Why “The Law of Attraction” Is Problematic and Dangerous

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The Law of Attraction is a popular concept that suggests that people can manifest their desires and bring positive experiences into their lives by thinking positively about their goals. The idea has been popularized in books, movies, and online resources and is often promoted as a way for people to improve their lives and achieve success. However, there are several reasons why believing in the Law of Attraction can be problematic and potentially dangerous.

Blame and Shame

A major concern with the Law of Attraction is its inclination to place blame on and beget fault-finding in individuals who are not able to manifest their desires. Someone who concludes that their negative experiences are the result of their own negative thoughts and attitudes may feel guilty or ashamed for not being able to change their circumstances. Resulting feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem can ultimately discourage people from taking action to improve their lives.

Further, the Law of Attraction can be used to justify inaction. People who believe that they can bring about what they want by thinking positively may be less likely to take concrete steps to achieve their goals—a sure barrier to reaching any goals.

Ends Justifying the Means

An unethical person can use the Law of Attraction to justify harmful and unethical behavior, such as when an “authority figure” blames a vulnerable person (especially in a cult) for developing an illness like diabetes or even being mugged or raped. Some proponents of the Law of Attraction say it is a “law.” It is not. It is magical thinking. The underlying belief is that people have God-like power and can control things, from the weather to how much money they can make to attracting their ideal partner.

The system echoes the workings of a cult. A cult may not use the term “law of attraction,” but the belief is the same. There are groups that tell followers that if they repeat its mantra or chant or prayer with pure intention, God can and will grant miracles, such as obtaining a car, being cured of cancer, or finding a husband. And when the desired goal doesn’t manifest, the member may be blamed for not being pure enough and told that they must work harder and commit more time to the group.

Similarly, multi-level marketing groups sell people on the belief that they can become millionaires by following the leadership and the books and tapes they recommend buying. However, statistics say that 99% of people engaging in MLMs lose money. Members of such schemes are taught to believe that doubts are harmful and a form of self-sabotage. Such organizations, which take on many of the trappings of a cult, may insist that subscribers cut off contact with anyone who is skeptical, even if it is a close family member or partner. Some cults call critics “dream stealers.”

Positive thinking and positive visualization can be great when used wisely, with reality testing.

Opening the Door to Charlatans

Such systems open the door wide to manipulators, who can use the Law of Attraction belief to exploit particularly vulnerable people—those who have experienced trauma, a death, illness, relationship breakup, loss of a job, or moving to a new city, state, or country. In other words, anyone experiencing significant life stressors.

When people feel anxious, depressed, confused, or overwhelmed, the critical thinking part of the brains goes offline. Someone who claims to be a healer, a spiritual figure, a therapist, a coach, or a political leader who speaks with certainty can exercise undue influence. People must be encouraged to become educated consumers and learn how not to trust a celebrity influencer.

While the Law of Attraction may be well-intentioned, it can be problematic and potentially dangerous and is particularly poised to exploit those who are already stressed. It is important to be critical of the Law of Attraction and to approach it with a healthy dose of skepticism. Instead of relying solely on the Law of Attraction, individuals should focus on taking action and working towards their goals while also being mindful of the well-being of others. It’s also essential to seek professional help when needed and not feel guilty for being unable to manifest desires.