Relationship Issues Therapists in Fairview, Vancouver, BC

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Bonnie Kelly Gallagher
Counsellor, MSW, RCSW, RCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
I believe that trust, support and connection are key to building a positive therapeutic relationship.
I have 30 years of experience assisting clients in my clinical practice to resolve issues in their relationships and in day to day living . Those problems often focus on addiction, stress, trauma, and anxiety. I assist clients to achieve more positive communication skills and productive happier relationships. . I believe that I work well with clients who are seeking to address the difficult issues we all face in this ever-changing and challenging world, and to explore new ways of viewing life's journey with all it's struggles. I approach counselling support in a solution focused manner in order to set and achieve specific goals.
I believe that trust, support and connection are key to building a positive therapeutic relationship.
I have 30 years of experience assisting clients in my clinical practice to resolve issues in their relationships and in day to day living . Those problems often focus on addiction, stress, trauma, and anxiety. I assist clients to achieve more positive communication skills and productive happier relationships. . I believe that I work well with clients who are seeking to address the difficult issues we all face in this ever-changing and challenging world, and to explore new ways of viewing life's journey with all it's struggles. I approach counselling support in a solution focused manner in order to set and achieve specific goals.
(778) 761-3484 View (778) 761-3484
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Allison Rice Therapy & Associates
Counsellor, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
Allison offers counseling to individuals, families and couples while providing a safe space for therapeutic conversations to take place. She has extensive experience assisting people to move into solutions with the following presenting struggles: ​The effects of substance misuse; The impacts of problem gambling; Depression; Anxiety; Stress Management; Disordered Eating; Grief and Loss; Trauma; Anger; Relationship dilemmas; Couples work; ​Family work.
Allison offers counseling to individuals, families and couples while providing a safe space for therapeutic conversations to take place. She has extensive experience assisting people to move into solutions with the following presenting struggles: ​The effects of substance misuse; The impacts of problem gambling; Depression; Anxiety; Stress Management; Disordered Eating; Grief and Loss; Trauma; Anger; Relationship dilemmas; Couples work; ​Family work.
(778) 766-5467 View (778) 766-5467
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Patrick McGill
Counsellor, MTC, RTC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6H
My vision is to support Individuals, Couples and families to discover their fullest potential, to believe in their abilities, to strengthen that self-trust and confidence in their lives. With that, they will be able to - Respond and remember the truth and trust in themselves when those struggles of life show up - express it in a healthy way, not holding on to it and have it negatively affect their relationship with themselves and others around them. Learn and have the tools to cope and express. In counselling, we start to heal the beliefs that keep each and every one of us separate, and we walk towards intimacy and connection.
My vision is to support Individuals, Couples and families to discover their fullest potential, to believe in their abilities, to strengthen that self-trust and confidence in their lives. With that, they will be able to - Respond and remember the truth and trust in themselves when those struggles of life show up - express it in a healthy way, not holding on to it and have it negatively affect their relationship with themselves and others around them. Learn and have the tools to cope and express. In counselling, we start to heal the beliefs that keep each and every one of us separate, and we walk towards intimacy and connection.
(249) 546-0596 View (249) 546-0596
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Sophie Brunet
Art Therapist, BFA, DVATI, RCAT
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z
As a registered therapist and relationship and intimacy coach, I draw from deep, yet eclectic training to tailor my support for you and your journey.
Are you facing relationship issues or feeling uncomfortable about sexuality? I'll hold a safe space to help you explore issues, heal from past hurts, move out of old patterns, and develop healthy, happy relationships. We will work together to help you toward the life you want.
As a registered therapist and relationship and intimacy coach, I draw from deep, yet eclectic training to tailor my support for you and your journey.
Are you facing relationship issues or feeling uncomfortable about sexuality? I'll hold a safe space to help you explore issues, heal from past hurts, move out of old patterns, and develop healthy, happy relationships. We will work together to help you toward the life you want.
(249) 504-1839 View (249) 504-1839
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Conscious Living Wellness, Dr. Kyla Yaskowich
Psychologist, PhD, RPsych
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z
Whatever has been holding you back – anxiety, depression, stress, procrastination, lack of confidence or clarity, physical health problems, or unhealthy relationship patterns – I can help.
As a Registered Psychologist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology and over 20 years of experience, the resilience of the human spirit continues to inspire me. We have the innate drive to not only survive life’s challenges, but to transform, grow and thrive as a result of them. My Wholistic Approach integrates Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnotherapy, and Mindfulness combined with powerful non-traditional healing modalities and concepts from quantum physics, spiritual psychology, and neuroscience. I offer a variety of paths to wellness and would be honoured to help you navigate the sometimes challenging adventure of life.
Whatever has been holding you back – anxiety, depression, stress, procrastination, lack of confidence or clarity, physical health problems, or unhealthy relationship patterns – I can help.
As a Registered Psychologist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology and over 20 years of experience, the resilience of the human spirit continues to inspire me. We have the innate drive to not only survive life’s challenges, but to transform, grow and thrive as a result of them. My Wholistic Approach integrates Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnotherapy, and Mindfulness combined with powerful non-traditional healing modalities and concepts from quantum physics, spiritual psychology, and neuroscience. I offer a variety of paths to wellness and would be honoured to help you navigate the sometimes challenging adventure of life.
(604) 542-7130 View (604) 542-7130
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Iona Monk
Counsellor, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
Welcome! For over 20 years now, I've worked with people struggling with low self esteem, depression, anxiety and life crises using ISTDP, a dynamic therapy model that creates quick and lasting change. For couples who are struggling with a lack of intimacy and communication difficulties, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is a research based model proven to help couples see their negative patterns and habits, and help them make better choices so that their relationship can improve and deepen. I give couples the tools they need to feel closer right away. I offer a free 20 min consult to see if we are a good fit. Change your life!
Welcome! For over 20 years now, I've worked with people struggling with low self esteem, depression, anxiety and life crises using ISTDP, a dynamic therapy model that creates quick and lasting change. For couples who are struggling with a lack of intimacy and communication difficulties, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is a research based model proven to help couples see their negative patterns and habits, and help them make better choices so that their relationship can improve and deepen. I give couples the tools they need to feel closer right away. I offer a free 20 min consult to see if we are a good fit. Change your life!
(604) 800-2754 View (604) 800-2754
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Nina Jankovic
Counsellor, MA, RCC, CCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z  (Online Only)
I offer psychodynamic group therapy. In my groups, I often see people who have histories of growing up in invalidating or otherwise harmful environments in which they were not heard, and rarely attuned to. They may be struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, attachment injuries, heightened shame, existential questions, and have a desire to develop a better relationship with themselves along with others - they have largely moved beyond immediate trauma responses and are looking to explore more deeply.
I offer psychodynamic group therapy. In my groups, I often see people who have histories of growing up in invalidating or otherwise harmful environments in which they were not heard, and rarely attuned to. They may be struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, attachment injuries, heightened shame, existential questions, and have a desire to develop a better relationship with themselves along with others - they have largely moved beyond immediate trauma responses and are looking to explore more deeply.
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Gordon Reid
Psychologist, PhD, MA, RPsych
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6H
For 30+ years I have been helping people struggling with relationships, as well as depression, anxiety, and meaning of life issues. My primary interest has always been in understanding what it is in the work we do together that actually makes a difference in helping the people I am working with, coupled with a clear recognition of the fundamental importance of the quality of our relationship together. Ultimately, I am not just trying to help people feel better, but to actually become better, recognizable both by them, and the people who matter in their lives. In the final analysis, you already have the answers. I help you find those
For 30+ years I have been helping people struggling with relationships, as well as depression, anxiety, and meaning of life issues. My primary interest has always been in understanding what it is in the work we do together that actually makes a difference in helping the people I am working with, coupled with a clear recognition of the fundamental importance of the quality of our relationship together. Ultimately, I am not just trying to help people feel better, but to actually become better, recognizable both by them, and the people who matter in their lives. In the final analysis, you already have the answers. I help you find those
(855) 982-1164 View (855) 982-1164
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Ian Bond
Counsellor, MA, BA, RCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z
He has appeared on CBC television to discuss relationship issues, and CKNW radio to talk about depression and professional burnout.
Ian provides compassionate, professional, and effective counselling, therapy, and hypnotherapy to individuals and couples. He has an excellent rate of success in helping clients to heal their pain, resolve their problems and achieve their goals. He helps clients to explore relationships, thoughts, feelings, or behaviours, which trouble them and cause difficulty. Through the therapeutic process, clients can achieve personal insight and awareness, better ways of understanding and coping with problems, increased feelings of well-being, and improved relationships and life satisfaction. Ian offers a complimentary 30 minute consultation.
He has appeared on CBC television to discuss relationship issues, and CKNW radio to talk about depression and professional burnout.
Ian provides compassionate, professional, and effective counselling, therapy, and hypnotherapy to individuals and couples. He has an excellent rate of success in helping clients to heal their pain, resolve their problems and achieve their goals. He helps clients to explore relationships, thoughts, feelings, or behaviours, which trouble them and cause difficulty. Through the therapeutic process, clients can achieve personal insight and awareness, better ways of understanding and coping with problems, increased feelings of well-being, and improved relationships and life satisfaction. Ian offers a complimentary 30 minute consultation.
(855) 976-4939 View (855) 976-4939
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Milos Despotovic
Counsellor, MCP, RCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6H
Your sex or relationship issues leave your life feeling like it is in turmoil even outside of the bedroom. You’ve tried to manage things on your own, but it’s a struggle, and you’re tired of struggling. Friends and family don’t understand, but it’s not like this is something you can talk to them about anyway. And even if there is that one friend that you can talk to, they don’t really know what to say.
Your sex or relationship issues leave your life feeling like it is in turmoil even outside of the bedroom. You’ve tried to manage things on your own, but it’s a struggle, and you’re tired of struggling. Friends and family don’t understand, but it’s not like this is something you can talk to them about anyway. And even if there is that one friend that you can talk to, they don’t really know what to say.
(604) 670-7136 View (604) 670-7136
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Matt Turner
Counsellor, RTC
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
Waitlist for new clients
It's important you feel you can work with me, and build a solid, therapeutic, and rewarding relationship together.
I understand your pain and suffering arising from your relationship conflict, and I acknowledge how devastating and upsetting your relationship difficulties are. I also know, and have unwavering faith, that your relationship can once again feel satisfying, fulfilling, and loving. I can help you restore safety, security, and human connection for you and your loved ones, and I understand how you want to feel hope, feel love, be listened to, and understood. Most of all, I know you want your relationship to feel great again! I am committed to you, your cause, your desires, and your needs, and I'll work hard to help you achieve them.
It's important you feel you can work with me, and build a solid, therapeutic, and rewarding relationship together.
I understand your pain and suffering arising from your relationship conflict, and I acknowledge how devastating and upsetting your relationship difficulties are. I also know, and have unwavering faith, that your relationship can once again feel satisfying, fulfilling, and loving. I can help you restore safety, security, and human connection for you and your loved ones, and I understand how you want to feel hope, feel love, be listened to, and understood. Most of all, I know you want your relationship to feel great again! I am committed to you, your cause, your desires, and your needs, and I'll work hard to help you achieve them.
(778) 767-5932 View (778) 767-5932
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Erin Davidson, Sex & Relationship Therapist
Counsellor, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J  (Online Only)
I am judgement-free, compassionate, and fully supportive of people of all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship styles including polyamory, non-monogamy.
We are all deserving and capable of enjoying fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships. Connection is the key to a life lived full. Connection to yourself first and foremost— awareness of your emotions, body sensations, values, and needs. Believing fully in your inherent worth, flaws and all. Connecting to others through a practice of empathy, vulnerability, and reliability is how we create strong relationships to our loved ones and the world around us.
I am judgement-free, compassionate, and fully supportive of people of all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship styles including polyamory, non-monogamy.
We are all deserving and capable of enjoying fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships. Connection is the key to a life lived full. Connection to yourself first and foremost— awareness of your emotions, body sensations, values, and needs. Believing fully in your inherent worth, flaws and all. Connecting to others through a practice of empathy, vulnerability, and reliability is how we create strong relationships to our loved ones and the world around us.
(581) 222-4914 View (581) 222-4914
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Lee Kotsalis Thulin
Counsellor, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
Some of the most common concerns I see in my practice include: Anxiety, Depression and other Mood Disorders, Substance Abuse, Disordered Eating, and Relationship Disconnect.
One of my clients described the process of therapy "like finally turning the lights on in a room that had been dark." It takes courage to seek counselling. It means committing to letting ourselves see, feel, and start to heal what we are no longer willing to keep dark. The joy in my work comes from helping people 'turn the lights on,' and witnessing what happens when they do.
Some of the most common concerns I see in my practice include: Anxiety, Depression and other Mood Disorders, Substance Abuse, Disordered Eating, and Relationship Disconnect.
One of my clients described the process of therapy "like finally turning the lights on in a room that had been dark." It takes courage to seek counselling. It means committing to letting ourselves see, feel, and start to heal what we are no longer willing to keep dark. The joy in my work comes from helping people 'turn the lights on,' and witnessing what happens when they do.
(604) 265-7820 View (604) 265-7820
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Steven Hobkirk
Counsellor, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z
In the context of a supportive therapeutic relationship, we will draw upon and expand your existing strengths, uncover aspects of yourself you may not have previously recognized, and develop new tools and strategies that will help get you to where you want to be.
Life is complex and ever-changing. Whether you're feeling stuck, struggling in relationships, having difficulty identifying your feelings and values, or struggling to process the effects of a trauma, I am dedicated to providing a safe, empathic, and trusting environment that fosters acceptance, understanding, healing, and growth. At the core of my work is the belief that every person has the capacity to change, and I am committed to working collaboratively with you to reach your goals.
In the context of a supportive therapeutic relationship, we will draw upon and expand your existing strengths, uncover aspects of yourself you may not have previously recognized, and develop new tools and strategies that will help get you to where you want to be.
Life is complex and ever-changing. Whether you're feeling stuck, struggling in relationships, having difficulty identifying your feelings and values, or struggling to process the effects of a trauma, I am dedicated to providing a safe, empathic, and trusting environment that fosters acceptance, understanding, healing, and growth. At the core of my work is the belief that every person has the capacity to change, and I am committed to working collaboratively with you to reach your goals.
(587) 207-4933 View (587) 207-4933
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Nick Graziadei
Counsellor, MCP, RCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V5Z
We begin establishing a therapeutic relationship which the research has identified as a key factor in growth and change.
My work focuses on those who find themselves lost along their journey. Life can become stressful very quickly. You may feel like you've lost control, that you are stuck in repeating undesired patterns or you just haven't felt like yourself recently. These ups and downs make us human. It's in those down moments that things can begin feeling really dark. You may not be able to see the path forward, bringing up various emotions. Path Forward Counselling was created to help in these moments of distress. A masters level counsellor at Path Forward Counselling can see a path and help guide you along, even when it is hidden from you.
We begin establishing a therapeutic relationship which the research has identified as a key factor in growth and change.
My work focuses on those who find themselves lost along their journey. Life can become stressful very quickly. You may feel like you've lost control, that you are stuck in repeating undesired patterns or you just haven't felt like yourself recently. These ups and downs make us human. It's in those down moments that things can begin feeling really dark. You may not be able to see the path forward, bringing up various emotions. Path Forward Counselling was created to help in these moments of distress. A masters level counsellor at Path Forward Counselling can see a path and help guide you along, even when it is hidden from you.
(604) 239-9838 View (604) 239-9838
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Courtney Orser
Counsellor, MCP, RCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
I believe the most important part of my role is to create an environment and relationship that is safe, and therefore, I work from an overarching anti-oppressive, trauma-informed and feminist lens.
There are times when we just don’t feel like ourselves. For some of us, this means feeling overwhelmed by our thoughts and emotions, while for others the disconnect can come from feeling nothing at all. This internal “ickiness” can show up through our emotions, thoughts, or in our body, and is often a scary, confusing, and unsettling experience. This intuitive feeling is typically caused by misalignment; whether it’s having conflict within ourselves, feeling out of step with those close to us, or feeling out of place in the world around us.
I believe the most important part of my role is to create an environment and relationship that is safe, and therefore, I work from an overarching anti-oppressive, trauma-informed and feminist lens.
There are times when we just don’t feel like ourselves. For some of us, this means feeling overwhelmed by our thoughts and emotions, while for others the disconnect can come from feeling nothing at all. This internal “ickiness” can show up through our emotions, thoughts, or in our body, and is often a scary, confusing, and unsettling experience. This intuitive feeling is typically caused by misalignment; whether it’s having conflict within ourselves, feeling out of step with those close to us, or feeling out of place in the world around us.
(825) 606-0433 View (825) 606-0433
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Kelsey Jarvis Counselling and Associates
Counsellor, BA, MA, RCC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6H
Life has its challenges, and our team understands that reaching out for help is not easy. Whatever challenges you are facing, our counsellors are here to support you with nothing but acceptance and understanding. At Kelsey Jarvis Counselling and Associates, we specialize in helping individuals, couples and youth deal an array of human experiences, from anxiety, depression, relationship issues, trauma, self-esteem, and life changes, which can leave us feeling anxious, stressed, unfulfilled, unmotivated and insecure. We offer support through all of life's ups and downs, no matter how big or small - we're here for you.
Life has its challenges, and our team understands that reaching out for help is not easy. Whatever challenges you are facing, our counsellors are here to support you with nothing but acceptance and understanding. At Kelsey Jarvis Counselling and Associates, we specialize in helping individuals, couples and youth deal an array of human experiences, from anxiety, depression, relationship issues, trauma, self-esteem, and life changes, which can leave us feeling anxious, stressed, unfulfilled, unmotivated and insecure. We offer support through all of life's ups and downs, no matter how big or small - we're here for you.
(604) 670-3375 View (604) 670-3375
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Julie Guterres
Registered Social Worker, BSW, MSW, RSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
While I work with a variety of issues, I specialize in supporting individuals and couples with relationship issues, addictions & mood disorders.
Therapy can be a transformative journey, one that holds the potential to foster feelings of radical acceptance and self-compassion, cultivate a sense of inner peace, and provide healing and care to each and every part of you. Developing awareness of yourself and your relationships can often be the first step toward creating change. Together, we'll identify your strengths, explore patterns that may be holding you back and give space to those deeper parts of you that have longed to be seen and understood. We will also work through any events or self-talk that may be creating distress or keeping you stuck.
While I work with a variety of issues, I specialize in supporting individuals and couples with relationship issues, addictions & mood disorders.
Therapy can be a transformative journey, one that holds the potential to foster feelings of radical acceptance and self-compassion, cultivate a sense of inner peace, and provide healing and care to each and every part of you. Developing awareness of yourself and your relationships can often be the first step toward creating change. Together, we'll identify your strengths, explore patterns that may be holding you back and give space to those deeper parts of you that have longed to be seen and understood. We will also work through any events or self-talk that may be creating distress or keeping you stuck.
(672) 702-0101 View (672) 702-0101
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Carly Goodfellow
Counsellor, MA, RCC, ACS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J  (Online Only)
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Psychotherapist, with 17 years experience, for individuals and couples who want to heal from depression, social anxiety, trauma and abuse and relationship difficulties in a safe and non-judgmental environment. With a warm, nurturing and effective relational approach, I can help you recover your self-worth, heal early trauma wounds, find your centre of calm, build confidence in relationships and find joy and vitality that might be painfully missing in your life. I tailor my methods to your individual needs and goals to bring about the changes you are wanting to see.
I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Psychotherapist, with 17 years experience, for individuals and couples who want to heal from depression, social anxiety, trauma and abuse and relationship difficulties in a safe and non-judgmental environment. With a warm, nurturing and effective relational approach, I can help you recover your self-worth, heal early trauma wounds, find your centre of calm, build confidence in relationships and find joy and vitality that might be painfully missing in your life. I tailor my methods to your individual needs and goals to bring about the changes you are wanting to see.
(604) 200-0586 View (604) 200-0586
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Tima Musina
Counsellor, MA, BA, RCC
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Fairview, Vancouver, BC V6J
Trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and Relational Life Therapy (RLT), I offer individual and couples/ relationship therapy in-person and online.
As a relational therapist, I specialize in experientially working with self-discovery, relationship health, intimacy, and attachment. I find what is often missing in our lives are the deeply attuned connections where we feel seen, heard, and understood. Generally, I operate from an intersection of attachment, parts work, neuroscience, plant medicine, and somatic frameworks. In my practice I welcome all individuals, couples, and people in multi-partner/poly relationships across the whole sexuality spectrum.
Trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and Relational Life Therapy (RLT), I offer individual and couples/ relationship therapy in-person and online.
As a relational therapist, I specialize in experientially working with self-discovery, relationship health, intimacy, and attachment. I find what is often missing in our lives are the deeply attuned connections where we feel seen, heard, and understood. Generally, I operate from an intersection of attachment, parts work, neuroscience, plant medicine, and somatic frameworks. In my practice I welcome all individuals, couples, and people in multi-partner/poly relationships across the whole sexuality spectrum.
(587) 907-8059 View (587) 907-8059
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Relationship Issues Counsellors
While need for human connection appears to be innate, the ability to form healthy, loving relationships is learned. Some evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship starts to form in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, warmth, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Such relationships are not destiny, but they are theorized to establish deeply ingrained patterns of relating to others. The end of a relationship, however, is often a source of great psychological anguish.