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by Nicole Caccavo Kear
Single motherhood comes with a unique set of emotional challenges that can, at times, feel overwhelming and are best understood by women who share them. Countless other moms grapple with exactly the same issues – from self-doubt and anxiety over money to the stress of making decisions alone – and they've come up with some creative solutions that may work for you too.
Challenge 1: Having No One To Turn To
"There is no out. Being on 24/7 means that there is no one to pass the baton to when you are having a bad parenting moment (or day)," says Amelia Shaw, an American mother of two young daughters living in Tijuana, Mexico, "and this can lead to parent tantrum-ing."
Single mom solutions:
"I find that if I put my hands up, close and open them, then close my eyes and take a deep yoga breath in and out, I usually can reset my mood enough to get out of whatever situation I'm in." –Sidney Cavaricci, 28, mother of a 1-year old in New York City
"When you need a moment, put those kids to sleep. Better you put them to sleep than act out in anger toward them because you need a moment. Or just sit them in front of the TV and go in your room for a breather." –Tiffany Komba, 25, a mother of two sons (a 5-year-old and 1-year-old) in North Hollywood, California
Challenge 2: Self-Doubt
"It's so hard to know if you're doing a good job," says Cavaricci. "When you're in a couple, you have someone who agrees (or disagrees) with your methods and can help you see the merit in your positive parenting moments and help you improve where you fall short. But as a single parent you have to do that alone, and it's not always easy."
Single mom solutions:
"I surround myself with other mothers of young kids," recommends Cavaricci. "I see where they fall short and learn from that, and I'm inspired by the things they do well. At the end of the day, I remind myself that no one is perfect. I know I'm doing at least something right because my daughter is happy and thriving."
"Take a deep breath, cry if you have to, then get up and be the best mother that you know how to be." –Tiffany Komba
Challenge 3: Making Decisions Solo
"I used to get extremely stressed and anxious over making all the decisions on my own," says Annie Tumlin, 35, mom to a 12-year-old daughter and two sons (8 and 6 years old) in Overland Park, Kansas. "Whether it's what type of lawn mower to buy or what school to send the kids to. I could ask my parents or friends [for advice], but I am the only one completely invested in my children."
Single mom solutions:
“Over time, I've learned to trust that things are all going to work and to see the decision-making as an honor,” says Tumlin. "Sure, there are always questions, but overall, being forced to have this responsibility has made me a better person. I have found confidence and independence."
"This can be looked at as a positive thing. No negotiating with others when the decision is your own. If it's your weekend with the kids, you decide if you want to go camping or take a quick trip out of town." –Renachantel McClain, 38, mother of an 11-year-old son in Detroit, Michigan
Challenge 4: Missing the Kids When They're With the Other Parent
"Loneliness is a constant challenge, and the hardest part has been getting used to being without the kids," says Elizabeth Nelson, 39, mom of 13- and 9-year-old girls in Brooklyn, New York. "The first time my kids went to their dad's for a whole weekend, it felt like all the air had been sucked out of the room."
Single mom solutions:
"My solution has been just to plan out those times, so I don't give myself a chance to get into a funk," says Nelson. "I make myself reach out to friends and schedule nights out singing karaoke or going to dinner or whatever – things I can't do when the kids are home."
"Spend that time rediscovering you! Go to an art museum you normally couldn't go to with the kids. See an R-rated movie in the afternoon on a Saturday, or put on your favorite tunes and dance around the house – whatever you want to feel free and liberated." –Renachantel McClain
Challenge 5: Stress and Anxiety About Money
"When my son was younger, I would get overwhelmed," says Julie Principe, 38, mother of an 18-year-old son in Bristol, Rhode Island. "At night, I'd be washing dishes, and my eyes would be swelling with tears, but I didn't want my son to see because I didn't want him to have to worry about stuff like money."
Single mom solutions:
"I tell myself that as long as we have food on the table, we're OK," says Principe. "And from the time my son was 2 years old, I made sure I got exercise four to six days a week – even if it was at home, in the morning, or after bedtime. Exercise makes me feel less stressed."
"If you write out a budget for the month, it helps you see where all your money is going and needs to go."–Tiffany Komba
Challenge 6: Accepting A Family That Differs From The One You'd Planned
"I was raised in a single-parent household, and I didn't want that for my child," says Komba. "I constantly worried about how my child would deal with knowing his father wasn't around."
Single mom solutions:
"Something that helped a ton was preparing myself mentally for the questions my child might one day ask," says Komba. "I thought about every possible question or scenario and prepared. I never wanted to be caught off guard. I didn't worry myself over these things, I simply prepared."
"There is no longer a cookie cutter definition of a family. Family is what you make it. It can include friends who are like family, partners. Embracing that idea is the first step to embracing the family you have." –Renachantel McClain
Challenge 7: Losing A Sense of Self
"We are often expected to be superwoman when the other parent is not involved," says McClain. "After spending the day working full time, and then being on Mommy duty at home, it's easy to forget about taking care of yourself."
Single mom solutions
"Take at least one hour out of the week to do something for yourself," recommends McClain. "Going for a walk or writing in a journal – something that allows you to reconnect with who you were before you became a mom."
"I put the baby to sleep and no matter how tired I am, I open myself a beer and paint, or I stretch canvases, or I sketch anything and everything. Sometimes it's worth leaving the housework for tomorrow." –Sidney Cavaricci
