to me, you wonder....
With a loud voice, life sometimes cranks up the volume of what already feels overwhelming. Magnifying an already tense and intense situation, leaving you pondering on how you used to manage before all this. Yet, despite your best efforts to stem their flow, fraught thoughts and debilitating feelings have began to spill over into and onto other areas of your life. It feels like challenging situations scream for your attention. You wonder to yourself how much more of this you can take before you flip the table of your life over. You've taken stock of your support system. Nobody available to talk. Who will listen to me, you wonder....
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Curtis De Leon
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Hounslow TW4
In a challenging and fast pace world we all need our optimum Self to deal with the demands of life; maintaining and keeping relationships, keeping up the functional aspects of our lives, pursuing dreams and interests, pleasure activities, being at ease when alone, and being comfortable in social settings - friends, events, education and work. Meeting the extra demands that life often presents - relationship breakups, divorce, loss of work, bereavement, mental health issues, loss of home and financial collapse, family turmoil or dysfunctionality, traumatic events, loss of health - requires a robust sense of Self, enabling change.
In a challenging and fast pace world we all need our optimum Self to deal with the demands of life; maintaining and keeping relationships, keeping up the functional aspects of our lives, pursuing dreams and interests, pleasure activities, being at ease when alone, and being comfortable in social settings - friends, events, education and work. Meeting the extra demands that life often presents - relationship breakups, divorce, loss of work, bereavement, mental health issues, loss of home and financial collapse, family turmoil or dysfunctionality, traumatic events, loss of health - requires a robust sense of Self, enabling change.
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Tees Therapy
Psychotherapist, MBABCP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Woking GU23  (Online Only)
Emotional suffering can easily lead to us feeling overwhelmed, isolated, and exhausted, affecting our daily lives and overall well-being. If this sounds like you, remember that help is available. I'm Lucy, a BABCP accredited Cognitive Behavioural Therapist trained in EMDR and DBT with over 15 years of experience in clinical practice. Although I work with a range of conditions, including Depression and Anxiety, I have a specialist interest in working with individuals struggling with Trauma and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
Emotional suffering can easily lead to us feeling overwhelmed, isolated, and exhausted, affecting our daily lives and overall well-being. If this sounds like you, remember that help is available. I'm Lucy, a BABCP accredited Cognitive Behavioural Therapist trained in EMDR and DBT with over 15 years of experience in clinical practice. Although I work with a range of conditions, including Depression and Anxiety, I have a specialist interest in working with individuals struggling with Trauma and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
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Collective Psychology
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Cobham KT11
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
We are a multi-award winning psychological therapies clinic based in Cobham offering fast and effective, evidence-based treatment to support people of all ages and with a variety of mental health difficulties. Our team consists of clinical and counselling psychologists, psychotherapists, an ADHD coach and family therapy. Our beautiful clinic rooms offer a tranquil setting for your sessions. We know the value of the therapeutic relationship and think that it is vital to find a therapist you 'click' with. Our team are personable, warm and empathetic which has helped many people overcome the difficulties holding them back in life.
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Talking Therapy UK - Online CBT Brainspotting EMDR
Psychotherapist, MBABCP
Verified Verified
Windsor SL4
Do you feel stuck? Numb? Robotic? Locking yourself away? Avoiding people and places? On edge all the time? Can't sleep? Short tempered? You are possibly describing some symptoms of trauma, loss or even PTSD. Traumas can occur in adulthood: as a car accident, military trauma, domestic violence, losing a loved one; or in childhood: as bullying, abuse or neglect. ---- If this sounds like you? I am here to help. I have 25yrs experience in the NHS, and 5yrs in private practice. I provide therapies online, including: CBT, EMDR, and Brainspotting, which can gently and quickly reduce distress and release you from the grip of the past.
Do you feel stuck? Numb? Robotic? Locking yourself away? Avoiding people and places? On edge all the time? Can't sleep? Short tempered? You are possibly describing some symptoms of trauma, loss or even PTSD. Traumas can occur in adulthood: as a car accident, military trauma, domestic violence, losing a loved one; or in childhood: as bullying, abuse or neglect. ---- If this sounds like you? I am here to help. I have 25yrs experience in the NHS, and 5yrs in private practice. I provide therapies online, including: CBT, EMDR, and Brainspotting, which can gently and quickly reduce distress and release you from the grip of the past.
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Noorien Halari
Psychotherapist, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Hampton TW12
I understand that seeking therapy can be both comforting and daunting, but it can also be liberating and I commend individuals who reach out for help. Our pain can often be a message that there is something amiss in our lives, and I believe it is important that we listen to that message. Whether you are dealing with a difficult time in your life and need help managing the emotions and thoughts, I aim to assist individuals to better understand the relationship between their feelings and thoughts and explore ways to change maladaptive patterns.
I understand that seeking therapy can be both comforting and daunting, but it can also be liberating and I commend individuals who reach out for help. Our pain can often be a message that there is something amiss in our lives, and I believe it is important that we listen to that message. Whether you are dealing with a difficult time in your life and need help managing the emotions and thoughts, I aim to assist individuals to better understand the relationship between their feelings and thoughts and explore ways to change maladaptive patterns.
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Craig Coventry Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP
Verified Verified
Guildford GU2
I am a Counsellor, Psychotherapist, trauma therapist and EMDR practitioner. I am registered and accredited member of the BACP. My primary way of working aims to work with the individual as a whole, through helping the client understand their thought and emotional processes. I work on the basis that each individual is able to direct themselves through their difficulties in the best way for them, and that my work is to help deepen their self-exploration and exploration of their difficulties so that clients are better equipped to navigate through their difficulties.
I am a Counsellor, Psychotherapist, trauma therapist and EMDR practitioner. I am registered and accredited member of the BACP. My primary way of working aims to work with the individual as a whole, through helping the client understand their thought and emotional processes. I work on the basis that each individual is able to direct themselves through their difficulties in the best way for them, and that my work is to help deepen their self-exploration and exploration of their difficulties so that clients are better equipped to navigate through their difficulties.
07480 488503 View 07480 488503
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Questa Psychological Services
Psychologist, PsychD, AFBPSsS
Verified Verified
Woking GU21
Questa is a small, specialist practice; we provide a range of psychological services for children and adults, both clinical and educational. In addition to therapy, we are experts in Autism and ADHD assessment/diagnosis. We offer therapy and support for a range of emotional problems for children, teenagers and adults and are specialists in anxiety, depression and trauma, providing therapy to emergency services personnel. Do call or email us today to discuss how we may be able to support you. We can usually help, but if we can't, then we’ll do our very best to offer advice and signposting.
Questa is a small, specialist practice; we provide a range of psychological services for children and adults, both clinical and educational. In addition to therapy, we are experts in Autism and ADHD assessment/diagnosis. We offer therapy and support for a range of emotional problems for children, teenagers and adults and are specialists in anxiety, depression and trauma, providing therapy to emergency services personnel. Do call or email us today to discuss how we may be able to support you. We can usually help, but if we can't, then we’ll do our very best to offer advice and signposting.
023 8192 4877 View 023 8192 4877
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Lesley Weir Davies
Counsellor, DCounsPsych, MBACP Snr. Accred
Verified Verified
Windlesham GU20
I aim to treat each individual equally to ensure that they are treated as unique and will be seen regardless of age,culture,gender,disability,sexual orientation or background.
I aim to treat each individual equally to ensure that they are treated as unique and will be seen regardless of age,culture,gender,disability,sexual orientation or background.
01483 940029 View 01483 940029

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Borderline Personality (BPD) Counsellors

What is the most successful approach to treating borderline personality disorder?

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is considered the gold standard of treatment for borderline personality disorder. An evidence-based treatment, it addresses the extreme emotional reactivity, the relationship difficulties, and the acts of self-harm that create so much distress for BPD patients. DBT is a comprehensive program that includes both regular individual psychotherapy sessions and weekly group sessions of skills training.

What happens in treatment of borderline personality disorder?

Treatment typically consists of weekly individual therapy sessions that last an hour and group skill-focused instructional sessions that may last up to two hours. Patients are typically given homework “assignments” in which they are asked to practice in their daily life the skills they acquire in therapy. Patients also keep a diary tracking their emotions and impulses as a way to know which situations are most problematic and to help them gain control over their own behavior. Difficult situations and feelings are typically reviewed in therapy sessions and more constructive solutions found.

What kinds of problems does BPD treatment help with?

DBT was initially developed to dampen the self-destructive impulses of chronically suicidal patients. It is now the treatment of choice for borderline personality disorder, a serious condition marked by extreme emotional reactivity, relationship instability, and self-injurious behaviors. Treatment of BPD helps patients tolerate the flux of emotions without acting on them, often with a specific focus on tolerating negative emotions. DBT addresses the core problems of BPD—fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and impulsivity.

What is the goal of treatment in borderline personality disorder?

The goal of treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) is to relieve the extreme emotional distress that patients experience—to curb their emotional reactivity, to minimize their inclination to self-harm, and to reduce their impulsivity. Toward these ends, patients are not only taught an array of new coping skills and techniques for emotional regulation, they are given opportunities to practice them. Another major goal of treatment is interpersonal effectiveness; patients learn and problem-solve ways to effectively communicate in relationships, especially how to ask for what they need as a way to minimize hurt feelings.