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Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

About

Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT, brings a wide range of professional and life experience to her work as a relationship and codependency expert, having treated individuals and couples for 30 years and coaching internationally. Darlene wrote Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, and seven ebooks, including Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People. Over the course of three decades, she has helped men and women recover from codependency and trauma. They become effective communicators with more autonomy and experience greater well-being, professional success, and satisfaction in their relationships and personal lives.

She's trained other clinicians and speaks to national audiences in the media and at professional conferences. Her articles appear in professional journals and Internet mental health websites, including on her own, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of "14 Tips for Letting Go." Previously, Lancer practiced entertainment law.

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Education:
Certified Hypnotherapist, American School of Hypnotherapy
Certified Life Coach, American School of NLP
Masters in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University
Juris Doctor, UCLA School of Law
BA, UCLA, Cum Laude
Phi Beta Kappa
American Jurisprudence Award

Books by Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Recent Posts
How Parenting Can Foreshadow Abusive Relationships

A dysfunctional family can rob you of self-esteem and healthy communication and boundaries, which can then lead to problems in future relationships.

A dysfunctional family can rob you of self-esteem and healthy communication and boundaries, which can then lead to problems in future relationships.

How to Rebuild Trust in 7 Steps

Trust is the cornerstone of an intimate relationship. Once broken, it may be hard to rebuild. Ask for and follow these 7 steps to make your relationship stronger than ever.

Trust is the cornerstone of an intimate relationship. Once broken, it may be hard to rebuild. Ask for and follow these 7 steps to make your relationship stronger than ever.

The Concept of Narcissistic Supply

Narcissists crave their narcissistic supply to fill insatiable needs for recognition and admiration. Like addicts, for them, it's survival. Don't sacrifice yourself to feed them.

Narcissists crave their narcissistic supply to fill insatiable needs for recognition and admiration. Like addicts, for them, it's survival. Don't sacrifice yourself to feed them.

Dealing with Triangulation, Envy, and Jealousy

Envy, jealousy, and shame are primal emotions that are inextricably intertwined. They're evidence of individual and relationship problems of intimacy and autonomy that cause pain.

Envy, jealousy, and shame are primal emotions that are inextricably intertwined. They're evidence of individual and relationship problems of intimacy and autonomy that cause pain.

What to Do When You Get Triggered

Our triggers or "buttons" are our wounds revealed when we overract to peoples’ feelings, needs, problems, and statements. By taking back our projections we can live in the present.

Our triggers or "buttons" are our wounds revealed when we overract to peoples’ feelings, needs, problems, and statements. By taking back our projections we can live in the present.