The Modern Sex Therapist

Relationships

Why Couples Fall Out of Love

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on April 1, 2024

What happens when you are no longer sexually attracted to your partner but still want to be? This article breaks down the cycles couples fall into and how to break each one.

What happens when you are no longer sexually attracted to your partner but still want to be? This article breaks down the cycles couples fall into and how to break each one.

Pornography

How Society Is Associating Sex in Porn With Sex in Real Life

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on February 7, 2024

People are correlating sex in porn with sex in real life. Let's discuss the sexual challenges that are caused by unrealistic sexual expectations and how to work through them.

People are correlating sex in porn with sex in real life. Let's discuss the sexual challenges that are caused by unrealistic sexual expectations and how to work through them.

Sex

Getting Real With Sex After Pregnancy

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on February 21, 2023

With sex after pregnancy, there may be questions, apprehensions, and, most commonly, a lack of sexual desire. Here are a few tips to help you embrace your body and inner sexuality.

With sex after pregnancy, there may be questions, apprehensions, and, most commonly, a lack of sexual desire. Here are a few tips to help you embrace your body and inner sexuality.

Sex

Overcoming the Sexual Pressures of Valentine's Day

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on January 24, 2023

Valentine's Day comes with the societal pressure to be coupled up and be sexually active. Here are a few suggestions on how to overcome Valentine’s Day pressures.

Valentine's Day comes with the societal pressure to be coupled up and be sexually active. Here are a few suggestions on how to overcome Valentine’s Day pressures.

Misinformation can get in the way of having pleasurable sex. It's time to set the record straight.

Mating

How Couples With Major Age Gaps Make It Work

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on July 13, 2021

Dating someone of a different age comes with its own challenges. Here are some of the most common ones and how to work with them.

Dating someone of a different age comes with its own challenges. Here are some of the most common ones and how to work with them.

Sex

The Secret to Making Scheduled Sex Work

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on July 6, 2021

Who wants to have sex when they feel it is a task on their to-do list? Here are a few tips from a sex therapist on how to make scheduled sex work.

Who wants to have sex when they feel it is a task on their to-do list? Here are a few tips from a sex therapist on how to make scheduled sex work.

Masturbation may help boost your well-being and improve sex with your partner.

Stress

3 Ways to Increase Your Libido While Decreasing Your Stress

Melinda DeSeta Ph.D. on March 23, 2021

The number one libido killer is stress. Here are three tips to help you decrease your stress levels while increasing your sex drive.

The number one libido killer is stress. Here are three tips to help you decrease your stress levels while increasing your sex drive.

Every couple experiences sexual complacency at some point. A few tips could help you experience your best sex life.