The Other Side of Relationships

Forgiveness

"What Kind of Apology Is This?!"

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on April 10, 2023

Think there's only one way to apologize? Think again.

Think there's only one way to apologize? Think again.

Dreaming

Should Your Partner's Wish Be Your Command?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on March 6, 2023

Do you feel that your partner's wishes are implicit demands on you? If so, you're heading in the wrong direction in your relationship.

Do you feel that your partner's wishes are implicit demands on you? If so, you're heading in the wrong direction in your relationship.

Marriage

Marriage as a Playground

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on February 10, 2023

Imagine a metaphor that could invigorate, guide, and inspire you toward a better marriage.

Imagine a metaphor that could invigorate, guide, and inspire you toward a better marriage.

Boredom

Three Words to Invigorate Your Relationship

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on January 27, 2023

Are you somewhat bored in your relationship? Try these three words and see where they take you.

Are you somewhat bored in your relationship? Try these three words and see where they take you.

Relationships

Why Every Marriage Is Really 3 Relationships

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on January 13, 2023

Think you have only one relationship? You're wrong. You actually have three different relationships with your partner. Best you learn to master all three.

Think you have only one relationship? You're wrong. You actually have three different relationships with your partner. Best you learn to master all three.

Relationships

How to Blow Your Mind

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 31, 2022

How do you grow and evolve in a relationship? Here's the recipe.

How do you grow and evolve in a relationship? Here's the recipe.

Anxiety

“Give Me More"

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 2, 2022

Is your partner excited about your growth? Most of us are not relationally stretched, leaving us "comfortably numb" and bored. The solution is to bring "more" to your relationship.

Is your partner excited about your growth? Most of us are not relationally stretched, leaving us "comfortably numb" and bored. The solution is to bring "more" to your relationship.

Relationships

Three Words that Can Equalize Your Relationship

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on November 18, 2022

Most relationships have an implicit power dynamic, which can hurt the dyad. Three simple words will help equalize and vitalize your relationship.

Most relationships have an implicit power dynamic, which can hurt the dyad. Three simple words will help equalize and vitalize your relationship.

Boredom

The 3 Threats That Can Push a Relationship Into a Crisis

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on November 11, 2022

Here are the three main reasons duos will find themselves in couples therapy. Learn how to use them to actually improve your relationship.

Here are the three main reasons duos will find themselves in couples therapy. Learn how to use them to actually improve your relationship.

Empathy

An Honest Letter from the Couples Therapist You're Not Seeing

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on October 21, 2022

Couples therapy is a power change process that will change your life. By opting out of the process, you're risking some serious consequences.

Couples therapy is a power change process that will change your life. By opting out of the process, you're risking some serious consequences.

Relationships

Why a Lot of Marriages Could Use a Third

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on September 30, 2022

Having a Third in your marriage brings to life a part of you that revitalizes your world. The more parts you express and experience, the richer and more fulfilling your life.

Having a Third in your marriage brings to life a part of you that revitalizes your world. The more parts you express and experience, the richer and more fulfilling your life.

Play

“It’s Not That Important to Me”

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on September 11, 2022

Sometimes the best way to get out of a lose-lose situation is to speak your feelings. One sentence, delivered properly, will open new possibilities.

Sometimes the best way to get out of a lose-lose situation is to speak your feelings. One sentence, delivered properly, will open new possibilities.

Fear

Don't Miss the Point of Disappointment

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on August 10, 2022

Frustrations are normal and inescapable in every relationship. Instead of sidestepping them, reclaim disappointment as a valid, generative emotion in your relationship.

Frustrations are normal and inescapable in every relationship. Instead of sidestepping them, reclaim disappointment as a valid, generative emotion in your relationship.

Pessimism

Cynicism and Sarcasm—The Joke's Always on You

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on June 17, 2022

Cynicism and sarcasm are protective coverings that can seem funny and harmless. They actually hurt your relationships—and you.

Cynicism and sarcasm are protective coverings that can seem funny and harmless. They actually hurt your relationships—and you.

Relationships

Are You Really More Emotionally Intelligent Than Your Partner?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on May 6, 2022

Do you feel that you're more mature and emotionally intelligent than your partner? If so you're not alone, but this dichotomous division can poison your relationships.

Do you feel that you're more mature and emotionally intelligent than your partner? If so you're not alone, but this dichotomous division can poison your relationships.

Happiness

Joy Is a Verb, Not a Noun

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on March 21, 2022

International Day of Happiness offers an opportunity to redefine joy.

International Day of Happiness offers an opportunity to redefine joy.

Depression

Why So Many Men Struggle with Their Emotions

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on March 11, 2022

Why is it so hard for men to feel?

Why is it so hard for men to feel?

Relationships

There Is No Such Thing as Self-Care in Relationships

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on February 4, 2022

In committed relationships, it's impossible to engage in self-care without a partner's support. Adopting a systemic view will help both partners sustain themselves.

In committed relationships, it's impossible to engage in self-care without a partner's support. Adopting a systemic view will help both partners sustain themselves.

Parenting

Are You the Upstairs or the Downstairs Parent?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 26, 2021

How good are you and your partner at co-parenting? Some parents find themselves on different "floors," which has negative consequences for children. These nine steps might help.

How good are you and your partner at co-parenting? Some parents find themselves on different "floors," which has negative consequences for children. These nine steps might help.

Relationships

What’s Your Emotional Range?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 10, 2021

Many of us are emotional 4 to 6'ers: keeping it safe and functional but also somewhat numb. If you dare to expand your emotional range and feel more, life will become more thrilling.

Many of us are emotional 4 to 6'ers: keeping it safe and functional but also somewhat numb. If you dare to expand your emotional range and feel more, life will become more thrilling.