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When You Don’t Apologize, You Only Make Things Worse

Molly Howes Ph.D. on January 15, 2021

When you hurt someone, it's on you to deliver a good apology. If you don't, you hurt the person a second time and make things even worse.

When you hurt someone, it's on you to deliver a good apology. If you don't, you hurt the person a second time and make things even worse.

Forgiveness

Why Does an Apology Have to Take So Long?

Molly Howes Ph.D. on December 10, 2020

You might have said you're sorry, but that's not a full apology—yet! The whole conversation takes time.

You might have said you're sorry, but that's not a full apology—yet! The whole conversation takes time.

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How to Recognize—and Respond to—a Fake Apology

Molly Howes Ph.D. on October 23, 2020

Before accepting an apology, you first have to determine if it is (or isn't) genuine. Looking for these key signs can help.

Before accepting an apology, you first have to determine if it is (or isn't) genuine. Looking for these key signs can help.

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What’s the Hardest Part of Making an Apology?

Molly Howes Ph.D. on September 22, 2020

The most difficult part of an apology is getting started, which involves purposely shifting your perspective toward the other person's experience.

The most difficult part of an apology is getting started, which involves purposely shifting your perspective toward the other person's experience.

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A Public Apology by St. Paul’s School Looks Like a Good One

Molly Howes Ph.D. on August 31, 2020

Some public apologies begin the healing for those harmed. Others, not so much. Good apologies take responsibility and make real changes.

Some public apologies begin the healing for those harmed. Others, not so much. Good apologies take responsibility and make real changes.

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Nope, What Rep. Yoho Said Was Not an Apology

Molly Howes Ph.D. on August 1, 2020

Rep. Yoho’s recent statement resembled an apology to Rep. Ocasio-Cortez, but it wasn’t one — or, at least, it wasn't a good one.

Rep. Yoho’s recent statement resembled an apology to Rep. Ocasio-Cortez, but it wasn’t one — or, at least, it wasn't a good one.

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Good Apologies Seem Impossible

Molly Howes Ph.D. on July 11, 2020

It’s really hard to make a good apology, but you can learn to do it.

It’s really hard to make a good apology, but you can learn to do it.

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One Step Toward a Racial Apology

Molly Howes Ph.D. on June 3, 2020

In this moment of heartbreak about the killing of African Americans, the search for greater justice and equity should include a national call for reparations for slavery.

In this moment of heartbreak about the killing of African Americans, the search for greater justice and equity should include a national call for reparations for slavery.

Forgiveness

How Not to Say 'I'm Sorry'

Molly Howes Ph.D. on May 15, 2020

Many of us don’t know how to say a responsible “I’m sorry." Here are the best ways to ensure that the other person won’t feel better after your statement of regret.

Many of us don’t know how to say a responsible “I’m sorry." Here are the best ways to ensure that the other person won’t feel better after your statement of regret.

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The Top 15 Myths About Apologies

Molly Howes Ph.D. on May 5, 2020

Do you recognize your own assumptions in these common misconceptions?

Do you recognize your own assumptions in these common misconceptions?