The Attraction Doctor

Relationships

How to Persuade Your Romantic Partner to Commit

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on October 30, 2024

Research identifies five factors that can be used to evaluate your partner’s level of commitment—and help you influence them to commit even more too.

Research identifies five factors that can be used to evaluate your partner’s level of commitment—and help you influence them to commit even more too.

Persuasion

Persuasive Language to Build a Loving Connection

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 19, 2024

It isn’t always easy to create and maintain an intimate connection with a romantic partner. Using the right persuasive words can help.

It isn’t always easy to create and maintain an intimate connection with a romantic partner. Using the right persuasive words can help.

Sex

Behaviors that Signal Romantic or Sexual Interest

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on August 27, 2024

It isn’t always easy to tell whether someone wants to date you, love you, or go to bed with you. Research suggests behavioral cues to help tell the difference.

It isn’t always easy to tell whether someone wants to date you, love you, or go to bed with you. Research suggests behavioral cues to help tell the difference.

Relationships

Why People Manipulate and Play Games in Relationships

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 20, 2024

Why do people play games in relationships, especially when manipulation tends to turn out badly? How can you avoid games and build intimacy instead?

Why do people play games in relationships, especially when manipulation tends to turn out badly? How can you avoid games and build intimacy instead?

Flirting

3 Awkward but Common Flirting Mistakes

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on May 15, 2024

2. Relying too much on words.

2. Relying too much on words.

Mating

How Nice Guys (and Women) Can Find Love

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 11, 2024

People with warm and agreeable personalities can be overlooked at times—but they can win in romantic relationships. too. Learn how here.

People with warm and agreeable personalities can be overlooked at times—but they can win in romantic relationships. too. Learn how here.

Body Language

How to Tell Whether Someone Is Interested in You

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on February 12, 2024

Revealing verbal, nonverbal, and attentional cues.

Revealing verbal, nonverbal, and attentional cues.

Charisma

The Science of Charisma for Romance, Work, and Everyday Life

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 18, 2023

What exactly makes someone charismatic? Research provides an answer and shows how you can become more charismatic in love, life, and work.

What exactly makes someone charismatic? Research provides an answer and shows how you can become more charismatic in love, life, and work.

Relationships

When Is "Being Yourself" a Good Dating and Mating Strategy?

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on October 23, 2023

"Just be yourself" is often a cliché in dating advice. Nevertheless, research suggests it is successful under certain conditions. Learn how authenticity can lead to long-term love.

"Just be yourself" is often a cliché in dating advice. Nevertheless, research suggests it is successful under certain conditions. Learn how authenticity can lead to long-term love.

Mating

Cuffing Season Tips: A Guide for Holiday Romance

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 29, 2023

Find love for the holidays (and perhaps beyond) with these persuasive tips for cuffing season success.

Find love for the holidays (and perhaps beyond) with these persuasive tips for cuffing season success.

Body Language

Body Language for Building Rapport and Connection

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 14, 2023

Classic research identified three factors necessary to build rapport, along with the nonverbal communication skills that create and maintain that connection.

Classic research identified three factors necessary to build rapport, along with the nonverbal communication skills that create and maintain that connection.

Relationships

4 Factors for Building Trust in Relationships

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on August 16, 2023

Most people want a trusting relationship but are often confused about how to build one. Now, research has simplified the process down to four important factors.

Most people want a trusting relationship but are often confused about how to build one. Now, research has simplified the process down to four important factors.

Motivation

Making Conversations Easier: Identifying Your Goals

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 29, 2023

Conversations can be difficult, leading to digressions and frustrations, instead of cooperation and satisfaction.

Conversations can be difficult, leading to digressions and frustrations, instead of cooperation and satisfaction.

Social Networking

The Benefits of Learning How to Talk to Strangers

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 27, 2023

Talking to strangers can be more beneficial than you might think. It can also be easier than you might imagine. Here's what the research has to say.

Talking to strangers can be more beneficial than you might think. It can also be easier than you might imagine. Here's what the research has to say.

Mating

How Our Romantic Feelings Change Over Time

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 30, 2023

Romantic feelings often change as a relationship grows. New research explains why—and how partners can use those changes to increase mutual attraction and compatibility over time.

Romantic feelings often change as a relationship grows. New research explains why—and how partners can use those changes to increase mutual attraction and compatibility over time.

Mating

How We Find the Right Partner

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 23, 2023

Learn how mate evaluation theory can improve your success with dating and relationships.

Learn how mate evaluation theory can improve your success with dating and relationships.

Flirting

3 Steps to Figure Out Why Someone Is Flirting With You

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 20, 2022

Have you ever wondered why someone is flirting with you? Do they like you? Do they just want sex? Are they buttering you up for a favor instead? Learn how to tell the difference.

Have you ever wondered why someone is flirting with you? Do they like you? Do they just want sex? Are they buttering you up for a favor instead? Learn how to tell the difference.

Mating

Why Women Choose Nice Guys or Bad Boys

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 12, 2022

Women's mating motivations can be a mystery to men—and to the women themselves. Learn what research has to say about their preferences for bad boys, nice guys, heroes, and losers.

Women's mating motivations can be a mystery to men—and to the women themselves. Learn what research has to say about their preferences for bad boys, nice guys, heroes, and losers.

Flirting

The Best Ways for Men and Women to Flirt

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 2, 2022

Have you ever tried to flirt, only to have your efforts fall flat? Find out which flirting techniques work best, for women and men, according to research.

Have you ever tried to flirt, only to have your efforts fall flat? Find out which flirting techniques work best, for women and men, according to research.

Mating

Dealbreakers That Ruin Passion and Connection

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 20, 2022

Some bad traits can wreck a relationship before it even gets started. Find out what they are and how to avoid them.

Some bad traits can wreck a relationship before it even gets started. Find out what they are and how to avoid them.