Sexual Addiction Therapists in Newmarket, ON

Photo of Christian Alexander Appleton - First Step Men's Therapy (No Waitlist), MSW , RSW, Clinical Social Work/Therapist
First Step Men's Therapy (No Waitlist)
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW , RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y  (Online Only)
Our specialities are: addiction, men's issues, career guidance, grief, video game addiction, gambling, substance use, ADHD, sexual addiction, infidelity, anger management, anxiety, depression, stress, and chronic pain.
Most men come to me feeling stuck, broken, disconnected, lost, or feeling lonely. Perhaps you have struggled with a mental concern for a while and are looking for change. For others, you may just want to better understand why you do the things you do. You may know you want to work on things, but are afraid to take the first step. It doesn't have to be this way! I work with men who are looking to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. First Step Men's Therapy offers men across Ontario a safe, supportive, and healing space to learn, heal, and grow. Book a free 20-minute consultation today to get started.
Our specialities are: addiction, men's issues, career guidance, grief, video game addiction, gambling, substance use, ADHD, sexual addiction, infidelity, anger management, anxiety, depression, stress, and chronic pain.
Most men come to me feeling stuck, broken, disconnected, lost, or feeling lonely. Perhaps you have struggled with a mental concern for a while and are looking for change. For others, you may just want to better understand why you do the things you do. You may know you want to work on things, but are afraid to take the first step. It doesn't have to be this way! I work with men who are looking to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. First Step Men's Therapy offers men across Ontario a safe, supportive, and healing space to learn, heal, and grow. Book a free 20-minute consultation today to get started.
(437) 500-6227 View (437) 500-6227
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Tom Petridis
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), BA, MEd, MACP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Offering In-Person therapy in Newmarket and Barrie, and Virtual/Phone sessions in Ontario! Trained in many areas of psychotherapy, for a variety of reasons, including anxiety, depression, stress, couple’s issues, self-esteem, addictions, and more, my goal is to treat you as the whole person, where we, as a team, decide what goals are best for you in each moment. We are complex beings, where biology, psychology, and support systems, all play an important and integral role in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Furthermore, when you are ready, there may be some past events we can unpack and help you begin to heal from.
Offering In-Person therapy in Newmarket and Barrie, and Virtual/Phone sessions in Ontario! Trained in many areas of psychotherapy, for a variety of reasons, including anxiety, depression, stress, couple’s issues, self-esteem, addictions, and more, my goal is to treat you as the whole person, where we, as a team, decide what goals are best for you in each moment. We are complex beings, where biology, psychology, and support systems, all play an important and integral role in our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Furthermore, when you are ready, there may be some past events we can unpack and help you begin to heal from.
(289) 272-8583 View (289) 272-8583
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Marianne Deeks
Registered Psychotherapist, MDiv, CYW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
I am passionate about helping teens, young adults and families struggling with a range of mental health and relationship concerns. If you are seeking counselling, it means you are ready for change. It is an opportunity to gain confidence and insight into some of the negative patterns you may find yourself or your relationships. It is my hope to collaborate with individuals or families to build on their strengths in order to find healthier coping strategies to deal with life's struggles.
I am passionate about helping teens, young adults and families struggling with a range of mental health and relationship concerns. If you are seeking counselling, it means you are ready for change. It is an opportunity to gain confidence and insight into some of the negative patterns you may find yourself or your relationships. It is my hope to collaborate with individuals or families to build on their strengths in order to find healthier coping strategies to deal with life's struggles.
(647) 360-9507 View (647) 360-9507
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Jason Koenigbaur
Registered Psychotherapist, MTS, CHT, RP
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Waitlist for new clients
I am a Registered Psychotherapist with over twenty years’ experience in the mental health field treating anxiety, depression, childhood abuse, trauma, and PTSD. I have extensive experience working with people who have experienced trauma, poor attachment, and those recovering from abusive relationships. Having been trained by leading experts in the fields of trauma, neuroscience and mind-body healing, I can help you find relief from distressing symptoms, make positive behavioural changes, and get you back connected to your True Self.
I am a Registered Psychotherapist with over twenty years’ experience in the mental health field treating anxiety, depression, childhood abuse, trauma, and PTSD. I have extensive experience working with people who have experienced trauma, poor attachment, and those recovering from abusive relationships. Having been trained by leading experts in the fields of trauma, neuroscience and mind-body healing, I can help you find relief from distressing symptoms, make positive behavioural changes, and get you back connected to your True Self.
(647) 951-6342 View (647) 951-6342
Photo of Jessica Squilloni, MA, RP, Registered Psychotherapist
Jessica Squilloni
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
I am a Registered Psychotherapist through the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario with a Masters degree in Counselling Psychology. I provide evidence-based therapy and skills training in dialectical behaviour therapy. I specialize in issues related to emotion regulation and impulsivity which include borderline personality disorder and other personality disorders, PTSD, suicide as well as mood, anxiety and eating disorders. I have international training with DBT experts from locations including Italy and New York. I have formal training in Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD and CBT for anxiety.
I am a Registered Psychotherapist through the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario with a Masters degree in Counselling Psychology. I provide evidence-based therapy and skills training in dialectical behaviour therapy. I specialize in issues related to emotion regulation and impulsivity which include borderline personality disorder and other personality disorders, PTSD, suicide as well as mood, anxiety and eating disorders. I have international training with DBT experts from locations including Italy and New York. I have formal training in Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD and CBT for anxiety.
(249) 495-5310 View (249) 495-5310
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Robyn Schachter
Registered Psychotherapist, MEd, CHyp, CT, RP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
My therapeutic approach is to create inner harmony between your thoughts and emotions. I do this by creating integrative therapeutic experiences utilizing evidence based therapies such as CBT, DBT, Clinical Hypnosis, Brief Solution Based Counselling along with cutting edge holistic methods of mindfulness and client centered psychotherapy. Incorporating these cognitive therapies with the mind and body allows for a unique experience where you can heal from past trauma and move forward with new enthusiasm and excitement.
My therapeutic approach is to create inner harmony between your thoughts and emotions. I do this by creating integrative therapeutic experiences utilizing evidence based therapies such as CBT, DBT, Clinical Hypnosis, Brief Solution Based Counselling along with cutting edge holistic methods of mindfulness and client centered psychotherapy. Incorporating these cognitive therapies with the mind and body allows for a unique experience where you can heal from past trauma and move forward with new enthusiasm and excitement.
(855) 873-4443 View (855) 873-4443
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Mateo Salazar
Registered Psychotherapist, MDiv
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Mateo is a Registered Psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. He has provided treatment for many individuals, couples, and families from a variety of cultural backgrounds, challenging life experiences, and complex mental health concerns all over Toronto and the GTA. Mateo’s clinical work can be described as an eclectic therapeutic approach primarily rooted in modalities including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, and Narrative Therapy.
Mateo is a Registered Psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario. He has provided treatment for many individuals, couples, and families from a variety of cultural backgrounds, challenging life experiences, and complex mental health concerns all over Toronto and the GTA. Mateo’s clinical work can be described as an eclectic therapeutic approach primarily rooted in modalities including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, and Narrative Therapy.
(289) 278-8336 View (289) 278-8336
Photo of Brendan D. L. Callaghan, MCP, RP, BAH, Registered Psychotherapist
Brendan D. L. Callaghan
Registered Psychotherapist, MCP, RP, BAH
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Working together with each client from a holistic, biopsychosocial, Person-Centred perspective on health and wellness, it is my goal to help you achieve a state of higher wellbeing and grow into the best version of yourself -- beginning at the core with your thoughts and feelings. If you’re interested in working together, please send your name and contact information via e-mail and I will get you set up with a free 15 minute consultation from there.
Working together with each client from a holistic, biopsychosocial, Person-Centred perspective on health and wellness, it is my goal to help you achieve a state of higher wellbeing and grow into the best version of yourself -- beginning at the core with your thoughts and feelings. If you’re interested in working together, please send your name and contact information via e-mail and I will get you set up with a free 15 minute consultation from there.
(289) 207-6513 View (289) 207-6513
Photo of Robyn Schachter - York Region Stress and Anxiety Clinic, MEd , CHyp, RP, Registered Psychotherapist
York Region Stress and Anxiety Clinic
Registered Psychotherapist, MEd , CHyp, RP
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
The York Region Stress and Anxiety Clinic is an integrative facility focused on mental health and well-being. Our highly trained and Registered Psychotherapists offer individual, couples, and family counselling and psychotherapy to the York Region Community. We utilize well-researched and cutting edge treatment methods for the treatment of stress, anxiety, panic, depression, trauma/PTSD, and relationship conflicts. All of our therapists have additional training or certification in particular specialty areas to deliver the best care possible
The York Region Stress and Anxiety Clinic is an integrative facility focused on mental health and well-being. Our highly trained and Registered Psychotherapists offer individual, couples, and family counselling and psychotherapy to the York Region Community. We utilize well-researched and cutting edge treatment methods for the treatment of stress, anxiety, panic, depression, trauma/PTSD, and relationship conflicts. All of our therapists have additional training or certification in particular specialty areas to deliver the best care possible
(647) 696-9520 View (647) 696-9520
Photo of Helen Gibbs - Family TLC, MSW, RSW, RP, MEd, BAFN, Registered Social Worker
Family TLC
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW, RP, MEd, BAFN
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Are life struggles causing you unhappiness? Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed or stuck? It can get better. We are a group of highly trained counsellors, with over 30+ years of experience. Hundreds of individuals, couples, families, children and adolescents have benefited from our services. At Family TLC we truly believe in you and that you are bigger than the concern.
Are life struggles causing you unhappiness? Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed or stuck? It can get better. We are a group of highly trained counsellors, with over 30+ years of experience. Hundreds of individuals, couples, families, children and adolescents have benefited from our services. At Family TLC we truly believe in you and that you are bigger than the concern.
(249) 700-4490 View (249) 700-4490
Photo of Anna Sagalchik, OAMHP , BA, MA, CRPO, Registered Psychotherapist
Anna Sagalchik
Registered Psychotherapist, OAMHP , BA, MA, CRPO
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
We are all going through some tough times right now. Some of us have less energy or feel anxious and hopeless. Words like "anxiety", "stress", "depression" or "sadness" may come to mind. This is a unique period in time and it is natural to feel uneasy. I use a psychodynamic, solution-focused approach, thus, acknowledging your complexity and inherent strengths. Together, we will develop solutions from your unique perspective. I have provided therapy for individuals, teens and couples. I strive to be honest and non-judgmental, enjoy working with everyone and can offer supportive and realistic strategies to improve your life.
We are all going through some tough times right now. Some of us have less energy or feel anxious and hopeless. Words like "anxiety", "stress", "depression" or "sadness" may come to mind. This is a unique period in time and it is natural to feel uneasy. I use a psychodynamic, solution-focused approach, thus, acknowledging your complexity and inherent strengths. Together, we will develop solutions from your unique perspective. I have provided therapy for individuals, teens and couples. I strive to be honest and non-judgmental, enjoy working with everyone and can offer supportive and realistic strategies to improve your life.
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Photo of Lillian Benrubi, MSW, RSW, Registered Social Worker
Lillian Benrubi
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
At different times in our lives, we are handed challenges, and are faced with adversity. In these situations, we may feel like we need some support; someone wise and compassionate who can provide the opportunity to be heard, and the necessary guidance to move forward. You may be dealing with issues of depression, anxiety, problems in a relationship, grief/loss, trauma/post trauma, addiction, parenting, separation/divorce; or maybe you have just lost direction and feel like you need some realignment. Psychotherapy, coaching, or a combination of both offer you the opportunity to explore difficult or confusing terrain, to understand
At different times in our lives, we are handed challenges, and are faced with adversity. In these situations, we may feel like we need some support; someone wise and compassionate who can provide the opportunity to be heard, and the necessary guidance to move forward. You may be dealing with issues of depression, anxiety, problems in a relationship, grief/loss, trauma/post trauma, addiction, parenting, separation/divorce; or maybe you have just lost direction and feel like you need some realignment. Psychotherapy, coaching, or a combination of both offer you the opportunity to explore difficult or confusing terrain, to understand
(289) 512-0131 View (289) 512-0131
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Newmarket Therapy Centre
Registered Psychotherapist
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Our most fundamental need is to be seen, heard and accepted as we are. It is no surprise that the strongest determining factor in successful therapy is the therapeutic alliance. Positive change happens when we become more like ourselves rather than trying to be something others want us to be. Our team of experienced psychotherapists are here to support individuals, couples and families with their journeys towards greater wholeness and authenticity. We work with the mind, emotions and nervous system to break unhealthy thinking patterns, unburden emotional pain and trauma, build healthy self-esteem, and find deeper meaning in life.
Our most fundamental need is to be seen, heard and accepted as we are. It is no surprise that the strongest determining factor in successful therapy is the therapeutic alliance. Positive change happens when we become more like ourselves rather than trying to be something others want us to be. Our team of experienced psychotherapists are here to support individuals, couples and families with their journeys towards greater wholeness and authenticity. We work with the mind, emotions and nervous system to break unhealthy thinking patterns, unburden emotional pain and trauma, build healthy self-esteem, and find deeper meaning in life.
(365) 801-0320 View (365) 801-0320
Photo of Benita Joy, MAMFT, RSSW, CCP, Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Benita Joy
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MAMFT, RSSW, CCP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Are you burnt out? Feeling stuck? Been through something difficult that feels hard to get over? I’ll help you heal from the past, get unstuck, and move forward into a flourishing future that you design. I’ll help you tap into your own intuitive wisdom and capacity to heal. We can sort through the overwhelming stuff, make sense of the confusing stuff, and learn how to process emotions. If we need to go deeper and work through some old hurts, we can do that too. You may be dealing with sensitive issues that you feel embarrassed or ashamed to talk about. We can go there, together. You'll find me relatable, honest, and easy to talk to.
Are you burnt out? Feeling stuck? Been through something difficult that feels hard to get over? I’ll help you heal from the past, get unstuck, and move forward into a flourishing future that you design. I’ll help you tap into your own intuitive wisdom and capacity to heal. We can sort through the overwhelming stuff, make sense of the confusing stuff, and learn how to process emotions. If we need to go deeper and work through some old hurts, we can do that too. You may be dealing with sensitive issues that you feel embarrassed or ashamed to talk about. We can go there, together. You'll find me relatable, honest, and easy to talk to.
(647) 799-5517 View (647) 799-5517
Photo of Sue Cook - Family TLC, MEd, Counsel, BAFN, CYC, RSW, Registered Social Worker
Family TLC
Registered Social Worker, MEd, Counsel, BAFN, CYC, RSW
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
Are life struggles causing you unhappiness? It can get better. We are a group of highly trained psychotherapists, social workers and mediators. Many with over 25 years of experience in the field. Hundreds of individuals, couples, families, children and adolescents have benefited from our services. At Family TLC we truly believe in you and that you are bigger than the concern. With our diversely experienced team we are confident that a potential client will find someone best suited to their concerns that will help them make positive changes in their life.
Are life struggles causing you unhappiness? It can get better. We are a group of highly trained psychotherapists, social workers and mediators. Many with over 25 years of experience in the field. Hundreds of individuals, couples, families, children and adolescents have benefited from our services. At Family TLC we truly believe in you and that you are bigger than the concern. With our diversely experienced team we are confident that a potential client will find someone best suited to their concerns that will help them make positive changes in their life.
(844) 332-2854 View (844) 332-2854
Photo of Naomi Hoffenberg, MSW, RSW, Registered Social Worker
Naomi Hoffenberg
Registered Social Worker, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
I am a registered social worker with over 15 years of work experience. I have helped people who experience issues such as: depression, anxiety, addiction, abuse, trauma, anger, LGBTQ-related issues, relationship issues, grief, and family conflict. My journey into social work began at age 14, when I lost my father to cancer. Because there were few supports available at the time, I felt alone and stuck. This prompted me to dedicate my life to assisting others during difficult times, and help them realize they are not alone.
I am a registered social worker with over 15 years of work experience. I have helped people who experience issues such as: depression, anxiety, addiction, abuse, trauma, anger, LGBTQ-related issues, relationship issues, grief, and family conflict. My journey into social work began at age 14, when I lost my father to cancer. Because there were few supports available at the time, I felt alone and stuck. This prompted me to dedicate my life to assisting others during difficult times, and help them realize they are not alone.
(844) 331-0434 View (844) 331-0434
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Amazing Space Therapy and Wellness Centre
Counsellor, MDiv, CSAT, CMAT, c
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3X
At Amazing Space you will experience: A safe, empathetic, and accepting counseling relationship Professional and personalized interventions designed with your goals and vision in mind A Recovery path from compulsive patterns of addictive behavior, thinking and feeling Access to current assessments and tools to effectively support your growth choices Finally a place to speak about what has been unspeakable; to heal and build a life of joy, peace and success. Whether you are an addict still using or involved in compulsive behavior or the partner/family member of an addict we can help you regain your life. Experiencing stress, anxiety, grief or loss? Call Today.
At Amazing Space you will experience: A safe, empathetic, and accepting counseling relationship Professional and personalized interventions designed with your goals and vision in mind A Recovery path from compulsive patterns of addictive behavior, thinking and feeling Access to current assessments and tools to effectively support your growth choices Finally a place to speak about what has been unspeakable; to heal and build a life of joy, peace and success. Whether you are an addict still using or involved in compulsive behavior or the partner/family member of an addict we can help you regain your life. Experiencing stress, anxiety, grief or loss? Call Today.
(705) 795-0240 View (705) 795-0240
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Mishy Elmpak
Psychologist, CPsych
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3X
During these very difficult times, many people are left feeling increasingly alone and anxious. Does your worry and anxiousness limit your relationships, your work or your studies? You want to overcome your emotional distress, make positive changes in your life and feel good. You would like to lead a life which is more meaningful, happier and more successful, but somehow it does not work out. You feel you can't make the changes you want to see. Call me now to find together a roadmap to a better life and to overcome these barriers.
During these very difficult times, many people are left feeling increasingly alone and anxious. Does your worry and anxiousness limit your relationships, your work or your studies? You want to overcome your emotional distress, make positive changes in your life and feel good. You would like to lead a life which is more meaningful, happier and more successful, but somehow it does not work out. You feel you can't make the changes you want to see. Call me now to find together a roadmap to a better life and to overcome these barriers.
(855) 979-9438 View (855) 979-9438
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Robin Forsyth (Formerly Pucci)
Registered Psychotherapist, MA, RP
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
I am a Registered Psychotherapist who has worked with individuals in different capacities since 2011. Using my calm and gentle nature, I have built a practice based on professionalism, trust, openness and authenticity, where clients can feel safe and accepted without judgement. My approach to psychotherapy is tailored to the needs of my clients. I am dedicated to helping those in need of mental health care, and I always enjoy meeting new people. I have earned an honours Bachelor's degree in Psychology from Laurentian University, as well as a Master's degree in Counselling Psychology with Yorkville University.
I am a Registered Psychotherapist who has worked with individuals in different capacities since 2011. Using my calm and gentle nature, I have built a practice based on professionalism, trust, openness and authenticity, where clients can feel safe and accepted without judgement. My approach to psychotherapy is tailored to the needs of my clients. I am dedicated to helping those in need of mental health care, and I always enjoy meeting new people. I have earned an honours Bachelor's degree in Psychology from Laurentian University, as well as a Master's degree in Counselling Psychology with Yorkville University.
(249) 209-7377 View (249) 209-7377
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Jeanny Salmon
Registered Social Worker, BSW, RSW, RFMT
Verified Verified
Newmarket, ON L3Y
"Courage doesn't happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life." I know it is a hard to make the first phone call, but when you do be proud of yourself, you have started on your healing journey. You are the "expert" of your story! I am qualified to work with depression, anxiety, PTSD and Certified Family and Marriage Therapist and provide Psychotherapy services. I am a Registered Clinical Social Worker and have qualifications to also serve Indigenous People. Therapy and people and building healthy relationships is my passion!
"Courage doesn't happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life." I know it is a hard to make the first phone call, but when you do be proud of yourself, you have started on your healing journey. You are the "expert" of your story! I am qualified to work with depression, anxiety, PTSD and Certified Family and Marriage Therapist and provide Psychotherapy services. I am a Registered Clinical Social Worker and have qualifications to also serve Indigenous People. Therapy and people and building healthy relationships is my passion!
(289) 799-4025 View (289) 799-4025
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Sexual Addiction Counsellors

When should someone seek treatment for sex addiction?

People should seek treatment for sex addiction if they cannot control their sexual thoughts or behaviours to the point that it disrupts their ability to function in daily life, for example by threatening their finances, career, or relationships. This may include spending an excessive amount of time obsessing over sex, planning sex, watching pornography, or masturbating, as well as consistently engaging in risky sexual activities, using sex to escape distressing feelings, or attempting yet failing to control sexual behaviour.

What are the most common treatment options for sex addiction?

Psychotherapy is the most common treatment for sex addiction; therapy helps patients better understand their compulsive thoughts and behaviours and develop strategies to manage their desires. Therapy may be supplemented by medications, such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-androgens, alcohol and substance use medications, as well as support groups, such as 12-step programs.

How long does therapy take for sex addiction?

Recovering from compulsive behaviour takes time and effort. There’s no precise timeline for treatment, but research suggests 12 therapy sessions may be enough to see change. Treatment for sexual compulsions requires honesty in therapy, a commitment to understanding triggers and developing coping skills, and potential lifestyle changes such as cutting out alcohol or drugs.

What if sex addiction is left untreated?

Compulsive sexual behaviour can have serious repercussions if left unaddressed. For example, if sexual obsessions consume the vast majority of a person’s time, they may lose their job. If they can’t stop paying for sex, their finances may suffer. If they’re dishonest in their relationships, their partner may leave them. If they consistently feel shame, they may struggle with anxiety, depression, or loneliness. Therapy can help people develop the tools to manage sexual thoughts and behaviours that feel uncontrollable.