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Emotions
The Guiding Light of Emotions

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on October 27, 2024

New research reveals that if we listen to our emotions and gain a clearer awareness of what we’re feeling, we may be more able to make choices in life and reach for what we want.

New research reveals that if we listen to our emotions and gain a clearer awareness of what we’re feeling, we may be more able to make choices in life and reach for what we want.

Motivation
Is Setting Goals Healthier than Enjoying Life?

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on September 27, 2024

Let yourself stop and think about what might resonate with you as your sense of purpose. What if you were to juxtapose that alongside how happy you are with your life?

Let yourself stop and think about what might resonate with you as your sense of purpose. What if you were to juxtapose that alongside how happy you are with your life?

Empathy
Connecting With Others: Getting It and Getting It Right

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on August 30, 2024

What sways whether someone will open up about their feelings instead of withholding what’s happening inside? Is there something we could do that might help open the door?

What sways whether someone will open up about their feelings instead of withholding what’s happening inside? Is there something we could do that might help open the door?

Fear
The Fear of Happiness

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on July 26, 2024

Picture what arises as you envision feeling happy. What can make contentment a daunting prospect?

Picture what arises as you envision feeling happy. What can make contentment a daunting prospect?

Motivation
Approaching Conflict With Your Romantic Partner

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on May 17, 2024

Do you think conflict with your partner would be dangerous to your bond and must be evaded, or as something that could lead to a deeper awareness and a more connected relationship?

Do you think conflict with your partner would be dangerous to your bond and must be evaded, or as something that could lead to a deeper awareness and a more connected relationship?

Anger
A Nuance in Regulating Your Emotional World

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on December 29, 2023

If we want to understand anger better and how we respond to it, we might want to reflect on the upsides and downsides we attach to our feelings.

If we want to understand anger better and how we respond to it, we might want to reflect on the upsides and downsides we attach to our feelings.

Emotions
Another Possible Gift of Age: Less Emotion Overflow

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on November 27, 2023

When you consider how happy you are with your life, do you rely on how you’re feeling in the moment? Your answer may have to do with how old you are.

When you consider how happy you are with your life, do you rely on how you’re feeling in the moment? Your answer may have to do with how old you are.

Parenting
How Many Parents Ever Regret Having Kids?

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on October 30, 2023

A team of researchers highlighted past research that showed regret over having children isn’t rare, as 5-14% of parents have this feeling.

A team of researchers highlighted past research that showed regret over having children isn’t rare, as 5-14% of parents have this feeling.

Race and Ethnicity
What Couples Are Comfortable Talking About

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on September 30, 2023

In your interactions with your partner, try noticing when you’re more or less able to effectively engage, and consider what you’re talking about. It might provide useful insights.

In your interactions with your partner, try noticing when you’re more or less able to effectively engage, and consider what you’re talking about. It might provide useful insights.

Therapy
The Connection Between Past and Future Therapy

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on August 19, 2023

You often take your impressions from the past and carry them into the future. This is true in all sorts of domains, including therapy, new research shows.

You often take your impressions from the past and carry them into the future. This is true in all sorts of domains, including therapy, new research shows.

Relationships
The Power of Beliefs in Romantic Relationships

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on June 27, 2023

According to research, if you’re really content in your relationship, you’re also likely to say that your partner does a lot of good deeds on behalf of your relationship. But why?

According to research, if you’re really content in your relationship, you’re also likely to say that your partner does a lot of good deeds on behalf of your relationship. But why?

Relationships
How to Talk About Mistakes in a Relationship

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on April 27, 2023

Not all misdeeds are inevitable, but it’s a certainty that, generally speaking, an offense of some type or another will happen because we’re all human and everyone makes mistakes.

Not all misdeeds are inevitable, but it’s a certainty that, generally speaking, an offense of some type or another will happen because we’re all human and everyone makes mistakes.

Stress
Using Temporal Distancing to Cope With Stress

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on March 26, 2023

If someone asked how you cope with stress, what would you say? Would you imagine how you would react in the future to a nerve-wracking situation you’re dealing with right now?

If someone asked how you cope with stress, what would you say? Would you imagine how you would react in the future to a nerve-wracking situation you’re dealing with right now?