Emotionally Focused Counselling in Andover

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Mary Mooney
Psychotherapist, MBABCP
Verified Verified
Andover SP11
I am a fully accredited psychotherapist with over 15 years experience in both the public sector and private practice. I have trained in the use of EMDR which is especially helpful for people who have been traumatised and find it difficult to talk about their experiences but EMDR can also be used for a wide range of issues. My core training in psychotherapy can help people to understand themselves on a deeper level, help them to understand their reactions to people and life. I also trained in CBT which can give you new strategies to deal with life. My philosophy is always to work with your needs and goals
I am a fully accredited psychotherapist with over 15 years experience in both the public sector and private practice. I have trained in the use of EMDR which is especially helpful for people who have been traumatised and find it difficult to talk about their experiences but EMDR can also be used for a wide range of issues. My core training in psychotherapy can help people to understand themselves on a deeper level, help them to understand their reactions to people and life. I also trained in CBT which can give you new strategies to deal with life. My philosophy is always to work with your needs and goals
024 7542 0028 View 024 7542 0028
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Nicky Bates Director of The TLC Counselling Hub
Counsellor, BACP
Verified Verified
Andover SP10
Thank you for taking the time to read my profile. Firstly People need to feel valued, people need to feel accepted and they certainly need to feel heard. Based in central Andover, I specialise in anxiety, trauma, neurodiversity, bereavement, intrusive thoughts and work very well with people from the LGBTQ+ community. I offer a non-judgemental approach using Gestalt and Humanistic theory. What this means is that we work creatively with what is happening for you right now. Creative work can unlock things from the past in a safe contained way. Online counselling is now available.
Thank you for taking the time to read my profile. Firstly People need to feel valued, people need to feel accepted and they certainly need to feel heard. Based in central Andover, I specialise in anxiety, trauma, neurodiversity, bereavement, intrusive thoughts and work very well with people from the LGBTQ+ community. I offer a non-judgemental approach using Gestalt and Humanistic theory. What this means is that we work creatively with what is happening for you right now. Creative work can unlock things from the past in a safe contained way. Online counselling is now available.
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Dr Jennifer Turner
Psychologist, PsychD, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
Andover SP10
Are you autistic or wondering if you might be? Maybe your child has received an autism diagnosis or are you waiting for an assessment? Are you feeling unsure what to do next and struggling to find support? Are you or your child experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, melt downs or challenging behaviour? An autism diagnosis is the beginning. There is so much information but no one to guide you through it all. Family and friends try to understand, school try to help but don’t always get it right. You may feel alone, isolated and lonely, unsure who to trust and where to turn.
Are you autistic or wondering if you might be? Maybe your child has received an autism diagnosis or are you waiting for an assessment? Are you feeling unsure what to do next and struggling to find support? Are you or your child experiencing anxiety, overwhelm, melt downs or challenging behaviour? An autism diagnosis is the beginning. There is so much information but no one to guide you through it all. Family and friends try to understand, school try to help but don’t always get it right. You may feel alone, isolated and lonely, unsure who to trust and where to turn.
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Rachella Michaels
Psychotherapist, MA, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Andover SP11
I work gently and compassionately, with individuals/couples, struggling with difficult or painful feelings, managing their emotions, and struggling to enjoy life. Communication is often an issue, as are feelings of unfairness or difficulty forming good, lasting relationships. Issues may involve partners, parents, past traumas, or inner conflict making decisions difficult. They may involve issues at work with colleagues, management or relationships. When working with couples the issues are often about unfulfilled expectations, infidelity, lack of commitment/affection, insecurity, lack of empathy, or experiences of coercion or control
I work gently and compassionately, with individuals/couples, struggling with difficult or painful feelings, managing their emotions, and struggling to enjoy life. Communication is often an issue, as are feelings of unfairness or difficulty forming good, lasting relationships. Issues may involve partners, parents, past traumas, or inner conflict making decisions difficult. They may involve issues at work with colleagues, management or relationships. When working with couples the issues are often about unfulfilled expectations, infidelity, lack of commitment/affection, insecurity, lack of empathy, or experiences of coercion or control
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Willow Tree Counselling
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Stockbridge SO20
Are you experiencing feelings of anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt or depression? Do you need some support and strategies to help deal with these overwhelming feelings? If you are struggling with any of these issues or others such as, addiction, loss, feeling that you are different or just want help figuring out where life is going for you then I may well be able to help. I provide a safe, non-judgemental environment for you to explore these issues and look at tools and ways you can adapt and have choices for change.
Are you experiencing feelings of anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt or depression? Do you need some support and strategies to help deal with these overwhelming feelings? If you are struggling with any of these issues or others such as, addiction, loss, feeling that you are different or just want help figuring out where life is going for you then I may well be able to help. I provide a safe, non-judgemental environment for you to explore these issues and look at tools and ways you can adapt and have choices for change.
01962 392314 View 01962 392314
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Rachael Coward
Psychotherapist, MBACP
Verified Verified
Whitchurch (Hampshire) RG28
Hello, thank you for taking the time to read my profile. I work compassionately, honestly and with gentleness to help you bring about the changes you seek. Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, or unhelpful thoughts? Perhaps you’ve lost confidence, feel alone or are struggling in an important relationship. Do you feel you are constantly getting stuck in the same patterns and nothing in your life changes? Whatever your reason for seeking help and however difficult things are right now, deciding to work together could be the start of the change you want.
Hello, thank you for taking the time to read my profile. I work compassionately, honestly and with gentleness to help you bring about the changes you seek. Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, or unhelpful thoughts? Perhaps you’ve lost confidence, feel alone or are struggling in an important relationship. Do you feel you are constantly getting stuck in the same patterns and nothing in your life changes? Whatever your reason for seeking help and however difficult things are right now, deciding to work together could be the start of the change you want.
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Online Therapists

Alison Suzanne Oliver
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Leamington Spa CV31
I am also trained in EMDR, EFT and AIT, effective trauma therapies, that help to resolve long term influences to emotional stability, psychological well being and developmental, attachment or situational trauma.
Client's will be able to understand the historical and systemic influences to their problems and to find ways to create change both for themselves and others that they associate with. Many of my client's also have unresolved trauma that influences their day to day interactions, relationships, psychological state and/or physical health. They would hope to be able to make sense of both their mood and beliefs but to also be able to find ways to reprocess or clear any related trauma, make sense of associated anxiety, stress, behaviours and negative beliefs, to find ways to manage, think and behave differently and find new strengths.
I am also trained in EMDR, EFT and AIT, effective trauma therapies, that help to resolve long term influences to emotional stability, psychological well being and developmental, attachment or situational trauma.
Client's will be able to understand the historical and systemic influences to their problems and to find ways to create change both for themselves and others that they associate with. Many of my client's also have unresolved trauma that influences their day to day interactions, relationships, psychological state and/or physical health. They would hope to be able to make sense of both their mood and beliefs but to also be able to find ways to reprocess or clear any related trauma, make sense of associated anxiety, stress, behaviours and negative beliefs, to find ways to manage, think and behave differently and find new strengths.
01926 569078 View 01926 569078
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Dr Allan Willis
Psychologist, HCPC - Ed. Psych.
Verified Verified
London N20
These include hypnotherapy, Narrative therapy, EFT and solution-focused therapy.
I work as a psychologist, psychotherapist and hypnotherapist to help people with life challenges make lasting change. My clients come to me with life issues such as anxiety, depression and anger and these are limiting their lives. I help them to identify the barriers in their life and support them to develop positive, effective change.
These include hypnotherapy, Narrative therapy, EFT and solution-focused therapy.
I work as a psychologist, psychotherapist and hypnotherapist to help people with life challenges make lasting change. My clients come to me with life issues such as anxiety, depression and anger and these are limiting their lives. I help them to identify the barriers in their life and support them to develop positive, effective change.
020 3962 2347 View 020 3962 2347
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Kirsty Howe
Counsellor, MNCPS Acc.
Verified Verified
Brighton BN2
I work with individuals and couples. I can help you make sense of difficult feelings about yourself, your life, or your partner. With couples, I incorporate Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which is based in attachment theory.
I work with individuals and couples. I can help you make sense of difficult feelings about yourself, your life, or your partner. With couples, I incorporate Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which is based in attachment theory.
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Luiza Neumayer
Psychotherapist, MSc, HCPC-Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
London W1U
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
Hello and welcome. I’m here to help you find the inner strengths you need to unblock what’s troubling you and move on with your life. My clients tell me I’m warm, kind and insightful – which is good, because my main aim is to offer a safe, welcoming place where you feel willing and able to consider making changes. Most of us aren’t used to reaching out for professional support. We’re brought up to think asking for help can be a sign of weakness. But whatever you’re facing, working together with a professional therapist can let you see a way forward.
I’m also a Certified EFT Couples therapist.
Hello and welcome. I’m here to help you find the inner strengths you need to unblock what’s troubling you and move on with your life. My clients tell me I’m warm, kind and insightful – which is good, because my main aim is to offer a safe, welcoming place where you feel willing and able to consider making changes. Most of us aren’t used to reaching out for professional support. We’re brought up to think asking for help can be a sign of weakness. But whatever you’re facing, working together with a professional therapist can let you see a way forward.
020 3872 2526 View 020 3872 2526
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Sue Mulvoy
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
Brighton BN42
Professional Memberships include: International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) & British Emotionally Focused Therapy (BEFT).
I am accredited with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) & hold a master’s degree in Systemic Psychotherapy. I also have additional training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( EFT). EFT is a non-blaming approach to therapy which pays attention to how our thoughts, feelings and attachments impacts our interactions, behaviours and relationships. I offer a safe space for couples and individuals to explore presenting issues in order to better understand themselves, each other and their relationships.
Professional Memberships include: International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) & British Emotionally Focused Therapy (BEFT).
I am accredited with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) & hold a master’s degree in Systemic Psychotherapy. I also have additional training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( EFT). EFT is a non-blaming approach to therapy which pays attention to how our thoughts, feelings and attachments impacts our interactions, behaviours and relationships. I offer a safe space for couples and individuals to explore presenting issues in order to better understand themselves, each other and their relationships.
01273 092650 View 01273 092650
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Sonia Freeman
Psychotherapist, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
Sutton SM2
I am a BACP Accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with experience working with adults. I offer a warm, empathic, non judgemental and confidential space for you to talk freely of your concerns and explore the nature of the difficulties you are experiencing. My aim is to work alongside you to help you gain a deeper understanding in yourself encouraging the healing process. In my work with couples I introduce elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a structured approach based on attachment theory, helping couples to understand and respond to each other's needs effectively. I practice in Sutton SM2
I am a BACP Accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with experience working with adults. I offer a warm, empathic, non judgemental and confidential space for you to talk freely of your concerns and explore the nature of the difficulties you are experiencing. My aim is to work alongside you to help you gain a deeper understanding in yourself encouraging the healing process. In my work with couples I introduce elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a structured approach based on attachment theory, helping couples to understand and respond to each other's needs effectively. I practice in Sutton SM2
01798 305087 View 01798 305087
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Magdalena Rybarczyk
Psychologist, MSc, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
London SE1
My clinical interests include Psychoanalytic and Attachment approaches, EMDR, DBT and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I hope that the information you can find here will help you to initiate positive changes in your life. I offer therapy for clients struggling with their emotions, experiencing a crisis, relationship difficulties or career and work related concerns. I am experienced in providing effective therapy for depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, self esteem problems, body image concerns, as well as medically unexplained symptoms, sexual and intimacy problems and other psychological challenges. My way of working is emphatic, flexible and receptive to your individual needs.
My clinical interests include Psychoanalytic and Attachment approaches, EMDR, DBT and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.
I hope that the information you can find here will help you to initiate positive changes in your life. I offer therapy for clients struggling with their emotions, experiencing a crisis, relationship difficulties or career and work related concerns. I am experienced in providing effective therapy for depression, anxiety, trauma, stress, self esteem problems, body image concerns, as well as medically unexplained symptoms, sexual and intimacy problems and other psychological challenges. My way of working is emphatic, flexible and receptive to your individual needs.
020 3763 5265 View 020 3763 5265
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Psiholog Roman - Marian Claudiu Ciuhan - P.C.C
Psychologist, MSc, GMBPsS
Verified Verified
Dagenham RM8
As a psychologist specializing in Family and Couples Therapy, my toolkit includes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
At Pro Comfort Counselling (P.C.C), step into a realm where family complexities and relationship intricacies find understanding and transformation. In the face of challenges like family conflicts, ADHD, and substance abuse, envision a guide specializing in Family and Couples Therapy - someone attuned to your unique journey. I am that guide, offering more than expertise; I offer a compassionate partnership. As a psychologist skilled in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Play Therapy, I invite you to embark on a transformative journey. Change is possible—let's start the journey together.
As a psychologist specializing in Family and Couples Therapy, my toolkit includes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
At Pro Comfort Counselling (P.C.C), step into a realm where family complexities and relationship intricacies find understanding and transformation. In the face of challenges like family conflicts, ADHD, and substance abuse, envision a guide specializing in Family and Couples Therapy - someone attuned to your unique journey. I am that guide, offering more than expertise; I offer a compassionate partnership. As a psychologist skilled in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Play Therapy, I invite you to embark on a transformative journey. Change is possible—let's start the journey together.
07480 789942 View 07480 789942
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Vikki Joy Fear
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Clevedon BS21
Waitlist for new clients
I use talking therapy, EFT, neuroscience and creative techniques suh as art, sand tray, journalling and play to help you process trauma and support you through difficulties.
I am a down to earth and approachable counsellor for children, young people and adults. I have 27 years experience working with young people in care struggling with CPTSD, ADHD and ASD. At times, emotions and behaviours can become difficult. Past trauma affects us physically as well as mentally and emotionally, sometimes blocking lifes natural progression. We often underestimate the impact an event or events has on us. I can help you make sense of your emotions and behaviours and manage your responses to triggers, allowing progression towrards your desired goals.
I use talking therapy, EFT, neuroscience and creative techniques suh as art, sand tray, journalling and play to help you process trauma and support you through difficulties.
I am a down to earth and approachable counsellor for children, young people and adults. I have 27 years experience working with young people in care struggling with CPTSD, ADHD and ASD. At times, emotions and behaviours can become difficult. Past trauma affects us physically as well as mentally and emotionally, sometimes blocking lifes natural progression. We often underestimate the impact an event or events has on us. I can help you make sense of your emotions and behaviours and manage your responses to triggers, allowing progression towrards your desired goals.
01275 402983 View 01275 402983
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Michael Henry
Psychotherapist, MSc, MUKCP
Verified Verified
London N7
I utilise other modalities like Emotionally Focused Therapy (Couples and Family) or EMDR (trauma) dependent on your needs.
you have ended up here... so let me just say that whatever you are going through can be surmounted... whatever need, issue or goal you have, you have all the resources you need to reach there... and I am confident that I can collaborate with you and help you get to that 'place' on the other side whereas this need, issue or goal can either be gone, managed or achieved...
I utilise other modalities like Emotionally Focused Therapy (Couples and Family) or EMDR (trauma) dependent on your needs.
you have ended up here... so let me just say that whatever you are going through can be surmounted... whatever need, issue or goal you have, you have all the resources you need to reach there... and I am confident that I can collaborate with you and help you get to that 'place' on the other side whereas this need, issue or goal can either be gone, managed or achieved...
020 8167 3627 View 020 8167 3627
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Rosalind Ukoko-Rivers
Counsellor, MSc, MBACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brighton BN1
I use Person-centred, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Humanistic, Play Therapy, Solution focused, Brief therapy, Behavioural and emotionally focused therapy, and CBT.
I offer online, phone and face to face and walk therapy sessions, working under up to date risks assessments and client guidelines. I believe that each client is unique and an individual. This client - therapist working relationship, regardless of race, gender, religion, and sexual orientation, is the key to a positive and collaborative experience that offers insight and deeper understanding of our true needs and desires. I am proactive, flexible and adaptable according to your needs and requirements. I also work for Victim Support organisation. I am a qualified teacher with BA, MSc and PGCE qualifications, and DBS enhanced checked.
I use Person-centred, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Humanistic, Play Therapy, Solution focused, Brief therapy, Behavioural and emotionally focused therapy, and CBT.
I offer online, phone and face to face and walk therapy sessions, working under up to date risks assessments and client guidelines. I believe that each client is unique and an individual. This client - therapist working relationship, regardless of race, gender, religion, and sexual orientation, is the key to a positive and collaborative experience that offers insight and deeper understanding of our true needs and desires. I am proactive, flexible and adaptable according to your needs and requirements. I also work for Victim Support organisation. I am a qualified teacher with BA, MSc and PGCE qualifications, and DBS enhanced checked.
01273 092694 View 01273 092694
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Bêne Otto
Psychologist, MA, HCPC - Couns. Psych.
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London W1S  (Online Only)
Welcome, my name is Bêne (pronounced as Beanie). I am a counselling psychologist practicing online. I am honoured to work with adults and couples facing a variety of life challenges including trauma, depression, anxiety, burnout, relationship difficulties, and bereavement. I'm particularly interested in thanatology (focusing on loss, grief, terminal illness, and end-of-life care) and working with couples using Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT). Whatever brings you to therapy, I provide a safe, empathetic space for exploring yourself, nurturing relationships, and navigating the complexities of life's challenges.
Welcome, my name is Bêne (pronounced as Beanie). I am a counselling psychologist practicing online. I am honoured to work with adults and couples facing a variety of life challenges including trauma, depression, anxiety, burnout, relationship difficulties, and bereavement. I'm particularly interested in thanatology (focusing on loss, grief, terminal illness, and end-of-life care) and working with couples using Emotion Focused Therapy ( EFT). Whatever brings you to therapy, I provide a safe, empathetic space for exploring yourself, nurturing relationships, and navigating the complexities of life's challenges.
024 7542 0766 View 024 7542 0766
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Dr Hannah Jenkins
Psychologist, HCPC - Clin. Psych.
Verified Verified
London SW2  (Online Only)
My name is Hannah and I offer a kind, safe, highly specialised space for couples counselling and individual sessions. My couples work uses Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT). This focuses on unpicking the types of disagreements couples find themselves in again and again, getting to the heart of the issue and creating meaningful change within the relationship. My individual work can be structured (for example, using strategies and techniques), more exploratory or a blend of both. The purpose of all of the therapies I use is to develop your understanding of your problems, break unhelpful behaviours and build better coping strategies.
My name is Hannah and I offer a kind, safe, highly specialised space for couples counselling and individual sessions. My couples work uses Emotionally Focused Therapy ( EFT). This focuses on unpicking the types of disagreements couples find themselves in again and again, getting to the heart of the issue and creating meaningful change within the relationship. My individual work can be structured (for example, using strategies and techniques), more exploratory or a blend of both. The purpose of all of the therapies I use is to develop your understanding of your problems, break unhelpful behaviours and build better coping strategies.
01639 506731 View 01639 506731
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Claire Wallace
Counsellor, MBACP
Verified Verified
Saffron Walden CB10
I'm an accredited MBACP Reg. & MNCS Reg. therapist and Supervisor. I offer 1:1 therapy, couples therapy & EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques (Tapping) either face to face in my private practice or via zoom. It can feel quite daunting to see a counsellor, so I provide an initial free 20 minute in-take session for you to discuss your issues and any concerns you may have about your counselling journey. The in-take session will give the opportunity for me the counsellor and you the client, time to explore what you want from this process. Then together we can decide if you want to continue the proccess as me as your therapist.
I'm an accredited MBACP Reg. & MNCS Reg. therapist and Supervisor. I offer 1:1 therapy, couples therapy & EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques (Tapping) either face to face in my private practice or via zoom. It can feel quite daunting to see a counsellor, so I provide an initial free 20 minute in-take session for you to discuss your issues and any concerns you may have about your counselling journey. The in-take session will give the opportunity for me the counsellor and you the client, time to explore what you want from this process. Then together we can decide if you want to continue the proccess as me as your therapist.
01799 619195 View 01799 619195

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Emotionally Focused Counsellors

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.