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Relationships
Relationship Red Flags: 20 Questions to Think About

Silva Neves on November 17, 2024

It can be confronting and painful to identify some significant red flags in a relationship. A relationship is not supposed to make us consistently unhappy.

It can be confronting and painful to identify some significant red flags in a relationship. A relationship is not supposed to make us consistently unhappy.

Family Dynamics
The Pain of the Outcast

Silva Neves on September 19, 2024

Becoming a family's outcast often result from the family choosing to keep its system in place rather than doing the hard work of self-reflection.

Becoming a family's outcast often result from the family choosing to keep its system in place rather than doing the hard work of self-reflection.

Compulsive Behaviors
A Broader Picture of Sexual Compulsivity

Silva Neves on August 21, 2024

The field of "sex/porn addiction" is a contentious one that comes with much confusion and myths. Thankfully, the field of sexology can bring clarity with a sex-positive approach.

The field of "sex/porn addiction" is a contentious one that comes with much confusion and myths. Thankfully, the field of sexology can bring clarity with a sex-positive approach.

Sexual Orientation
What Is Pride Month For?

Silva Neves on June 3, 2024

Personal Perspective: During Pride Month, we can reflect on coming out, queer history, and how to look after ourselves and each other.

Personal Perspective: During Pride Month, we can reflect on coming out, queer history, and how to look after ourselves and each other.

Sexual Orientation
Accessing Queer Joy

Silva Neves on May 14, 2024

Even though LGBTQ+ people experience the wounding effects of homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, they can access Queer Joy as their best defence against hate.

Even though LGBTQ+ people experience the wounding effects of homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, they can access Queer Joy as their best defence against hate.

Sexual Abuse
"Baby Reindeer": The Complexities of Sexual Abuse

Silva Neves on May 6, 2024

Sexual abuse and coercion wound the core sense of self. It is difficult for male survivors to reach out for help because of shame and not being taken seriously.

Sexual abuse and coercion wound the core sense of self. It is difficult for male survivors to reach out for help because of shame and not being taken seriously.

Relationships
Navigating Christmas Day

Silva Neves on December 11, 2023

Christmas is a joyous time but, for many, it is a difficult time when there are multiple family dynamics to consider.

Christmas is a joyous time but, for many, it is a difficult time when there are multiple family dynamics to consider.

Media
LGBTQ+ Hate Crimes: How Can We Stop These Attacks?

Silva Neves on October 8, 2023

LGBTQ+ hate has recently turned into deadly attacks. The root causes are as complex as the potential remedies that may exist to counteract the trends of bigotry and violence.

LGBTQ+ hate has recently turned into deadly attacks. The root causes are as complex as the potential remedies that may exist to counteract the trends of bigotry and violence.

Identity
Understanding and Celebrating Pride Flags

Silva Neves on October 1, 2023

Different pride flags carry different meanings to various members of the LGBTQ+ community. The flags continue evolving to reflect the diversity of LGBTQ+ people.

Different pride flags carry different meanings to various members of the LGBTQ+ community. The flags continue evolving to reflect the diversity of LGBTQ+ people.

Sex
The Problem With "Sex Addiction" Therapy

Silva Neves on May 12, 2023

Personal Perspective: When terminology of pathology is not clinically endorsed but continues to be used, it brings up the ethical question of why that is.

Personal Perspective: When terminology of pathology is not clinically endorsed but continues to be used, it brings up the ethical question of why that is.

Relationships
Queering Valentine’s Day

Silva Neves on February 1, 2023

A Personal Perspective: Valentine's Day is mostly associated with heterosexual monogamy. LGBTQ+ people can help make it a celebration of nonjudgmental love.

A Personal Perspective: Valentine's Day is mostly associated with heterosexual monogamy. LGBTQ+ people can help make it a celebration of nonjudgmental love.

Education
Is Being Human About Numbers or Words?

Silva Neves on January 9, 2023

Personal Perspective: We may be encouraging people to live in a world governed by numbers, at the risk of missing the stories that are central to our existence.

Personal Perspective: We may be encouraging people to live in a world governed by numbers, at the risk of missing the stories that are central to our existence.

Health
Are Mental Health Diagnoses Helpful in a Crisis?

Silva Neves on August 29, 2022

Personal perspective: In the difficult world that we live in, many are struggling. Should mental health professionals stop pathologizing people and return to therapeutic human connections?

Personal perspective: In the difficult world that we live in, many are struggling. Should mental health professionals stop pathologizing people and return to therapeutic human connections?

Health
Why Do We Celebrate Pride Month?

Silva Neves on June 9, 2022

LGBTQ+ people have equal rights in liberal countries. If you think Pride Month is no longer needed, think again.

LGBTQ+ people have equal rights in liberal countries. If you think Pride Month is no longer needed, think again.

Relationships
The Shadow of Mother's Day

Silva Neves on March 22, 2022

Mother's Day is a celebration of motherhood. But, for some, the absence of their mother's love makes the day distressing and a reminder of multiple stories of disrupted attachments.

Mother's Day is a celebration of motherhood. But, for some, the absence of their mother's love makes the day distressing and a reminder of multiple stories of disrupted attachments.