Spellbound

Family Dynamics

Have Yourself a Conflict-Free Christmas

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on December 10, 2021

Do your family holiday gatherings often end in an argument? Changing just a few of your conversational habits can help reduce conflict.

Do your family holiday gatherings often end in an argument? Changing just a few of your conversational habits can help reduce conflict.

Trauma

Why Some People Dump Their Traumas on Us

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on November 26, 2021

Trauma dumping can have a toxic effect on our relationships. Understanding why it happens and learning to set boundaries can help reduce the distress it causes.

Trauma dumping can have a toxic effect on our relationships. Understanding why it happens and learning to set boundaries can help reduce the distress it causes.

Self-Talk

How to Relegate Your Inner Critic

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on October 28, 2021

Are you yearning for renewed purpose and meaning in your life? Relegating your inner critic can help you discover it.

Are you yearning for renewed purpose and meaning in your life? Relegating your inner critic can help you discover it.

Self-Talk

Is It Time to Relegate Your Inner Critic?

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on October 10, 2021

Are you ruled by your critic? With a little help from your other inner people, you can learn to break free.

Are you ruled by your critic? With a little help from your other inner people, you can learn to break free.

Relationships

Why We Should Daydream More Often

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on June 21, 2021

Active daydreaming is not a waste of time. It is a skill, and with some practice, it can improve your relationships and your performance at work.

Active daydreaming is not a waste of time. It is a skill, and with some practice, it can improve your relationships and your performance at work.

Parenting

Threat Brain Parenting

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on May 27, 2021

Are you living your life through your children? Here's why Big O love hurts them—and you.

Are you living your life through your children? Here's why Big O love hurts them—and you.

Relationships

Idealizing Others in Romantic Love

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on May 14, 2021

Do your intimate relationships too often end up in disappointment and disillusion? If so, you may be trapped in the Big O love loop.

Do your intimate relationships too often end up in disappointment and disillusion? If so, you may be trapped in the Big O love loop.

Sex

The Curse of Culture

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on April 27, 2021

Culture is like the emperor's new clothes. We see it, feel it and accept it, but it isn't the truth.

Culture is like the emperor's new clothes. We see it, feel it and accept it, but it isn't the truth.

Relationships

The Curse of Family

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on April 1, 2021

How much of what we feel and think is what we have been told to feel and think? And if we weren't told, who would we then be?

How much of what we feel and think is what we have been told to feel and think? And if we weren't told, who would we then be?

Personality

The Curse of Character

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on March 24, 2021

Underneath who you "should" be is your character—or who you are. Our character curses us when we deny, hide, or repress its true nature.

Underneath who you "should" be is your character—or who you are. Our character curses us when we deny, hide, or repress its true nature.

Memory

The Curse Of Memory.

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on March 16, 2021

Are you frozen in the past? Memories can curse us when we fail to understand both their power and their limitations.

Are you frozen in the past? Memories can curse us when we fail to understand both their power and their limitations.

Fear

The Curse Of Consciousness

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on March 8, 2021

Do you suffer from the tendency to over-think? You're not alone. Consciousness is a mixed human blessing.

Do you suffer from the tendency to over-think? You're not alone. Consciousness is a mixed human blessing.

Memory

It's Not My Fault But It Is My Problem

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on March 2, 2021

Part 1: If you are not what or who your consciousness, memory, character, family or culture tell you, then who are you?

Part 1: If you are not what or who your consciousness, memory, character, family or culture tell you, then who are you?

Marriage

The Theatre of Marriage

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on February 24, 2021

We are made up of many 'selves' and each has something to say about our relationships. Acknowledging and listening to each other's selves helps us understand relational conflicts.

We are made up of many 'selves' and each has something to say about our relationships. Acknowledging and listening to each other's selves helps us understand relational conflicts.

Relationships

Are You Asking Your Partner the Right Questions?

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on February 17, 2021

Humans have thrived through curiosity, so why is it that in our most significant relationships we don’t ask more and better questions of each other?

Humans have thrived through curiosity, so why is it that in our most significant relationships we don’t ask more and better questions of each other?

Relationships

Are You in Love With a Big O?

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on February 10, 2021

The excessive adoration and over-evaluation of "Big Others" diminishes our own worth. Who's on your red carpet?

The excessive adoration and over-evaluation of "Big Others" diminishes our own worth. Who's on your red carpet?

Relationships

Beware the Chemistry of Love

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on February 3, 2021

Is it love or infatuation? Understanding how your emotions work will help you tell the difference.

Is it love or infatuation? Understanding how your emotions work will help you tell the difference.

Attention

Don’t Kick Your Habits. Embrace Them

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on January 27, 2021

Being kind to ourselves is not self-indulgent. It's the way to break a habit.

Being kind to ourselves is not self-indulgent. It's the way to break a habit.

Health

Having Nothing in Common Doesn't Spell the End

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on January 20, 2021

A promise to love each other "in difference and in health" is how your relationship will flourish.

A promise to love each other "in difference and in health" is how your relationship will flourish.

Relationships

Desperately Seeking Love

Nelisha Wickremasinghe, DProf. on January 11, 2021

Are you paying more attention to everyone else's needs and not your own? Learn four perception practices that help you re-direct your attention to where it is needed most.

Are you paying more attention to everyone else's needs and not your own? Learn four perception practices that help you re-direct your attention to where it is needed most.