Strive to Thrive

Confidence

How to Develop Confidence and Commitment Toward Your Goals

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 24, 2017

What's the difference between dreamers and doers?

What's the difference between dreamers and doers?

Career

Five Reasons Why Americans Don’t Often Leave America

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on October 16, 2015

Ever travel abroad and wonder why there aren't more Americans in your tour group? Five reasons why I think Americans tend to stay home in America.

Ever travel abroad and wonder why there aren't more Americans in your tour group? Five reasons why I think Americans tend to stay home in America.

Motivation

5 Ways to Leap Courageously Toward Your Goals

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on June 9, 2015

Courage is a widely misunderstood concept. It is more than facing fears and confronting physical danger; it is a subjective and personal experience. Courage can be enhanced to make dramatic leaps toward desired goals.

Courage is a widely misunderstood concept. It is more than facing fears and confronting physical danger; it is a subjective and personal experience. Courage can be enhanced to make dramatic leaps toward desired goals.

Friends

5 Ways Friends and Family Can Help People Who Are Different

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 25, 2014

Support from close relationships is very important to healthy coping. Some types of support you may seek from those you associate with are acceptance, permanence, closeness, validation, and love. Gaining these and other kinds of support will go a long way in helping you to cope with the challenges you face.

Support from close relationships is very important to healthy coping. Some types of support you may seek from those you associate with are acceptance, permanence, closeness, validation, and love. Gaining these and other kinds of support will go a long way in helping you to cope with the challenges you face.

Being different provides great opportunities for growth. Those we interviewed illustrate this principle in various ways.

Relationships

Being Different Made Me Who I Am

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 14, 2014

Being different provides many important self-insights including not judging others, not feeling the need to please others, seeing yourself through God’s eyes, having the need to be different satisfied, knowing that you are not alone, feeling that differences add variety and enriched perspective, and acknowledging the most important things in life.

Being different provides many important self-insights including not judging others, not feeling the need to please others, seeing yourself through God’s eyes, having the need to be different satisfied, knowing that you are not alone, feeling that differences add variety and enriched perspective, and acknowledging the most important things in life.

Attention

I Am the Master of My Fate

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 11, 2014

Focus on taking action to change what you can actually change and try not to worry about the things that you can’t change. Take action to help yourself feel better and choose not to be offended in regards to the stupid comments of others. Finally, make your difference work to your advantage.

Focus on taking action to change what you can actually change and try not to worry about the things that you can’t change. Take action to help yourself feel better and choose not to be offended in regards to the stupid comments of others. Finally, make your difference work to your advantage.

Attention

The Overlooked Perks of Standing Out

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 7, 2014

Sometimes being different can draw negative attention in the form of people staring or picking on you. However, in many cases, the attention can be very positive. Some of the people we interviewed suggested that standing out gave them more positive attention, a chance to be a positive example, and more opportunities in general.

Sometimes being different can draw negative attention in the form of people staring or picking on you. However, in many cases, the attention can be very positive. Some of the people we interviewed suggested that standing out gave them more positive attention, a chance to be a positive example, and more opportunities in general.

Attention

3 Things that Suck About Looking Different From Everyone

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on August 4, 2014

Standing out definitely has its challenges. It is not only annoying but it can be emotionally painful to have people stare at you all the time. If you are the type that doesn’t enjoy attention, it can be tiring to have so much of it. Many people get frustrated with the sense that they don’t look normal when they long to simply blend in with the crowd.

Standing out definitely has its challenges. It is not only annoying but it can be emotionally painful to have people stare at you all the time. If you are the type that doesn’t enjoy attention, it can be tiring to have so much of it. Many people get frustrated with the sense that they don’t look normal when they long to simply blend in with the crowd.

Punishment

I'll Show Them: The Motivational Charge from Being Different

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 28, 2014

Unfortunately many people allow the challenges of being different to cloud their feelings of self-worth instead of using their difference as a motivator to prove their worth in other ways, not only to others but to themselves as well. Don’t allow this to happen to you. Instead, let your difference fill you with motivation to achieve in all areas of your life.

Unfortunately many people allow the challenges of being different to cloud their feelings of self-worth instead of using their difference as a motivator to prove their worth in other ways, not only to others but to themselves as well. Don’t allow this to happen to you. Instead, let your difference fill you with motivation to achieve in all areas of your life.

An inherent flaw in stereotypes is that they can be assumptions that are completely inaccurate. If it is a negative stereotype, it can be psychologically damaging, and if a positive stereotype is incorrect, people can feel like they are disappointing others or themselves. People don’t want to be known just for their difference.

Empathy

Can Being Picked On Benefit You?

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 21, 2014

One of the most important benefits of being different is the gift of empathy. The empathy that you have gained from your experiences will give you compassion and understanding, will help you better know how to serve others, and provides a unique way to connect with others who share similar difficulties.

One of the most important benefits of being different is the gift of empathy. The empathy that you have gained from your experiences will give you compassion and understanding, will help you better know how to serve others, and provides a unique way to connect with others who share similar difficulties.

Self-Esteem

Being Different Makes You a Target for Teasing

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 17, 2014

Almost everyone we interviewed had endured teasing about their physical difference to one degree or another. The people whose interviews we shared in this chapter described how the teasing was demeaning and hurtful to their self-esteem. Oftentimes people don’t know that they are being hurtful, and you should let them know.

Almost everyone we interviewed had endured teasing about their physical difference to one degree or another. The people whose interviews we shared in this chapter described how the teasing was demeaning and hurtful to their self-esteem. Oftentimes people don’t know that they are being hurtful, and you should let them know.

Gratitude

Being Grateful for Differences as a Path to Self-Acceptance

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 14, 2014

Being grateful for your difference can allow you to reach a new level of self-acceptance. With this heightened feeling of surety, you can positively reframe many things in life. By being accepting of who you are and allowing yourself to feel grateful for your difference, you put yourself in the best possible light for everyone else to see.

Being grateful for your difference can allow you to reach a new level of self-acceptance. With this heightened feeling of surety, you can positively reframe many things in life. By being accepting of who you are and allowing yourself to feel grateful for your difference, you put yourself in the best possible light for everyone else to see.

Self-Esteem

5 Reasons Why Being Different Can Affect Your Self-Esteem

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 10, 2014

When you stand out from others, it can sometimes be natural to become self-conscious about your body. This can often result in multiple negative outcomes for you and your self-image. It’s important to realize that we are not being watched constantly and that we are each inherently beautiful in some way.

When you stand out from others, it can sometimes be natural to become self-conscious about your body. This can often result in multiple negative outcomes for you and your self-image. It’s important to realize that we are not being watched constantly and that we are each inherently beautiful in some way.

Laughter

Staying Positive Through Laughter

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on July 8, 2014

Rather than getting offended by the silly remarks of others, try to join in on the fun by finding humor in your situation. By teasing yourself you can turn your difference into an asset and you can make others feel comfortable around you. Have fun with yourself and do not be easily offended—it will make a positive difference in your life.

Rather than getting offended by the silly remarks of others, try to join in on the fun by finding humor in your situation. By teasing yourself you can turn your difference into an asset and you can make others feel comfortable around you. Have fun with yourself and do not be easily offended—it will make a positive difference in your life.

Play

4 Reasons Being Different Can Leave You Left in the Dust

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on June 30, 2014

From those we interviewed, we learned that there were several reasons why being different made them feel left out. Some people talked about feeling left out due specifically to a physical characteristic. Others described being left out of activities because their difference kept them from connecting socially with their peers. Outright discrimination was another cause.

From those we interviewed, we learned that there were several reasons why being different made them feel left out. Some people talked about feeling left out due specifically to a physical characteristic. Others described being left out of activities because their difference kept them from connecting socially with their peers. Outright discrimination was another cause.

Motivation

The Power of a Good Role Model

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on June 26, 2014

There are a few reasons why having a role model might be helpful, including dispelling your limiting beliefs, giving you an idea of your possible future self, showing you how to cope with similar challenges, and giving you inspiration and motivation to continue persisting.

There are a few reasons why having a role model might be helpful, including dispelling your limiting beliefs, giving you an idea of your possible future self, showing you how to cope with similar challenges, and giving you inspiration and motivation to continue persisting.

Diet

Three Weight Loss Myths to Avoid at All Cost

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on June 24, 2014

Exciting news! My book Four Truths About Weight Loss That Nobody Tells You is available for purchase in Kindle or hardcopy. Also, I have been invited to share my weight loss ideas with hundreds of thousands of listeners on the Happiness and Success Formula Telesummit. In today's post I describe 3 weight loss myths that are sure to destroy your success.

Exciting news! My book Four Truths About Weight Loss That Nobody Tells You is available for purchase in Kindle or hardcopy. Also, I have been invited to share my weight loss ideas with hundreds of thousands of listeners on the Happiness and Success Formula Telesummit. In today's post I describe 3 weight loss myths that are sure to destroy your success.

Relationships

3 Reasons Why You Can’t Put Off Memorable Family Trips

Nathaniel Lambert Ph.D. on June 19, 2014

Many people dream of traveling the world and very few people actually do. Why? They tell themselves that they can’t afford it. In fact, the problem just gets worse when you get married and have children. Having traveled to 48 states, over 20 countries and five continents on a graduate student salary of $14,000 a year, I know it can be done! I will show you how!

Many people dream of traveling the world and very few people actually do. Why? They tell themselves that they can’t afford it. In fact, the problem just gets worse when you get married and have children. Having traveled to 48 states, over 20 countries and five continents on a graduate student salary of $14,000 a year, I know it can be done! I will show you how!