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An Anguished Choice to Help a Suffering Boy

Sending a child to live away from home can be an act of deepest love.

Readers, I have been working my way through a particularly tough pain-and-fatigue flare (my "battle scars" from years of trauma on the home front) and trying to meet a publishing deadline, all at once.

That's why you're wondering if I cut out of here and am lounging around the beach in Majorca, sweet frozen drink in hand.

Sadly, no.

While I don't have a brand new post for you today (or a sweet frozen drink in hand), I thought I'd share a link to my newest personal essay. "An Anguished Choice to Help a Child with Mental Illness," recently came out on Cognoscenti--an online ideas and opinion journal of the Boston public radio station WBUR.

Sending a beloved child to live away from home can truly be an act of love, paradoxical though that may seem to most parents. It nearly broke our hearts, but Lars and I believe making that difficult choice saved Benjy's life--and thankfully, Benjy, who never thought he'd make it into his teenage years, agrees.

The next step is getting him back home. We're working hard on it.

You can read the essay here.

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