Friends Aren't Enough

Ok, I really know nothing about why Courtney Cox and David Arquette are calling it quits, but that doesn't stop me from having an opinion. The couple released a statement saying, "We have agreed to a trial separation that dates back for some time.The reason for this separation is to better understand ourselves and the qualities we need in a partner and for our marriage."

Hey guys, you don't separate to understand yourselves better in terms of what you need out of partnership. You separate to be separate. If you really want to learn about yourself, try making your relationship work over the long haul. It's a fast road to gaining self awareness, learning about the challenges of compromise, acceptance, finding ways to balance personal versus relationship needs. Plus, Court and Dave, you guys have a kid. You've got more to consider than just yourselves and your needs for partnership. What about parenting?

Do I sound harsh? Sorry. It's just that I'm a bit cynical about the idea of separation as a means to building relationships. I say stick it out, don't get out. Get help. Find a professional who helps you discover solutions to the very real challenges inherent in all relationship rather than subscribe to that all familiar, "follow your bliss" philosophy. That's when you'll "better understand yourselves and what you need from your partner in marriage." Try it, you'll like it.

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