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On-Air Shooting Raises Specter of "Bullying"

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on August 27, 2015

Before we are content to establish Flanagan’s ‘underlying mental instability,’ or situate the tragedy at the intersection of graphic video games and life, we must consider the ways in which our culture is fast paced and unforgiving.

Before we are content to establish Flanagan’s ‘underlying mental instability,’ or situate the tragedy at the intersection of graphic video games and life, we must consider the ways in which our culture is fast paced and unforgiving.

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Grid Irony? Taunting Initiatives and the NFL

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on August 7, 2015

With taunting penalties on the books since the mid 1980's, the NFL has the opportunity to take on much more than jeers, derision, and game-related 'in-your-face' posturing. By modelling and showcasing what it already proclaims—that ridicule, disparagement and discrimination will not be tolerated—the league reinforces social, anti-bullying agendas.

With taunting penalties on the books since the mid 1980's, the NFL has the opportunity to take on much more than jeers, derision, and game-related 'in-your-face' posturing. By modelling and showcasing what it already proclaims—that ridicule, disparagement and discrimination will not be tolerated—the league reinforces social, anti-bullying agendas.

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"Bullying Fiction" Top Picks

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on July 2, 2015

Adolescence.
At times synonymous with daily dramas….
until she takes her own life
or he brings a gun to school—and uses it.
This blog contains a list of books, fictional and/or autobiographical, that speak to these tragic scenarios, as well as to dysfunctional behaviors (including cutting and eating disorders) that are often linked to bullying.

Adolescence.
At times synonymous with daily dramas….
until she takes her own life
or he brings a gun to school—and uses it.
This blog contains a list of books, fictional and/or autobiographical, that speak to these tragic scenarios, as well as to dysfunctional behaviors (including cutting and eating disorders) that are often linked to bullying.

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Your Old School-Days Bully Wants to Friend You

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on June 24, 2015

On the one hand, you can finally have your voice heard, even dish back a moment of—pain? Doubt? Regret? Humility? (while reminding him or her what a little shit s/he was).
On the other hand, what’s the point? Reminding them of their cruelties may feel good, in the moment, but after hitting “Send” are you really able to move on?
What is it you want?

On the one hand, you can finally have your voice heard, even dish back a moment of—pain? Doubt? Regret? Humility? (while reminding him or her what a little shit s/he was).
On the other hand, what’s the point? Reminding them of their cruelties may feel good, in the moment, but after hitting “Send” are you really able to move on?
What is it you want?

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"Burn Book": An App for Bullying

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on April 19, 2015

For those over 30, or without teenage children, the term “Burn Book” may have no meaning. 0thers will recognize it as the iconic Treasury of Nastiness from the movie Mean Girls. Now it has become an app—one that enables anonymous bullying in specific, selected communities:

For those over 30, or without teenage children, the term “Burn Book” may have no meaning. 0thers will recognize it as the iconic Treasury of Nastiness from the movie Mean Girls. Now it has become an app—one that enables anonymous bullying in specific, selected communities:

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Bullying: A Case Study Revisited

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on April 9, 2015

They delighted in their own cleverness, and in their ability to get many uninvolved bystanders to sing a chorus as they waited in the food line. In other words, the humiliation of one girl became a popular bonding experience, and ad-libbing new lyrics was a way to get positive peer attention.

They delighted in their own cleverness, and in their ability to get many uninvolved bystanders to sing a chorus as they waited in the food line. In other words, the humiliation of one girl became a popular bonding experience, and ad-libbing new lyrics was a way to get positive peer attention.

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10 Things You Can Do as a Bystander

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 30, 2015

Many schools and organizations offer leadership training courses and seminars, yet they fail to teach the skills and strategies required for bystander intervention.

Many schools and organizations offer leadership training courses and seminars, yet they fail to teach the skills and strategies required for bystander intervention.

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Dad Publicly Shames his Bully Son

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 24, 2015

With punishments becoming increasingly difficult to enforce, parents of defiant children are beginning to consider publicly humiliating them

With punishments becoming increasingly difficult to enforce, parents of defiant children are beginning to consider publicly humiliating them

Embarrassment
X-Factor New Zealand Judge Bullies Contestant

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 17, 2015

Should this not have been a televised event eliciting public outcry, Joe Irvine might be in the same situation many young people find themselves—mocked for trying, humiliated as a pathetic wannabe, and branded a loser. Worse yet, that young person—not unlike Joe—might find video of their public beat-down posted.

Should this not have been a televised event eliciting public outcry, Joe Irvine might be in the same situation many young people find themselves—mocked for trying, humiliated as a pathetic wannabe, and branded a loser. Worse yet, that young person—not unlike Joe—might find video of their public beat-down posted.

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New Bullying Movie Set to Showcase "Perception"?

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 11, 2015

Simply put, without the mirroring of those around us, we cannot catch a glimpse of ourselves, and adjust behaviors, beliefs, and perceptions. Feedback endorses, rejects, or modifies our interpretations of events and experiences. Too often, bullying co-opts and perverts feedback, and bystanders, not unlike victims, are also expected to ‘take it'....

Simply put, without the mirroring of those around us, we cannot catch a glimpse of ourselves, and adjust behaviors, beliefs, and perceptions. Feedback endorses, rejects, or modifies our interpretations of events and experiences. Too often, bullying co-opts and perverts feedback, and bystanders, not unlike victims, are also expected to ‘take it'....

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Changing the Onus of Responsibility

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 6, 2015

While it is important to give our children strategies for standing strong, we must give them alternate means by which to do so---means by which they, as bystanders, will find their voice, and begin to use it in soft ways.

While it is important to give our children strategies for standing strong, we must give them alternate means by which to do so---means by which they, as bystanders, will find their voice, and begin to use it in soft ways.

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Bullying, Shame, and the Possibility of Redemption

Laura Martocci Ph.D. on March 5, 2015

The inclusion of so many isolated, yet deeply painful, shaming experiences under the rubric of ‘bullying’ is an attempt to give language to this pain—to legitimate it to ourselves, while giving it expression within culture.

The inclusion of so many isolated, yet deeply painful, shaming experiences under the rubric of ‘bullying’ is an attempt to give language to this pain—to legitimate it to ourselves, while giving it expression within culture.